Month: June 2023

Seeking our own Path.

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I have dream of visiting a graveyard, There buried lovers like suhni mahiwal, writers, Sant, shadu, big names. On one place, a saw a person, who is highly successful. I asked him, what is way to be successful. With hands he point towards a cemented stairs, without stair case leading to somewhere up. I don’t believe in dreams, but for sure, it is result of our sub-conscious mind. What I was understand, what my subconscious mind trying to told me, that built your own way. It means, all successful people are those who do things in their own way.

Actually what will happen. The whole day, I was working on document to provide the answers, why these things are just fit.

I was also learning a something new. the area, which I never explored. Some blogs on internet and nothing. Microsoft own notes are not sufficient. I was constantly asking this question, what to do, whom I took guidance. How someone else did this implementation.

In the morning, management will accept my answer because they all non technical. One manager, is already concern doubt on me.

My subconscious mind try to answer my question. That make your own way. study the matter, understand the requirement. And use your own path.

In the sufi way, its called Tariqat. In Arabic Tariqat is the way you do things, Also called Path. In sufisim, Tariqat means, your own way.

What is meaning of your own path.

Stop seeking Guidance : Many times, we are at level, that no body helps us. Its very difficult situation. We reach at certain level.

Some times, we can not ask questions. Nobody at our level or see things from your point of view.

All answers lies in side your. You have clear understanding of situation.

Darad under day under wasson, Bahar karran tay gahil huu.- Couplet from Sultan bahu.

All pain and suffering lies inside me, If I share it, I can be victimized.

Seek knowledge. Learn through observation, how things handled by others, Listen to your environment, People trying to teach you.

study blogs, study tutorials, Listen to others. Read books.

Apply knowledge:

Third is apply knowledge. Without applying nothing found. Experience comes from apply knowledge. And then reflect on it. What benefit we found after apply knowledge. Do things in your own way.

Communicate: Start communicate, start sharing your knowledge, how you apply them, what benefit you found after applying these knowledge. Speak about it.

The difference between, successful and loser is execution. Both have ideas, but successful person, execute the idea.

I am not saying don’t seek guidance. Without guru, teacher, and guider, we did not reach at certain point. But in life, sometimes, we reach a point, where no one guide us. In these situation, stop seeking guidance. Take a lead. Study the topic, stop asking questions, seek knowledge, start communicate, And start apply knowledge by trusting your own guts. No body comes to help you.

My own believe that, when a such a point reach, when you cant ask questions, And unable to take decision. Start listening what people are saying around you. they are discussing their own matters, there own problem. Just start observing people what challenges they are facing and how they handle these. Keep silent, just listen. You will find answer to your problem, without sharing and without asking, Just listen.

Lets write about Hyderabadi fine biscuits

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If you are living in Indian city of Hyderabad, than Fine biscuits are not new to you. But being a Pakistani and belongs to small city, these fine biscuits are new to me. And I like them much. I think when I was child, I eat similar to these biscuits. But those were smaller in size. In Lahore we called them bakery biscuits. These biscuits are more expensive than packet biscuits. In Pakistan, it is culture, that when some guest visited our home, we serve them with tea and biscuits. When some very special guest visited our home than, these bakery biscuits serve them.

I like these fine biscuits much. These are spiritual successor of Bakarkhani. I was thinking BakarKani was introduced British, but wikipida said, that it is mugali Bread.

In Pakistan, we used to purchase Bakarkhani from different street oven for bread “Tandoor”.

But this Haiderabadi Fine biscuits are amazing. When I visited the Shalimar Restaurant, in Hara Riyadh. Instead to feel restaurant, it feel more like a stall at some festival. Hara, most of restaurant are stall like. It feel there is carnival and it will finish one day.

When ever I visited hara, I eat these Fine biscuits.

Three things for better communication

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I was facing a problem where my management didn’t understand me, but when one of my colleagues said the same thing, they understood perfectly.

To improve my communication skills, I asked the same question to a colleague who gave me three points of advice:

  1. Speak slowly and focus on each word.
  2. Listen with focus and remain silent until the other person finishes speaking.
  3. Reply in short sentences and don’t go into too much detail.

Although there are many ideas out there, the key is to start applying them to see results. And finally, don’t take things too seriously as life is never perfect. Focus on improvements instead.

Relations with others are result of relation with self

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One of the biggest challenge, I am facing now is building relationship with others.

I realize that the relationship with others are result of your relationship with yourself.

Whatever is inside, reflect outside.

Now question is how can I make good relationship with myself.

Answer is to understand yourself. Accept your past, hope for future and overcome your fear. It is a starting point for me. For this I start to give answer to following points.

Who am I.

What are my achievements.

What are my failures.

What are my strengths.

What are my weakness.

What motivates me.

What discourage me.

More importantly why I did things in a way. What was my motivation. What was my intension.

I have to understand my weakness and failures. So they will not become hurdle in my success.

Sometimes, the idea of failure stops us to move ahead. I failed that time, this will repeat again. I will fail again. To control this, we  have to accept our failures. Remember, whatever we resist, persist.

So control on it.

Understand weakness, is important, so we work on it. I know, start working on it.

For example, I used to delay things, but when dead line reach near, my start to panic. And as result nothing happen. I start working from day first. So panic situation never happen. I start to control that I have enough time. I have start working on day one. In this way, I overcome the weakness.

My greater weakness is communicate. I understand, what I spoke. I start spoke about my work. I found that I am unable to bear the criticism. So I check my sensitivity. And start understand, it is just other person opinion. Take it or not take it. Just listen. And ignore.

I found that my documentation is not good, due to grammatical mistakes. My sentences are similar to speaking. Not professional writing. So after writing, I start using Quillbot, Grammerly or Notion Ai.

You have to understand, What motivates you. For example, fear of failing. Motivates me. Ability to learn new things, motivates me.

You also notice, what demotivate you. Reason for that, when that situation happens, you can handle the situation. You can take proactive action.

My friends, whatever the failure happens, you have to accept that. Let it go for all past actions.

Start a better relation with yourself. And slowly it will come out and reflect in your relationship.

Give them what they want, not what is require

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It is said, that in ancient China, one rich man wanted to get a mouse statue  for decoration. He held a competition, where he send request to all statute makers to participate in competition. When statue makers visited him. He told them his requirements, and held a prize who statue is so beautiful that his cat also confuse and snatch it.

On the competition day, all statute workers visited him, with his work. One young person comes with statue that is not so beautiful. When all statute placed in hall, all statue made fun of him.

But when rich man, visited the hall, he also not like his master piece.  But young man, asked him that in invitation there is requirement, that his cat will confuse with mouse is original or not.

So as per rules, cat have to decided that competition. Rich man laughed at him, and told them it is symbolic. Not actual. For just joke, he brought his cat in hall. When cat saw these mouse, instead to second look on all other mouses, she took the mouse of young person and run away.

Young person laughed and demand his prize. Because his fish was so beautiful that rich man’s cat confused and take it like a real mouse. Actually he made that mouse with fish meat.

Rich man surprised and gave him the prize.

Our life is such a way. Usually as consultant. We know what is best for client. But we have to give them what they want. Yesterday, I made a document, and they did not understand what is major meaning. They just search the exact word, they gave. So objective meanings were lost. Later I start to understand them, how they work. And produce the work as wishes for them.

Every thing in start is inconvenient

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I left my laptop mouse at home. I forget to pick form laptop table. It’s very difficult to use mouse pad on laptop. I did not habit to use it. From long before laptop, I am using computer since 1999. I used to mouse. Today I facing difficulty to operate.

There are two ways to approach this problem. Which is actually not problem at all.

Near market out of office,  I have to purchase a new mouse, possible cheaper one.

And second one is accept this as it is and try is work on laptop without mouse.

So I decided to work on second approach. Because when I reach home, what I do with second mouse. It will become waste.

Initially its very difficult. I force myself to work with touch pad. I usually disabled it because my pam touch the mouse pad. With the effort of two hours I started to comfortable with touch pad.

I feel change is really inconvenient in starting, when we start comfortable with it, it become our habit.

It said that if you do anything forcefully for 21 day, it become your second habit.

Age is just a number

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I found my age on companies portal is 1994. I don’t know, as outsource consultant, they mistakenly added it. Entry was intentionally. Whatever is the reason, with respect to that my age is 29 years.

As I surprised, that actually I found right, My maturity is not exceeded from 29 years.

It is good, because I am still young, I am look and work 10 year younger then my age.

But sad same time, I feel, that I did not grow from the age of 29 years. I need to work on way.

Age is in mind of person. But that true with the age we are die day by day. The energies are going low day by day.

Need to more focus on fitness.

I already reduce my diet. Almost half. But with this my energy level starts to decrease.

I did not start exercise properly. But start half burpee. I cannot take pushups. I feel pain in joint of my right hand. On normal move I did not found any pain. So I have to do other exercise.

When I reach to 100 burpee without push up step. I will start adding other exercise.

The point is just start, start small, but start today.

Strategies for personal growth I Tips for personal growth I personal I Consultants Mindset

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Hey guys welcome back to consultant mindset. I hope you guys are doing great. Today we are going to talk about personal growth. It is something that we all want to bring into our lives. We all want to establish ourselves to live a peaceful and good life. What is personal growth? It is defined as some established ways that help us to live meaningful and productive life. We can make our lifestyles better to cope with worldly problems. When you are productive, you are less likely to face decision-making problems. The personal growth term can be referred to in many contexts. It can define your personality, your character and the multiple traits that are involved in making you a good person or a bad one. Why is it important to groom your personality? Why personal growth is essential?

Personal growth has a broad spectrum. It is not restricted to one area only. It involves physical, moral and intellectual ethics. It helps you to become a better human being.  When you start to realize your mistakes and your past outcomes, you eventually become a better version of yourself. People who never accept their mistakes are less likely to get anywhere in their lives. 

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What developments are involved in personal growth?

We should have control of our anger. Anger leads to many destructive chaoses. A person cannot think whenever he is angry. To cool down the situation, it is better to not get violent whenever you are angry. An angry person always makes foolish mistakes and can never become better in his life. Anger is only a self-destructing tool. It not only harms others but also destroys one’s own life as well. Procrastination is one of the leading factors in receding growth. People have become lazier and sluggish. They tend to delay their work by making excuses. They just act lazy and find ways to delay their work. However, a lazy man can never do their work on time. They always find ways to procrastinate. 

Personal development is your springboard to personal excellence. Ongoing, continuous, non-stop personal development assures you that there is no limit to what you can accomplish.

Brian Tracy

A responsible person is always considerate. He always considers the problems of others. And he always makes their problem-solving his priority. And he never fails to back off whenever anyone requires help from him. Being considerate is one of the integral factors that makes you a good human being. Personal growth involves how you treat others and whether you are helpful towards your mates or not. It helps you proceed personally as well as morally.

How Can We Achieve Exponential Personal Growth?

There are some ways by which you can become an exponentially grown person in every way. The first and foremost key is to keep learning always. Learning is a way that helps you add more things to life. Learning and studying not only add innovative things to your life but they also let you learn from your mistakes. It is a crucial aspect of personal development. Listening is a powerful tool that makes you considerate towards others. You come to know about other people’s opinions as well. 

Volunteer Your Time

Helping others always provides you insight into new things. You can learn new experiences from other people. You can learn new skills that can help you expand your worldview. By gaining insights into new things, you become more prone to a successfully developed personality. 

“Your life only gets better when you get better “

Brian Tracy

Experience new things and new places 

Exploring new things always adds a novel part to your personality. It brings light to all the new areas of life. You should have a taste of every aspect of your life. Experience is the only thing that makes your life way better than before. Travelling and meeting new people around the world change your perspective and makes you encounter new things. New places instill a new personality into you. It can change your ideology of life.

Make Your Health a Priority 

A healthy body has a healthy mind. If you are not taking care of your health and are being careless and irresponsible then you are less likely to get anywhere in your life. Eating junk induces junk in your mind as well. The junk does not provide you with energy and makes you feel sluggish all day. This way you won’t be having the energy to cope with worldly issues. Taking vitamins, having a night of proper sleep, doing exercise and eating healthy food are the top-notch factors to improve health.

Self Evaluation 

A person who faces life problems strenuously always remains steadfast. Many people keep denying some absolute certain realities of their lives. Ask yourself such questions so you know your position.

Where do I stand in my life right now?

What is your life like now? And how do you see your life in future?

What do you want to do with your life?

These questions provide you with a trajectory by which you can focus on your life. These questions provide you with better insights by which you can develop your life in a better way.

it is in the character of growth that we should learn from both pleasant and unpleasant experiences.

Nelson Mandela

In the end, the thing that matters is you should keep going and improving yourself. Never stop learning and continue to incorporate new experiences into your life.

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What is personal finance.

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I heard that the Indus script is actually record of baniya. His balance sheet or some notes about payment. Right or wrong. One thing is confirm. Finance is since from dawn.

I meet with Indian friend in Dubai. He belongs to baniya family. He manage every rupee. He was rich person.

Financially very sharp. He told me from last 10 year, he was maintaining excel sheet for every pony he spent. And he told me, before that he was unorganized. But when he start maintaining where every rupee he getting rich and financially independent.

My father is 72 years old, He also maintain one excel sheet for his spending, saving. He also follow the envelop system. Dave Ramsey also talks about this.

The fundamental of personal finance is understand, how much you spent, where you spent, then you make a budget.

First  and most important thing is not every rupee you spent. Until you don’t clear about it. You cannot make budget.

I am using google sheet. Just put four column

First column with Date.

Second column, what amount you spent.

Third column, about it is cash or credit.

Fourth column, category or classification, for example grocery, Dinning out, Traveling.

Fifth column  is about comments

Sixth column is optional, but ask, is it necessary or we can save this amount.

Update this excel / google sheet on daily bases. Follow this religiously.

After one month, you have clear understanding where amount going, where you spent. After that you will be able to move next step. Like budgeting and balance sheet.