Buddah said that cutting your desire will lead to less suffering. Why we have pain from an event is due to our expectations. But the truth is, we did not suffer from what actually happened. But from the story we tell ourselves about what happened, that creates suffering. Our expectations are the actual cause of suffering. The best way to avoid suffering is to take life as it is. Some people consider it Hukam, what happens, it was due to divine decision. It should happen in this way. Hukam is usually punjabi knows; this word means accaptance. Hukam is solution to suffering. Sometimes we resist the reality. So the best solution to that is acceptance. Remember, what we resist persists.