I was standing in office. A person who is acting solution architect. Purpose us “how to conduct session in right way”. And why it is important to do things in this way. My another fallow colleague is little aggressive nature. Also wanted to prove himself. He wanted to drive things by his own way. He also have THE cons and pros his approach of work. Both wanted to share their opinion And more importantly, How things need to be done and required form top management. Both tried to argue. But as result heated debate. I was silent. Just listen and Ignore. Later one of guy was also angry with me, why I did not support him. And why not I tried to clear the situation. But I was just listen and ignore.
At that time I was concluded that both these guys have no authority to dictate us how to do work. Or We need to work in specific way.
How top management instructed us, we have to do things in their way. We have to follow. What if I do things in different but better way. Will our work is acceptable to management. They have to judge things in their own point of way, and we want to do things according to their requirement, or as compare.
These two people were just trying to share their experience. We did work in that way and it was working. And they fought to explain that things would need to done in this specific way.
But my experience said that we have to work according to requirement of management.
If you don’t have position or authority. Either you are subject matter or not. Keep silent, spoke only if asked. If you have position of power. People listen to you. In Punjabi we said
” Jadya gahar daanay othaye kaamaly we saayanaye”.
If you are nothing or low in ranking, no body listen to you. So You need to get position, try to take more responsibility, prove yourself and get position of authority. If you did not have position, If they ask you your opinion. Give them otherwise keep silent. Unfortunate sad truth is, world saw wealth and position before listen to other person. We have to follow the same.
Second point is it important to justify yourself, why to do things in specific way. My way is better than you. Why I am doing this and due to certain reason. Why we need to prove ourselves.
Third point, if some person want to share his opinion to you. Listen him with respect. But ignore him. Simple strategy is heard but not listen. There are noises in environment. But we did not listen these noises. We just listen those sound, which we want to give attention. There is no benefit to focus or give attention to everyone. Always focus on priority.
Dont waste time to share your opinion, until asked, Follow the authority, Ignore all, others just distraction. If you want people listen yourself, prove yourself and try to get position and go up to corporate ladder .. Get position and people follow you.
