Many times in life, we feel, depress low and disappointed. not because you did not welcome a lot things in life, but not due to saying no what is not important too.
Is it life really all about saying No or yes. Or all about priority Lets discuss this.
If we talk about Stoic Philosophy Seneca said that “It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it.” It means, we waste a lot of time in task or things, which has no value. If you want to live well, you have to restrict a few things.
“Part of the perfection of one’s Islam is leaving what does not concern him.”
(Hadith – Tirmidhi)
In my life, there was time, when I said everything yes. As result I become some ones else life priorities. The mental stress I face, when I try to make happy those people who think and prove that they are better than me. And I feel very low after that. Its natural. That is not a problem. In some sense they are right. Their sense of superiority lies in suppressing mine.
Later, I realized that life is really about priorities.
But something interesting happens when we set our priorities: we automatically start saying no to many things. Buddah said that “You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
The truth is that all of us have limited time and limited resources. Because of this, we must learn to organize and use them wisely.
Similarly there is hadith
“Your body has a right over you, your family has a right over you.”
(Hadith – Bukhari)
This hadith also remind us the balance and boundaries.
Sometimes people come to us asking for help. If we have the time, we should help them. But if we don’t, it is perfectly okay to say sorry. We should not sacrifice important tasks that truly matter to us just to avoid saying no. Buddisim teaching “Better than a thousand hollow words is one word that brings peace.” When we say no to something, we are actually saying yes to many things that are more important to us.
The reality of life is simple:
We cannot say yes to everything.
We cannot accept every opportunity.
We cannot do everything.
But there are a few things we can do extremely well if we focus on them.
In the end, saying no is not rejection. It is simply a way of saying yes to what truly matters.
Yesterday, I was in the company of friends. One of my friends shared an idea about setting up a food stall at the corner of the local market. We told him it was risky. Then, another friend mentioned his plan to change careers. He had already found an opportunity, but we told him it was too risky. Later, another friend shared his weekend plan to visit a hill station. We warned him that it’s risky these days. Late at night, as I was coming home from work, I thought about visiting the local park for a walk. But my mind reminded me: “It’s midnight—it’s risky.” The next day, my son told me he wanted to start riding a bike. His mother immediately said, “You’re too young—it’s risky.” Another friend confided in us about his dream to visit the mountains and climb the highest peak in our country. I told him, “That’s too risky.” Even one of the young kids I know opened up about his crush, wondering if he should talk to her. He hesitated, thinking, it’s risky. That evening, I reflected on all these moments. “What is risky?” I asked myself. Everything seems risky. Our minds often focus on the dangers, the failures, the rejections, or the losses. But what if we thought differently?
What if we succeeded? What if the food stall became a thriving business? What if a career change brought growth and fulfillment? What if visiting the hill station brought peace and adventure? What if climbing that mountain brought happiness, joy, and a sense of accomplishment? Of course, there’s always risk. But isn’t not taking the risk an even bigger one?
Do you also suffer from procrastination or the sticky habits of overeating? Are you having a tough time removing such bad habits from life? If yes, then you are at the right place to eliminate such habits. Habits are classified into good and bad ones and people try to keep themselves away from the bad ones. Everyone has certain kinds of habits either bad for them or good. There is this famous saying that when there are two wolves one in the dark and the other in the light. Which one will grow? The one you feed. Likewise, the bad habits become stronger and harder to leave when you keep pounding your head on them to make them firm. There is a famous American scientist Dr.BJ Fogg who has developed a framework to quit bad habits and his framework includes three elements motivation, ability and triggers all of which are discussed in this video.
Habits, like always delaying your important tasks, checking your phones in the meeting, and always snoozing alarms, can damage your reputation and make you turn into the villain of your own story. In this video, we will explore why we even develop habits?
The development of a habit entirely involves the psychological part of our body. The formation of either bad or good habits is related to the psychology of our brain. When we tend to repeat our tasks all day every day it becomes a memory of our brain and it tends to do it repetitively and automatically. Those habits become part of your unconscious brain and they begin to perform those activities without any initiative. For instance, drinking caffeine daily in the morning will become your habit and you will get irritated and annoyed when you won’t be able to have it on some random day. That’s how bad habits affect our mental health and lure us to think that we have been on the right path. Bad habits are part of the unconscious brain so it is hard to spot them. The pleasure you get from performing bad habits makes it harder for an individual to leave them instantly.
The bad habits are difficult to quit but they are not impossible to leave. Let us dig into some ways to overcome bad habits.
Identifying the cause of your habit
The best way to solve a problem is to find the root cause of that problem. Identifying which one of the factors is causing that habit to form and process is a necessary part of quitting that peculiar habit. How do we identify the cause of bad habits? Begin to analyze your schedule and your day-to-day activities that which are those activities which are stimulating such habits. For instance, some people have a habit of smoking, now you have to analyze which factors are triggering smoking. Most individuals start smoking just to fight stress and depression. In order to overcome such habits, people tend to involve them with bad habits of overeating, alcohol consumption and smoking. After finding the triggers to your habits, try to stay away from such triggers. When you have enough self-awareness about yourself, you will try to stay away from such triggers.
Use replacements
There is one psychologist named Shawn Achor who prefers to put obstacles in the way of your bad habits so it may become easy for you to get rid of them. For instance, if you have a bad habit of repeatedly checking your Instagram then you can try to remove this habit by uninstalling the application. When we are constantly involved in a task, it becomes our unintentional habit and muscle memory to do that. If you have a bad habit of gossiping about people at work, you can avoid it by playing any game in that particular lunchtime. You can always use replacements and tactics to avoid certain bad habits. You can also flip the bad habits by using them into positive ones so you may keep yourself away from harm. How can you do it? If you have a bad habit of criticising people, try praising them instead for their little good habits. You can always replace the bad habits with the good ones when you have proper self-awareness.
Reward yourself
A sense of accomplishment is acknowledged only when it is awarded with some reward. In order to make yourself good about breaking the habit, it is necessary that you start acknowledging your progress. Rewarding yourself with little treats releases a sense of accomplishment and makes you feel more motivated. For constant motivation to give up on your habits, it is necessary to stay dedicated and consistent. Start to associate yourself with all the good habits by realising all the good rewards at your destination. The quench of seeking your favourite reward at the end will help you remain dedicated.
Concluding the whole video, bad habits are not impossible to give up on. We can always look for some better ways to overcome our fears and bad habits. We hope you guys enjoyed this video. For more interesting content, Don’t forget to like, share and subscribe to our channel. Thank you.
Don’t forget to reward yourself at the end of the accomplishment of quitting a habit. This will keep you dedicated and consistent.
Hey guys, welcome back to the consultant mindset. I hope you guys are doing great. Addictions are something that is hard to overcome, even by practising multiple remedies. There are several types of addiction, which may include smoking addiction, drug addiction, vaping addiction, or even nicotine addiction. In this video, we will talk about multiple ways in which we can overcome smoking habits. Are you a smoker? If yes, then you are going to find this video informative for quitting it. Quitting smoking is a hell of a big task, whether you are an occasional smoker or a chronic smoker. An addiction is never easy to overcome, specifically when it is nicotine- or tobacco-related. Smoking has not only physiological impacts but also adverse impacts on one’s mental health. The main ingredient in tobacco is nicotine, and nicotine has chronic effects on users’ health. Nicotine directly impacts your nervous system, causing it to release dopamine, which is the happy hormone. Why do people become addicted to it? The mere reason for becoming addicted to tobacco smoke is its ultimate impact on mental well-being. According to some surveys, people have various reasons for smoking. For instance, some people smoke to cope with depression, anxiety, and stress so they can provide themselves with mental relief. Some individuals opted for smoking as a fashion, while others started it under the influence of their bad company.
Is smoking a daily ritual? The answer to this question is definitely yes. People have developed an instinct for smoking; they have unintentionally included smoking as a part of their daily activities. For instance, some people have included smoking in their breakfast routine, while others have included it in their coffee routine. In order to gain a full stop to smoking, you need to identify the routes of habit and the triggers that are ultimately causing you to smoke drastically. It is nearly impossible to quit smoking immediately, but it can be done in phases and gradually. Let’s dig into the video to find out some useful ways to overcome the chronic habit of smoking.
To keep track of your smoking, several questions need to be answered. For instance, you have to ask yourself questions like, Are you a heavy smoker? Or are you an occasional smoker? Are there certain activities or people associated with this habit? Do you buy cigarettes when you are feeling down or stressed out? All of these factors are to be taken into account so that your smoking routine can be traced. After having answers to these questions, the strategy to quit smoking will take place.
Avoid triggers
Tiggers are those products that aggravate your need to smoke. For instance, alcohol, e-cigarettes, people who smoke around you, or the end of any meal People who smoke around you make it challenging for you to quit smoking, so try to stay away from such people or else publicly announce your decision to quit smoking so that smokers won’t smoke around you. Some people develop this habitual thing of making themselves light at the end of every meal with the help of cigarettes. However, this meal-lightening strategy needs to be replaced with fruit or some kind of dessert. If there is a peculiar kind of trauma that triggers your depression to inhale smoke, try to avoid such gatherings or such conversations. You just have to be self-aware of yourself so that you can avoid environmental triggers to prevent yourself from developing this addiction. Are you guys aware of your triggers? If yes, then let me know in the comment section.
Chew on it.
The main goal of quitting smoking is to give your mouth something distracting so that it may not crave smoke. In order to solve this dilemma, it is highly recommended to begin chewing gum or lozenges in its place. This way, you will trick your brain into chewing gum or candy and stay away from tobacco smoke.
Don’t have “just one.”
In the journey of rehabilitation, various thoughts in your mind provoke you to take just one last cigarette. You don’t have to fool yourself into such vicious thoughts because the circle goes on and on and you never get to quit smoking tobacco. So try to overcome that “one last cigarette,” because it’s just a foolish act to destroy yourself.
Get physical
Engage yourself in physical activities, which can aid you in overcoming your tobacco smoking habits. Try running, doing workouts, and going upstairs and downstairs in your office, which can help you engage yourself while keeping you away from the craving for smoke.
Try relaxation methods.
Some people have seen the aggravation of smoking due to increased stress and mental health issues. Try some relaxing activities like yoga, massage, meditation, and deep breathing so that you can keep yourself away from stress, which ultimately prevents you from smoking.
Seek moral support from family and friends.
Ask your family members or friends to regularly support you in quitting smoking. The moral support helps you boost your mental and physical courage. Mental power is extremely important to fight anything. The restrictions exist only in our minds, so break those boundaries and overcome your fears.
Remind yourself of the benefits.
Start journaling about your journey and all the blessings you have received so far. When you keep track of your assets, you are less likely to fall and leap behind. The bounties give you the motivation to overcome all the possible addictions. When you remember the benefits, like getting healthy, feeling better, saving money, and saving your life, you eventually feel worthy of doing the hard stuff.
Try nicotine replacement therapy.
The nicotine replacement therapy requires the aid of medical and professional healthcare. You can buy lozenges, gums, nicotine patches, or prescribed non-nicotine stop-smoking drugs such as bupropion.
Manage cravings
Whenever you crave a cigarette, try applying suppressive strategies like distracting yourself by watching TV, using the phone, or spending time with family. Get out of the tempting situation and remember why you started the whole journey.
Reward yourself
A brain works better when it is rewarded for performing a certain task. This reward works as motivation to keep going on your journey.
Concluding the whole video, smoking is injurious to health, and its addiction is difficult to overcome. By following these strategies, you can easily quit smoking. Stay tuned for more interesting content.
