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If someone already takes credit for your work, then you must consider this

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Are you failing in life? Are you putting in a lot of effort? But someone else takes the credit.

I was facing this problem in my life. And recently, I met a complete failure. Failure is not due to a lack of skill, knowledge, or ability to present. I failed for only one reason. Let me explain a little detail here.

Being frustrated, I start searching. On all books, blogs, and YouTube videos, the same things I found

  • goals and planning.
  • hard work.
  • Accept failure with an open heart.
  • perseverance and persistence.

If you apply these things, one day you will succeed.

I am getting frustrated at not knowing why I failed.

The idea came to mind: what about Chanakya? What he taught his student to build a kingdom And why still, some ancient knowledge resurfaces.

When I searched for Chanankiya, I found that we did not know much about him. Being Pakistanis, we have a very bad impression of Chankiaya. I heard he was a very clever man. Not even a single publication on Chanakiya In Pakistan.

Even When I searched on the Internet, I found that only “Radhakrishnan Pillai” wrote some books in the light of the wisdom of Chanakya.

I feel the knowledge and wisdom of Chanakiya have been lost. We are unable to place him like Plato and Socrates.

Thanks to Amazon, I purchased one book, “Think Like Chanakya,” as a kindle.

I used to purchase books on my kindle, and the Amazon kindle app on Windows is a replacement for reading these books.

“Think Like Chankaya” writer Radhakrishnan Pillai sahib mentioned that according to Chanakya, four things are required as subject matter experts.

  1. Right thinking. You are capable of making the right decisions.
  2. Knowledge of the Vedas. The Vedas are knowledge of that time. At the moment, I consider it mastering the subject. Bookish knowledge of your field
  3. Knowledge of the economy. What will sell, and what will not? Demand and supply
  4. Knowledge and science of Politics.

I discovered the first three points. I am a knowledgeable person. I have already implemented it in my personal and professional lives. The only thing missing is Politics.

I was left behind due to Politics.

Plato: One of the penalties of refusing to participate in politics is that you end up being governed by your inferiors.’

Without politics, you cannot get ahead.

So every task has two parts.

  • Do the task.
  • Show the completed task.

You cannot be successful until you are able to show your work. Showing your work requires a lot of concentration. We can compete with others only through office politics.

And this is reality.

Previously, I thought politics were bad. But now that I think either is bad or good, I have to learn the art and science of politics. This is the way to go.

When someone told you I have a doctor’s appointment.

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Most of the time, we did not think before speaking. We speak because we want to share.

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A couple of days ago, I learned this lesson. I got a call from my friend from the USA. We worked together in a software company, and he became my buddy. Couple of days back. He was facing a problem with sciatica, and the doctor wanted to remove the disk from his backbone. I was sitting in the room alone, seeking someone to talk to.

I got a call from him; he just told me that I have a doctor’s appointment. Instead of speaking further, I just started sharing my experience with illness. That happens; this happens; nobody cares; doctors are making money. If I just wait a few days, I can save money on all those things. When I discuss all my experiences, I feel light, but I find he becomes more depressed. He was in pain; he wanted to share. Instead of listening to him, I made him more worried. He wants to share that he has had a small operation to remove a disk from his backbone. He started weeping about what would happen tomorrow. I shared my friend’s problem with him instead of listening to him.

It was a very embarrassing situation for me. I feel that I need to change. I would not share my experience and knowledge about the problem. I just have to listen. What I learned is that whenever someone tells you that I have a doctor’s appointment, You have to just reply, “You will be well soon”. And try to listen to him and give him hope that things will be better. Never ever share your or others people stories with him.

What are best way to greet in workspace

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Salam, Namsastye, Maskaram, Sat Sri Akal or just say good morning

Let me share my own story.

When I used to enter office. I used to say, Hello, Good morning, As salam u alakum. Namaskaram.

But strange event happens. Today, when I entered office. I used to say greeting to every one in such a way. One lady start to object me, why you are saying Namaskaram. It is Namaste or if you do it do it proper way and hands pressed together. Other wise don’t say it. If you want to learn something. Learn in proper way. It is very strange behavior for me.

At that point I did not understand the difference of Namaskaram and Namasty.

Most of Indian working in Dubai are from south side. They used to say Namaskar or Namaskaram. And North India called Namaste.

Point is right possible. Every good morning greeting has some ritual. We can not understand different culture and follow them. Why you use their terms when we can not understand.

So It was socking for me also. So I love to greet every one. Because it was teach me at home to create with every one. That habit I bring from my home country Pakistan.

Later I realize that only words like “Good morning” is more then enough.

Instead to say, Aslam-ul-Akum. Namastay, Namasakram or Sat Sirya kaal. You just need to say, Good morning, Good evening or Good after noon.

So point is when people are from different culture learn their tradition properly. Other wise just follow the common things.

So that is. When you go to multicultural workspace. Only say Good morning. No need to go in depths of efforts.

“The thing is, it’s very easy to be different,

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I was using elevator to come in specific floor. In elevator. small screen shows the different advertisements of gym, restaurant and luxury restaurants. They also show different Quotes.

On that screen I read quote form Jony Ive, Who is Apple’s senior vice.

“The thing is, its very easy to be different, but very difficult to be better.”

I purchased Ipad 7generation 2019 version. And from the day onwards. I used to write all my thoughts on it. I used to make mind maps on it to formularies my ideas.

I feel they implement it in their products. They are better then their competitors.

But question is how we implement it in our life.

Most of the time, we change our look. We make our style different from others. How we speak. “Zarah haat kayee”. Little different. Different look and feel. Different hair style. Color different.

But when we start to become better. either better from what you are yesterday or what you are with your fellow colleague or family member. The idea of competing with yourself is amazing. But in practical life we have to complete others. When two people are of similar education and experience who wins between them. Who have better communication. Who show more then what you are.

Politics is also form of Communication. We expose other person weakness and show our strengths.

I read somewhere. If you did not do politics. You certainly will be under less capable people.

But if we did not have these skills which we show to management. Certainly we will be in very bad situation at that time. So we have to built these qualities. And built or acquiring these skills is the become better. And it really difficult.

Competition is reality. If you did not try to compete, others will defiantly do.

In life we have face cut throat competition. If we did not compete, they will cut our throat. So we have to cut others. Do or die.

So we have to study our opponent know his weakness, know his strength. And built our added advantages. And then we can become better then others.

In fast competitive market fitness is also become part of our profession.

That I did not found while working in Pakistan. Here is also one definition of smart consultant.

Smart in his work but also smart in looks.

Initially I was not considering this point but while sitting with manager. He gave me example. If I have to hire and two candidates of same qualification. One is fat and other is smart healthy guy. Which one I choose. Certainly I will choose the smart one.

One place I heard comments about one manager who is fat and big belly. He can not manage himself how he manage the work.

That’s true my friend. In real life, people try to look different. But actually they need to be better then their competitor. And this competition is really. And you have to accept this challenge.

To become better.

Every day we are in competition

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If you think life is fair, it does not. we make others only happy, only if we lesser then them, inferior to them. You have to listen and face a lot of criticism. You never be make happy to every one. You have to face a lot of aggression.

Life’s every moment there is competition.

I used to listen the word from my mother, “Hum muqabalah nahee ker taye”. We are not going to competition with others. We are what we are.

Some times these words are wrong.

I heard the quote from John Spence.

“If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn’t eat him.”

— John Spence

Competition is on every step of life. On every step, we have to face. competition.

But sometime we are in competition without knowing. I found many people grow due to competition. They were nothing but due to competition, they made themselves.

If you want to grow. You need competition. The competition gives you strength, teach you something. Even you competed, you failed, but you learn a lot.

But one thing always remember. Always chose right battles, right battles gives you strength and power. Competition will trained you.

Slow Down And watch where you are going

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In the reflection section of One minute Sufi aurther called to write your own reflection after each sufi thought.

I starting to write because I want to improve my writing skills.

In a boat rushing on a fast-running creek, it seems as if the trees on the bank are rushing by. What seems to be changing around us is rather the speed of our craft leaving this world. —Rumi

Jamal, Azim. The One-Minute Sufi: 1 . Jaico Books. Kindle Edition.

Some times, I found that time is running fast. Days, night and then week ends comes fast. We busy ourselves too much. And we forget what is important to us. The living style is too expensive. And we are struggling to much to maintain us. We spent on things which not required. We can impress others. We can survive without these things.

Rumi write this fast place life as moving fast placing boat in creek. It feels trees on the shore are moving very fast. But actually our time is passing and we are moving towards death, our departure from this world.

This boat takes us which direction, we dont know. We are just moving with boat. The fast placing boat. We need to take pause. understand were we are going. Ask right question, is this right direction ?. What we see moving around the creek? is it illusion or reality. What we are thinking and what is our actual reality. Either we are living in fantasy or we living in reality. reality check is very necessary.

Here boat is symbolic for our Circumstances. Our circumstances takes us in unknown direction. We are moving with it.

It is very similar to situation, that one person is running very fast horse. One person asked him where is going so fast. He replied. I don’t know where horse takes me, I am going there.

Time is passing, we need to control our circumstance not our circumstances control us. It is not easy. But with efforts and struggle, you can change your direction. A lot of efforts required.

life has four seasons, but three already passed

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I want to write on the topic of “life has four seasons, but three already passed”.a

When I started to write, this sufi quote attribute to Sultan Bhu came to into my mind

īmān salāmat har koī mañge ishq salāmat koī hū

jis manzal nuuñ ishq pahuñchāve īmān ḳhabar na koī hū

mañgan īmān sharmāvan ishqoñ dil nuuñ ġhairat hoī hū

ishq salāmat rakkhīñ ‘āhū’ deyāñ īmān dharoī hū

یمان سلامت ہر کوئی منگے

عشق سلامت کوئی ھُو

منگن ایمان، شرماون عشقوں،

دل نوں غیرت ہوئی ھُو

جس منزل نوں عشق پہنچائے،

ایمان خبر نہ کوئی ھُو

میرا عشق سلامت رکھیں باھوؒ،

ایمانوں دیاں دھروئی ھُو

life has four seasons, three already passed mean, life is short, only we have to live in short of period of time.

There is biblical ledgend that longest lived man was Phrophet Noah. It said that he has near thousand year long life.

On god order, angel of death came to him take his soul back. He was prophet, he understand who is visitor, When angel of Death came, he was working in fields and that hot summer day. He asked angel of death, give me a few minute let me go and sit under the shadow of tree near by. Angel of death let him go. When he sat in shadow, and angel of death reach him to take his soul. Noah said to him, I found life as short as I was it was distance between a person who standing under sun and go under the shadow of tree.

Life is really short. We have to understand our purpose of life. Every one has different purpose of his life. Its up to us what we decided, what we want to do. In Dubai, while meeting with different people. I meet the Bangladeshi person. He used the word “ I saye app ko kush milaye gee”. It will make you happy. The purpose of life is what’s make you happy.

I am not religious person, other wise I told you that purpose of life is to worship of God. Actually he was saying what he thinks and works on his purpose of life.

Three season already passed. What we have enjoy that. We can enjoy present moment only when we make peace with ourselves.

Sufi did not believe in past. Sufi did not believe in future. Past can not be change. Future is not yet coming. We have only one season. That is present moment. To enjoy present moment we have to accept what we did in past. We are result of our past action. What we did yesterday we are facing it result. Now is the only time, only season, what we are doing today, we will face its result tomorrow.

Life is like day tight compartment. like ship standing in sea, water in all side. if we open the door of past, we will fill it with sorrow, regrets and guilt of miss opportunity . If we open the door of future, we will get worries, tension and anxiety . It is last season we are living in. Just it is. Make it beautiful. Do what we like, do what makes future beautiful.