Month: December 2022

Stress is good or bad.

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Stress is good or bad, what you think. I think both. There is common saying. Excess of everything is bad. So overdose create problem.

Why Stress is good. Stress means caring. You are taking care of something. That will happen or require to happen. You put efforts and now result will come. or you take stress that I have to do something with care. If I am unable to do things what will happen. If I deliver something, It will properly deliver it.

But same time it will become bad if it is become habit. We start to busy as habit. For example overstress boiled our blood, problem of high blood pressure and heart attack. All these things result of taking stress.

Best way to take only tension of those things which we can control or which we can not control.

What other thinks about us, that is beyond our control. Why we stress.

but what we can improve, that need stress. Things we do with care, that need stress.

If we want to control stress. We need to focus on what we are thinking. Thought trigger stress. We can not control thought but we forcefully.

Find your spark.

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Every one has some hidden skill or hidden talent. You have to unlock that. I read somewhere In the US, people find their inner talent and then monetize these skills.

But some times we are so negative. Due to our inner self or due to what other talk or think about us. Some times our environment is so toxic they did not let you grow. They force their though pattern on you.

In famous 4 agreements book Author Miguel Ruiz. said that we have to cure these words. who are become part of our reality. Either domestication of our environment so we can work according to their wishes. Or our inner self talk did not stand us. Our fear system triggers thread form others people on our reaction and as result we start to say some stupid and negative words to us. We can not do that.

Now question is how we find our spark. That is simple. The thing we did not get bored. Find a think you did not get bored if you spent hours hours on it.

If you start to getting bored. It means you are not built for that task.

For example I love writing. I have to built habit to write daily something. I have to improve a lot. there are chances of spelling mistakes. Grammatical mistakes. But If I am going to improve. There are chances that I can start earning from it. I can monetized my blog. Or even I can provide services to different people to write content.

Nothing built in day. But in the longer run. More then 3 years, I start to earn money from it. You have to pay the price. You have to spent time. And a lot of wait.

Most important thing just start. Some one told me what if I start youtube channel 10 years ago. That was it was less crowded. My friend. Next best time is now. Just you need to start from some where.

How was your year, Mine was not bad

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One more year passed. All my goals goes in vain, Achieve nothing.

Do I am total failure or I have successes.

Yes, I have some successes. I survived the job.

Find a new job before finishing the old one.

I meet a lot of new friends.

I visited home.

But I am unable to reach my full potential.

I break many rules in life. My mismanagement leads me to debit.

I explore most of Dubai and Sharjah. I made a new friends, but same time, my loneliness increased a lot.

There is a lot of black and white. Do things black and white. Our thoughts make them black and white.

Do I change, what I did in 2022. No I can’t change. But what ever I wrote in 2022. I have to face it in 2023 and beyond.

But at the end of year, I can sit, analysis my mistakes and successes. Set a new goals and start working on in it 2023.

I read some where, Plan is nothing, but planning is everything.

I think, this year, give me confidence. Make me stress free. I enjoyed my alone life. But same time, I getting more distracted from my goals.

I tried my best that I did not do bad with any one. I tried not to hurt any one.

I feel this year is not bad.

Who am i.

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Issi talaash -o-tajassus mein Kho gaya  hun main , Agar nahi hun to kiyun’kar Jo hun to keya hun main

Who am i.

Most important and toughest journey is journey within. Who are you, What are you strength. What are your weakness.

What are your trigger points. From other they can control you. But there are more things. How I learn. How read.

Some people are reader. Some are listener. For getting good leader or manager you can also understand. Are you reader or Are you listener.

What are your values. Values lies what things you want in you. You qualities you want inside you. For this you have to do mirror check.

I listen one quwali. “Jaare lokakn nayee apny app nu jaan liaya, oh log juda hoo jandayee naayee”

Those who understand who are they, They are become different.

I read some where, what you do when you are alone, that is only your reality.

You have to accept your past mistakes, That helps you to peace. You have to embrace your flaws. That make you more beautiful. You have to accept yourself.

That is ultimate self love.

Be happy with being you. Love your flaws. Own your quirks. And know that you are just as perfect as anyone else, exactly as you are.

Ariana Grande

I was reading somewhere. In ancient time the words inscription at the temple of Oracle of Delphi “ Know yourself”.

I was sitting of my hindu friend, he talk about me all answer lie with in yourself. books, readings, knowledge generated layers on you. I was surpised that is same message what Baba bulleh shah told you. Then I feel. Possible what ever situation you have. What ever problem you face. You have to look inside you. What should you do.

I was listening Satu Guru, he told the same idea, Some one asked him Do he have knowledge of everything. He replied. he did not know everything. He just know himself. What ever question comes to him most of the time about life problems and situation. He put himself in that question and got all answers. What he should do and reply.

But here is another question. Would that answer 100 percent applicable to you. I am sure not. Because you are different form the rest of others. You have to know yourself. And remove all layers of knowledge and just seek answer with in yourself.

“Phar phar aalim fasal houon kaadif apnay aap nu parayha hee nahee”

Start talking just start talking

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Some times we want to talk. But no common point comes out. What to do at that time. First of thing is to just talk on random topic. Talk about in other persons interest.

Its good to avoid political and religious topic. You have to talk about food and restaurants.

Listen to them. At that time, most important point is talk on what other person think or plan. Ask question. Listen to them with focus and ask question what he or she talk about.

Try to encourage other to talk.

Why you consider what others said about you.

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I was in kitchen. My resign is accepted. I was in office and I got reply on email. Deliver these things and leave. He did not want to meet me. What ever is the reason. It is normal case.

When you did not have work for some one. Its better to layoff. I am facing the same problem from last one year. Any how its better for me.

In book winning Jack Welch said that, when need of a person completed. Or services for a person is not required. Fired him. Its good for him. both in terms of weight on companies expense and for him also. He will go outside and will find something good and will grow. In USA and European market they use better term Lay off.

I was in kitchen. Two sweet ladies form admin and HR standing in kitchen. HR lady make fun of me. Boss was so busy he did not consider to meet him. And then second lady spoke. Let him go, later we discuss and talk on this asshole. I enjoyed their conversation. I felt sad about those ladies and also for my self.

But why I considering their discussion. The Four agreement book Ruiz Don Miguel said, Second Agreement nothing take personal.

Its all about them. What they think of me. And they make fun of their organization not about me. They are making fun of owner of company not about me.

My friends. Every thing that hurts you has two solution. If you can change it do it. If you can not change it, just accept it.

Many times we hurt because our mind did not accept that fact. And when ever we start to resist it it starts to hurt us. So best way is accept it and stop resist it. It will pass.

What will happens, let it happens.

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I read about “connected the dots” theory by Steve Jobs. It simple means, we can not predict our future just day dreaming and thinking. We can only look into past and access how we face the challenges, How we deal with failures.

If you found similarity. Your future can be predict the same. Prediction is not 100 percent accurate. There is possibility you learned from your mistakes. You were not mature at that time. you vision was not bright as it was that time.

“Bulleh shah shaoo taanu milse dill no day dulaari”

Why I remember this couplet by baba bulleh shah because he mentioned, make your heart courageous.

I am facing the same problem. I am relocating to some other country and my heart is pumping. What will happens. Will be I successful . Or I will be fired. Because both these events exists in my past.

What should a person do, when there are both successes and failure in past. I got that conclusion. Check what are more. Successes then certainly you will successful. And if failure certainly you will be successful. Because it is your story. You can rewrite it. We can not alter our past, but we can alter our memories, feelings about you. You can modify your story.

We told ourselves stories about why that happen and as result I failed. Why not you change your story. That I learned from that moment, that I have to do things in different way. We can change our story.