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What is the middle way?

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The whole night, I couldn’t sleep. Memories of the past and thoughts about the future kept coming into my mind. Sometimes I simply floated with the waves of thought. At other times, I gave too much power to certain memories, and I could feel the stress building inside me.

Then I tried to return to the present moment. A kind of Zen mindset came over me.

In the deep silence of the night, when everyone else was sleeping, I just lay there. The next two days felt long. I slept a lot and didn’t feel like doing anything.

But there was another problem: when I stayed completely in the present moment, time seemed to move painfully slowly. I would stare at the floor and listen to the constant hum of the split AC. What do you do with yourself in such moments?

If I stayed only in the present, time barely moved. But if I allowed myself to drift into thoughts—positive or negative—time passed quickly. The problem was that wandering too deeply into the past often left me sad, and sometimes even a little angry.

So I began wondering: What is the middle way?

Perhaps the middle way is not to stop thinking, but to become more conscious of which thoughts we choose to give our attention to.

Pick the good memories. Give them some space. Revisit them.

Count your blessings.

I remembered something from the book Chaali Din: why do we keep collecting the thorny memories from our past? Why do we hold on so tightly to the moments that hurt us while allowing the beautiful ones to fade away?

My wandering mind began to calm when I deliberately turned toward beautiful memories.

I started counting my blessings—the things life has given me, the things I have achieved, the people who have valued me, the moments when someone special gave me their time and attention.

Maybe we cannot stop the mind from wandering.

But perhaps we can choose the garden in which we allow it to wander.

You Are Responsible for Your Actions, Not for Another Person’s Mind

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Many times in life, we struggle because the results of our actions do not match our expectations. We do our best, yet people react in ways we never intended. At those moments, we begin to wonder, “Am I responsible for what is going on in another person’s mind?”

For a long time, I believed that if someone felt uncomfortable because of me, then I must be responsible for it. Over time, however, I realized that this is only partly true.

Our words and actions create situations, but they do not completely determine how other people think, feel, or behave. Every person interprets the world through the lens of their own experiences, beliefs, values, fears, and expectations. The same action can produce completely different reactions in different people.

I experienced this at my workplace.

The office had a relaxed and friendly environment. As a newcomer, I was naturally curious and would often look around while walking through the workspace, trying to familiarize myself with the office and the people. Later, I noticed that a few female colleagues seemed uncomfortable when I was nearby. Some changed where they sat, avoided eye contact, or appeared uneasy.

When I became aware of this, I reflected on my own behavior. I realized that although I had no inappropriate intention, my habit of looking around the office might have been interpreted differently. So I changed what was within my control. While walking through the office, I focused only on where I was going. When speaking with someone, I looked at their face or at the work being discussed instead of letting my eyes wander.

Making that change was my responsibility because my behavior was within my control.

But another question remained: Am I responsible for how other people think about me?

I don’t believe so.

People’s thoughts and feelings are influenced by far more than my actions. They are shaped by their personal experiences, upbringing, cultural expectations, previous encounters, and individual perceptions. I cannot control those things, nor should I try.

What I can control is my own conduct. I can be respectful, considerate, and professional. If I discover that one of my habits unintentionally makes others uncomfortable, I can change that habit. But once I have acted with integrity and corrected what is within my control, I must let go of what is not.

This is an important distinction.

I am responsible for my intentions, my words, and my actions.

I am not responsible for every thought, assumption, emotion, or judgment that another person forms about me.

Understanding this difference brings peace. It allows us to improve ourselves without carrying the impossible burden of managing other people’s minds.

The Power of Choosing a Few Things

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I want to do many things in life.

I want to become fluent in AI tools. I want to learn Python so I can build my own AI agents. I want to improve my communication skills. I want to read books and study material that help me grow. I want to learn sales and self-development so I can become a better pre-sales engineer. I want to write every day to become a stronger writer. I want to create YouTube videos.

The truth is, I can do many things—but I cannot do everything.

Time is limited.

As I enter what may be my final working decade, I feel the weight of that reality more than ever. Every new interest competes for the same finite hours.

This is where Stoic philosophy offers an important reminder: focus on what matters and what is within your control.

We cannot control how much time we have, but we can control where we direct our attention.

As Seneca wrote:

“It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste much of it.”

He also warned:

“To be everywhere is to be nowhere.”

Even though I understand the shortness of time and the importance of setting priorities, my mind still wants to do everything at once.

This is where Buddhist philosophy comes to mind.

Much of our suffering comes from attachment—including attachment to the idea that we must do everything, learn everything, and become everything.

Letting go of that attachment creates space for clarity.

The power of focusing on a few meaningful actions is also reflected in Islamic teachings. The Prophet Muhammad ﷺ said:

“The most beloved deeds to Allah are those that are consistent, even if they are small.”

The lesson is simple: consistency matters more than intensity.

I do not need to chase every opportunity or master every skill.

Instead, I need to detach myself from outcomes, choose a few priorities, and invest my limited time in them consistently.

Most importantly, I should focus on the skills that align with my profession and long-term purpose. When my learning supports my work, each effort strengthens the others.

Less scattered effort. More meaningful progress.

The goal is not to do everything.

The goal is to do the right things—well.

How to Avoid Dream Killer I Dreams I Consultant Mindset I Doubts I Motivation I Success

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You can never cross the ocean unless you have the courage to lose sight of the shore.

—Christopher Columbus

Hey, guys hope you are doing great. Welcome back to the consultant mindset. All of us have dreams. We dream of some things at some point in our lives. I’m sure you guys must have some goals as well. If yes, then let me know in the comment section. Whenever we want to decide to get something; the fear of failure starts kicking in our bodies. There is no doubt in it that we all have great dreams and want to achieve them. But some people begin to face challenges and hardships in fulfilling their dreams. How do we overcome those challenges?

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We may face them at every point in our lives. Self-doubt is something that slowly poisons your elf esteem. It extracts your ability to achieve anything. It makes you think that you are not capable of doing anything. Having such thoughts make you vulnerable to failure and low self-esteem. Why would you overthink every step of the process? Why can’t we just trust the process and go with the flow?

Our body is mainly controlled by our brains. What do we want to do? What do we want to achieve in our life? All of such questions are controlled by our brains. Your body listens to the command of your brain. In short, it’s all about the mindsets. In the end, the thing that matters is how strong your mindset is. Your body mimics the action of the brain. If you feel sad, your body starts releasing some hormones that will make you feel sorrowful. Whenever you are happy and excited, you feel an enormous adrenaline rush that makes you feel happy. That is how the brain and body work in coordination. If your mindset is all about self-doubts and low self-esteem, then you never gonna achieve anything in your life. You have to change your mindset. Thinking that you won’t be able to face this hardship and difficulty will eventually make you not face it. If you have confidence in yourself, you can even conquer the world. Successful people have the strongest mindsets. You should always lift yourself by saying if they can do it then why not me? 

How is self-doubt worse than failure?

It is definitely because of this fact that whenever we fail we know we have given it a try. We have even prepared ourselves to go towards our goal. But when we have self-doubts we are less likely to achieve anything. Having self-doubts means that you don’t have tried even to head towards your dreams. You are just sitting there doing nothing. Overthinking the useless stuff that I can’t do it. Many low self-esteemed people have this illness that they don’t even give a try. For example, if I assign them a difficult, they will just quit before even trying. Being scared of the outcomes and failures, they will just give up. 

However, failures teach us many things. They make us formidable enough to combat the self-doubts and low self-confidence. They make us rise stronger even. I don’t get over the fact that why people are afraid of failure. Most successful people have achieved things after facing tons of failures.  Like Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Mark Zuckerberg and many more prominent personalities. They got success after defeating tons of failures. 

Whenever we are doing something big the doubting process is normal to occur. We may face self-doubts and feelings of low accomplishment but the focus is not to let this fear stop us. You may feel anxious; you may feel stressed out; you may feel afraid and frightened. All of these emotions are normal and are the body’s responses to a stressed-out condition. The only thing that has to be understood is to never let these emotions stop you from achieving your goals. Doubting one’s ability is quite normal but running away from them isn’t. You should have the courage to deal with those self-doubts. 

How can we Answer those Self-Doubts?

The best possible way to answer those self-doubts is to face them. Head towards those goals that are making you doubt your abilities. Just give those goals a wild answer by achieving them. That these goals are not enough to validate my skills and aptitudes. Often we doubt our personalities mainly because of our past experiences but we should not let our past ruin our future. The beauty of sunshine illuminating the whole planet is matchless. Likewise, success acts as a light in the ocean of failures. making you feel a sense of accomplishment and victory. Failures play a role in the establishment as long as they are considered a part of success. If they are considered as an endpoint, then one is unable to prevail through the journey of success.

The most important step in believing in yourself is to first realize your abilities. What have you got? And then rest your beliefs in those aptitudes. Explore your true abilities and make a change. When you get to know about your potential, the next step is to believe in them. The initial step will be difficult but as soon as you start you will make through it. Exploring oneself is necessary. Firstly explore what you want in your life? Then build yourself to achieve them.

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