Month: March 2023

6 ways to see the glass as half full

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Brian Tracy states, “Optimism is the quality more associated with success and happiness than any other”. A human is a rational creature. He always has this scenario that his future will be better than his past and present. Thinking that his children are overly intelligent, his business will be prosperous, and his undying hope of never getting divorced in a marriage is all part of the optimistic human brain. The belief of almost every human being on this planet to think that the future will be better than the present and past is called optimism bias. Seeing the glass half full is a victorious approach and leads you to see opportunities. Pessimism kills opportunities.

 Is optimism hardwired?

Optimism is something inbuilt into the human race. We tend to abide by all the positivity and hope in our life situations. It is thought to be part of evolution. We tend to think and imagine all constructive scenarios. We never think about the destructive things that can end our careers or academics. Optimism is hardwired into human brains since birth. We hope for the best; try our best; give our best. There was a survey conducted in 2005  revealed the existence of optimism in young children as well as adults. It was thought-provoking.

There are many examples in our surroundings of the optimistic approach.

For example, there were two friends John and Kevin. They both gave trials for the national football team. But they failed to get into the team. the character of John is someone who always looks for hope in the mountain of rubble. In contrast, Kevin is someone who always thinks of contradictory situations. Kevin is someone who never gets hopeful and confident about the situation.  John thought of trying harder next year and getting on the football team with more enthusiasm. The coach gave him an excellent feedback that he used as fuel to burn more fiercely next time. Kevin didn’t make use of that and remained a failure. Who is more likely to practice more and try again? Is it Kevin or John?

If you ever want to bring change, it starts with yourself. If we mentally prepare ourselves to do one thing, we can achieve anything in the world. A mentally strong person can conquer the world. An optimistic mind is a sign of a strong belief. Being an optimist motivates you to keep going forward. It’s a skill you can develop with time and patience.

            “  Part of being optimistic is keeping one’s head pointed towards the Sun, and one’s feet moving forward.”  Nelson Mandela

I have said a lot about optimism. Let’s just develop ways to practice optimism and see things as a glass half full. 

Think and talk continually about your goals

An optimist will always think about the future without letting himself dwell in the past. He always thinks in the best lights and scenarios. Why do we burn ourselves in the agony of past mistakes? Either we should let them go or learn from them. The past is not gonna come ever. Let the bygones be bygones. An optimistic approach never sticks to past mistakes. Instead, it aims at learning from those mistakes. Human psychology plays a crucial role in determining your health status. The more you are hopeful towards things; the lesser the chances of deterioration of your health. Think about your goals and analyze your present position. It’s never too late to become triumphant. 

Always look for the solution 

Honestly speaking we have become a lazy generation. This laziness doesn’t let us achieve anything. We love our comfort zone and we tend to choose it every time. People having the potential of doing something are also restricted to their zones these days. We cannot achieve our goals until we leave our comfort zones. Success is not something that can be achieved by doing parties and resting all the time. It demands hard work, dedication and consistency. A lazy mind never looks for the solution to problems. A lazy person here is depicted as a pessimist. If one plan fails then he will not look for an alternate. He will just consider it destiny and will return to his comfortable couch. Whenever an optimist becomes stuck in a problem the first question that arises in his mind is:

What’s the plan B now? What can I do to make it better? 

Try finding ways. You will surely come up with something. It is better to have something in your hands than nothing. Practising these things will change your mindset one day eventually. An optimist person takes the initiative immediately and starts working on it. They don’t wait for things to happen; they make things happen. Quit making excuses and try to be a more practical person.

Avoid pessimism 

The counterpart to every emotion exists in this universe. Where there is love there is hate. Similarly where there is optimism; there is pessimism. Choose your company wisely. Friends and family play a vital role in building your self-esteem and confidence. If you are by chance unfortunate then these two can help you destruct your self-esteem as well. So try to be cautious about choosing your people. Never let anyone ruin your positive energy. If anyone brings negative energy by complaining about people and worldly things then kick them out instantly. 

“To be of good quality, you have to excuse yourself from the presence of shallow and callow-minded individuals” Michael Bassey

Body language matters 

A person’s body language tells a lot about his personality and mindset. A person with a dull and low-witted mindset will always have deep down shoulders and head facing the ground like he is the culprit of some undone crime. Whereas a confident person is always chinned up with broad shoulders facing the audience. These gestures throw a positive impression towards the audience making them think that you are a highly self-esteemed individual. If you are a beginner, you may be reluctant to do it. But still do it anyway. Fake it till you make it.

Laughter is a wine for the soul

A good laugh can help you heal a lot of hurts. Why do comedians live longer than normal people? It is just because they are masters at presenting everything humorous. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh frequently. Or just become a comedian. I think that does not cost much. According to a study at Maryland university, it is revealed that laughing helps increase blood flow. It helps reduce the risk of coronary diseases. It releases endorphins that reduce your cravings, stress, and anxiety and makes you feel cheerful. When there are this many benefits of laughing. Then what are you guys waiting for?

Exercise 

It not only keeps you in shape but also helps in releasing endorphins in the body. Endorphins are the happy hormones keeping you cheerful and optimistic all day. So what’s keeping you from exercising? Let’s do this, fellas!

Thanks for reading!

Facing the fear.

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Most of the time, I run away the competition. Whenever someone challenge. I avoid the conflict. Later people make fun of me. If I look back, I found multiple reason for that. One of them, I was not satisfied with myself.

Sometimes, I found, but little bit guilt still now is. Can I fight for someone, In their life I am just options. Like spare tier in car , worthless. I have much better than this. Now I feel guilt.  Sometimes I think, let it to be, Let them happens to be.

Most of the time, I avoid the conflict due I have a fear of failing. What If I defeated. Actually, If I did not go in conflict, I already fail. And most importantly, I did not reorganize myself. I did not found that I have important position, But others things that I am competitor.

What is meaning of competition. Competition, happens between two people or more, who are trying to chase same thing or goal. What if, one of two competitor, don’t have same goal. Sometimes happens to me, things goals are not worthless.

But recently I face one of strange thing in my life. The great realization. Directly or un directly, if you did not face competition, You will ultimately lost. Everybody thinks about him or herself. And as result  if you will lose your wroth.

Second competition is good thing, It let you know your worth, helps you to improve. Even if you fail, you did not have regret.  Even if you are indirectly in competition. Then you have to understand your position. Your worth. And why that person feel competition. And If you lose that competition, what you lost in that conflict.

The only thing, understand yourself. Your worth, Your true potential. Where you should be. What’s in you from others feel competition.

No problem, just start from now. I just started. Note down all your strength. Write down all your weakness.

But start working only those weakness, that hurdle in your success. Because we can not work on all of our weakness. And even working on weakness, we can make midcore level strength. But if we work on our strength. We make it excellence.

You have to understand, why other feel competition.  What target goal, he wants to achieve. There is possible something which you ignored, but worth to compete.

My friends, people did not give path, you have to make your way in. And that is it way,

But more importantly, know what you want is more important, what other want and you are crossing their way.

Because, always chose the right battle.

What is problem. Why in stress

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Our thoughts creates stress.  From last couple of days I am facing high blood pressure. Blood pressure not alarming level. But need to focus on. So what are the reason for Blood pressure I am facing. I found I have stress.

  • Creativity stress
  • When I start to writing by my own. It creates pain in head.
  • Expectation too much
  • Fitness problem.
  • Financial problems.
  • Office work how to complete.
  • Learning curve.
  • Arabic learning challenge.

Are these problem are bigger then me or I am bigger than them.

Most of the time problems happens only when we are not organize.

If we start organize and note down all those things that bother us. Our stress level will come down.

Our mind is tool, which remind us what is important. And if we did not complete those pending task. It will start create panic. So best way is Brain dump. As David Allen said that our mind is not storing ideas.

So we have to write it down somewhere. And then set priority. And start working on them one by one.

Whenever mind start to remind. We also have some progress. And this will not create.

Second way is to understand, not everything is not our control. We can just control what we can do. What will out is not control. And what we say. Take life as it is. Its ok. Third way is god make us capable enough to meet all those challenges.

Focus on yourself not others.

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My horoscope that if Don’t go for Errands. Errands means, Do something for someone else on behalf.

How accurate my horoscope said. Sometimes surprise myself. Most of the time, we wasted our time. Instead we focus how we need to finish our own task doing well. We start to judge and help others how they need to do things. Today happens the same. My boss present a single slide what he need to present to top management of client. I have a lot of things to do, to finish things up. But instead focusing my work  and make it better and better, I intentionally start helping him  that things should be in that way, he should improve his work and things need to change.  He never asked my opinion. I even don’t know who is target audience whom he will going to present. Neither I am responsible for what he is going to present. The only point I have in my mind, that he is going to present whole team, so I need to help him.

Then I saw my horoscope on Horosocope.com. I surprised, it is accurate, no need to consider what other do,  I have to just focus on my improvement. What best thing I had to do is, access the issues and limitation on other work and used this this input for my own work. There are two reason for that.  One is people did not like criticism. It hurts they ego and they become enemy. Even if asked, never give the opinion. Until, he or she is your best friend, where he or she understand, what you are saying is benefit for them. Even then try to avoid it.

Second. It is nice way to understand other weaknesses and instead give them feedback. You need to check, are these things in you. Improve it.

Life is continues process for learning. We can not help people, until they realize by themselves, what need to improve and how to improve. Our only duty to improve ourself. If 1 percent daily. Learn and Improve.