Red Car theory will it root in Stoicism

Yesterday, I experimented. While going to the office, I start looking for a red car. I was searching for a red car, or any vehicle that was painted red. Interestingly, I saw 10 vehicles until I reached the office. Did you experiment with it? Try it.

The fundamental idea is that wherever you direct your attention, it starts to manifest more. There is a quote that says that when you focus, life begins to grow. Where you neglect life, it goes to dry.

Let me explain a little more about the red car theory.
If I were to pose one straightforward question to you, When you go outside on a daily basis, how many red cars or vehicles do you see? Did you notice that, most likely, your response would be, “No, not a single one,” or “probably one or two?” However, it’s likely that you failed to notice them because you weren’t focused on them.
If I were to offer a reward of $100 to anyone who spots a red vehicle, you would consciously focus on finding 5 to 10 such vehicles.
Actual concept opportunities are always present, but once you notice them, they start to appear.

Everything is perception, when our focus changes or we put forth efforts to change our perception about certain things, our environment starts to change.

Experiencing adversity or misfortune often leads to further misfortune, and the opposite is also true when we experience good fortune. More lucky events start to happen.
Actually, we were intentionally seeking these.

The question now is, how do we relate this modern Red Car theory to ancient philosophy? They all talk about perception and focus. They all discuss how our mind shapes our reality.

For example, Epictetus said that 
“We are disturbed not by things, but by the views we take of them.” 
This quote explains that we have to focus on our perception. While we cannot control events, we can control how we respond to and perceive them. It is our emotional response to these events that determines our experience.

The same way Marcus Aurelius’ said, “The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts.” 
This implies that, regardless of the circumstances, we can maintain our happiness as our minds actively seek it out. our thoughts make of it. If we think more about happiness, more happiness will appear.

 
Some ancient Indian scripts also talk about a similar concept: “As you think, so you become.” 

A similar Buddha said: 
“We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.”

This Buddha quote also talks about the same concept and encapsulates the red car theory. Our thoughts and focus constantly shape our reality. If you concentrate on something, it starts to appear more frequently in your life. If you focus on a red vehicle, you start to see it more often.

I hope you like this video. On closing notes

The Red Car Theory highlights how our focus can shape our reality. By consciously directing our focus, we can alter our thoughts and perceptions of our surroundings. We can notice more things that align with our interests, goals, or emotions.

4 tips to sharpen your emotional intelligence

Hey guys welcome back to consultant mindset. I hope you guys have been doing great. Our emotions and sentiments highly influence the performances of our daily life activities. Emotions are pleasurable and cheerful as long as they are easily controlled by ourselves but when they become out of control they can even create multiple problems for us. What is emotional intelligence? It is the ability to control your own emotions and has the high-definition capability to regulate the emotions of your surrounding people as well. Emotionally intelligent people tend to care for the emotions of others and they know how to regulate their own emotions in different situations.  Becoming emotionally stable not only makes you grow emotionally but also has a healthy impact on your physical health as well. How can you expertise the regulation of emotions in different situations? Stay tuned with us to find out those interesting tips.

Self-awareness 

The self-awareness for your character development is extremely necessary and it helps you stay away from all the emotional triggers. Identifying those triggers which can stimulate happy or sad hormones is necessary. What are those sad moments that uncover your dark side? Try identifying those triggers and writing them down in your diary will eventually keep you away from all the emotional instabilities. When you begin to realise the true essence of your soul, you get control over your emotions as well.  For instance, when a person is angry with you, you begin to feel low and guilty somehow. The person who angers you controls you in many ways. You begin to act unconsciously because of the fear of being abandoned and deserted. To save yourself from the wrath of that peculiar person, you obey their all rules. Do you think it is permissible to control someone like this? An emotionally intelligent person acts smart and saves himself from such chaos. Remaining calm and composed under pressure situations is a significant measure which can help you take a grip on your emotions. Sometimes emotional outbreaks occur and you become unable to control yourself in those situations. Try acting cool and let the tears out so that your chest can become burden-free instantly. 

Beauty is an asset, just like physical prowess, charisma, brains or emotional intelligence. The key to any gift is in the way that you use it. It doesn’t define you as a person. Rather, it’s an asset to be used judiciously and with an understanding of how it is just a small part of who you are.

Dale Archer

Self-management 

The problems with proper guidance and knowledge are handled more intelligently than the unaware situation. You can manage your emotions only when you know your emotional being and your emotional triggers. A person who lacks the basic awareness about himself and his potential is most likely to become stagnant in the near future. After you are done with the self-analysis, you can focus on managing your triggers by employing the following techniques. Controlling your anger is the major step to maintaining your emotional stability. Getting mad at trivial things requires energy and you have to funnel this energy into something productive. Don’t let the rage overtake your body, stay calm and redirect that energy into something productive. Instilling your energy into something positive serves the purpose of motivation and keeps you dedicated and consistent. Eating well impacts your mental health greatly, the food you are eating is going to replenish your mental and physical health. Stay cautious about your diet and try to stick to a healthy diet. You always have a choice to react to things whether you can overreact over trivial things or you can handle the matter gracefully by keeping your calm and composure. 

Social skills

In terms of emotional intelligence, comprehension of other’s people emotions holds a significant importance. You must have heard the famous proverb “ walking a mile in somebody’s else shoes” It will make you wonder how complicated or tough their life is. To understand the emotions of your surrounding individuals, you shall have an idea of their situation. When you start to put yourselves in other people’s shoes, you start to understand their situation more precisely. Developing a stable emotional aroma requires the establishment of relationships with the people so that you may able to get what’s going on in their minds. And hearts.

What things to avoid 

An emotionally strong person rarely involves himself in any drama and tries to stay away from it.  They never complain about anything and always solve their problems with understanding and comprehension. He never portrays himself as a victim and always takes the blame for his mistakes. That’s how mentally strong individuals respond to a certain problem. Such people keep themselves away from the negativity and they don’t dwell on their dark past. They never come into their peer pressure and always listen to what their mind and body says. They never work on other people’s opinions rather they act independently.