“Your worst enemy cannot harm you as much as your own unguarded thoughts.” -Gautam Buddha
The same is true when we see our own child failing to follow the right path and following his own will.
We have to guard our thoughts about what we want. Once I organized my thoughts and realized this,
My son is like my younger self.
And I want to tell myself what mistakes I made. What should I do if I get a chance to go back to my teens?
But the issues are the same. My son is not me. He did not listen 100 percent. Some times he follows my instructions, but other times he follows his own will.
He thinks of life as it is. But it will not be the same. Time will change. And he have to take his responsiblity of life.
When I was a student in school, I often asked myself, “Why do I need to come first in my class?” When I just passed the exam.
But now I realize that I performed better when I was a child. Now I am performing excellently.
I never understood how laborious my father was. How long did he work hard in the office to bring his salary home?
He did not understand it in the same way as I was once doing.
So I decided to let him live his life. He is different from me. He has different skill sets. His interests are different.
Many times, we overprotect our children.
This overprotaction did not let them grow.
There is a saying that when your son’s height equals yours, make him your friend.
We have to let them make their own decisions.
In the 21st century, we can only influence our children; we cannot instruct them.
We have to accept this fact. We are responsible for ourselves. Not for them.
Just influence and guide them; do not expect too much from them.
Now they are open to understanding what is right and what is wrong.
Be hopeful, but do not expect too much.
Let’s be hopeful. He will be a good person. He will excel in his career. He will take responsibility for his life soon.