I am facing criticism, from one of my follow colleague. His repute is already suffered.
What I heard about him, found him worst. Sometimes I think, circumstance shapes us. But sometimes, I think I response to these circumstances shapes us.
He is one of those person, who tries to crush others in way to go up.
He expose my work. Make criticize and unnecessary and immature comments. He expose my work in front of management. I face all those challenges. Fixes all those issues. It is really tough for me to accept my fault, because he is junior and I am senior. I seriously feel the pain.
I found all those things he mentioned for sake of destroying me. Or make my position worst. Actually helps me to grow. I found that 60 percent things he mentioned are right. 40 percent he mentioned were not correct.
I put my efforts and cover all pointed things.
I realize, that I need to clean my home first. I need to do more work to improve or clean my work.
Second, I found that I estimate efforts I given are just for work. Not for revision and recheck. I have to take extra time. Either I have to regain time, some way or by adding estimation. And complete task with in due time and then.
Finally I found, there is lack of organization in my work.
In managing oneself Peter Docker said that all famous persons or those people who impact in history has one thing is common that is they manage themselves.
As per my understanding of this sentence, when someone able to manage himself. He will manage others. I need to work on manage myself.
So I divide all in steps, first week to clean my mess. What I am doing, how is my room, How I am spending, what I am reading, what personal task are in complete. What things I need, what things I don’t need. I have to make a list and organize them.
Second week. I will see, what I need, what I need to improve. What I have to throw, which did not serve me well.
Mean while I start working to improve.
And from third week. Full focus on my work, while keep eye on others person tasks.
Remember, when I check my colleague work who destroyed my repute by highlighting my mistakes. Has more mistakes then me. I can expose them and that make a me feel good. But what is benefit. What if, he improves on those things. That creates more competition for me. So I ignore his faults. It feels his work is perfect. But under the hood he did not learn much. It is not my responsibility to get the faults of mine, I have to work on mine.
My message for this post is,
- learn from your mistake.
- Always need for improvement.
- Face the criticism, take it positive. Convert negativity into positivity. Make it stepping stone.
- Clean your mess first. Then goes for other.
- If you found fault in others, first check in you. If found then fix these in you fix it.
- If you manage yourself. Then certainly you manage others.
- Avoid criticism, not sake of fight, because if he improves, you are helping him.
- Always stay proactive.