In life, we meet failure. Life broke us. It is tougher when others are moving ahead and you stay tired and frustrated. surprised at what’s wrong with you. In real life, there is a lot going on. Much is behind us that is invisible to us. According to the law of attraction, we attract them. That’s true; situations that happen to us are due to our mistakes or poor planning. Here is my story from failure to success:

In my early 40s, I stopped coding. Younger people are much faster and quicker than me. I was working in ERP development. 10 years ago, I accidentally started working in Microsoft ERP. But in the last decade, I started to realize that everything was already developed. There is no need for development in the ERP stack. I said that after 3 years of experience, you automatically get functional (Product ) knowledge.

So after that, I started that journey. I got a job in a foreign Arab country. And For three years, I worked as a support consultant. That implementation is already complete. And I support and implement new modules. I helped different end users with their queries and validated their requirements.

It was successful. Then I switched jobs and went into the consulting field. Initially, I worked hard and got required documents signed, but office politics I was unable to handle. A lot of my efforts were going against me. After 7 months of efforts, I decided to quit, mentally broken, discouraged, and frustrated.

As I was living behind a closed door, My first functional job was the same. Behind the closed door. I feel like a failure.

Finally, my manager asked me if we were going to release you within 6 weeks.

It is really stressful for me. I found that I failed. I failed to prove myself. Here are a few things I want to change:

Accept the failure.

I have to accept my failure, regardless of my extensive knowledge. Unable to meet expectations.

I decided to accept that failure. Accept it with an open heart. I found that until we accept the problem, we will not change it in the future.

Stop weeping:

I was discouraged. I was more focused on what others said. And I shared more about it. I talk a lot about my failures with my wife. My children, my friends, and my colleagues My colleagues listen to me. It feels like some shoulder But actually, they enjoy my failure. While my family starts to think that I am not capable.

I realize that the more we talk about something, the more we attract it.

The second thing I did was stop discussing my failure. Complete silent. If someone comes to me to discuss it, I zip my lips. In Punjabi, we say “Daar waat jaa”. Means, keep holding your tongue tight with your teeth. So stop discussing it with anyone. Except sit alone, weep over it, and learn from it. But stop discussing it with others.

Share your success:

People love to hear success stories. I started sharing these. Initially, when I started sharing my success, People ran from it. But slowly, I got better at sharing my stories. People like to change stories; I start with sharing.

Start building relationships with people.

I am an introvert. How do I understand whether I am an introvert or an extravert? The only answer is that If you have an option for the weekend, either you go party with friends or stay home to watch videos.

But the quality of life depends on the quality of our relationships with others.

So I start making relationships with others.

Focus on one small improvement per day:

Roam is not built in a day. Change occurs slowly. Focus on small changes and track them.

I started focusing on small steps. One step at a time, I start to compare myself to yesterday. Instead of focusing on my destination, I just focus on the next step. And forget about All the details I have. Just focus on my next step.

Use reflection.

I read somewhere that experience does not come with work or events; it comes from reflection on work or events. So I started to reflect. I start following the what, so what, and now what strategies.

In the evening, I start writing down everything that happens. How can I deal with these events and situations?

What can I do better? And the very next day, I started applying these rules.

Always stay positive.

We all become negative. All negative thoughts come into our minds. Bad things happen; our plan did not go well. But the only thing that keeps us going is our positive attitude. Let it go, reorganize energetically, and put in hard work. Remember, whatever the situation, we can control our attitude.

So these are some tips I implemented in my life, and now I am one of the best consultants in the job market.

Just be positive. Have a plan, focus on the next step you have, and continue to make gradual improvements.

So I decided on the area of expertise. I cannot be strong in all areas of ERP. I decided to be specialized.

There are two terms: Generalized and specialized. Everyone has their own way of thinking and makes adjustments in life.

I am more focused on Specialization.

I remember the quote from Bruce Lee.

I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.”

Many times, big organizations prefer the Generalized expertise of people. These people are very good at communication. Usually, these people work at the start of a project. When a project goes into a critical phase, they outsource things to specialized people.

Generalized people usually work in requirement gathering sessions. Most of the time, their deliverables are documents.

Specialized people deliver the solution, actually. Both have their own importance.

But I like to be specialization. So I decided to work on three areas.

• Inventory management.
• Advance warehouse management.
• Enterprise asset management

Previously, I was thinking about where to start. Now I have an answer.

Decide what you want. Clarity is the starting point. I know planning and execution are also important points.

But a clear decision on what you want is the starting point.

Anyhow, I decided to be specialized. I have a clear vision of the areas in which I need expertise.

Now it’s time to plan and execute.

Let’s go there.

If you are living in Indian city of Hyderabad, than Fine biscuits are not new to you. But being a Pakistani and belongs to small city, these fine biscuits are new to me. And I like them much. I think when I was child, I eat similar to these biscuits. But those were smaller in size. In Lahore we called them bakery biscuits. These biscuits are more expensive than packet biscuits. In Pakistan, it is culture, that when some guest visited our home, we serve them with tea and biscuits. When some very special guest visited our home than, these bakery biscuits serve them.

I like these fine biscuits much. These are spiritual successor of Bakarkhani. I was thinking BakarKani was introduced British, but wikipida said, that it is mugali Bread.

In Pakistan, we used to purchase Bakarkhani from different street oven for bread “Tandoor”.

But this Haiderabadi Fine biscuits are amazing. When I visited the Shalimar Restaurant, in Hara Riyadh. Instead to feel restaurant, it feel more like a stall at some festival. Hara, most of restaurant are stall like. It feel there is carnival and it will finish one day.

When ever I visited hara, I eat these Fine biscuits.

I was facing a problem where my management didn’t understand me, but when one of my colleagues said the same thing, they understood perfectly.

To improve my communication skills, I asked the same question to a colleague who gave me three points of advice:

1. Speak slowly and focus on each word.
2. Listen with focus and remain silent until the other person finishes speaking.
3. Reply in short sentences and don’t go into too much detail.

Although there are many ideas out there, the key is to start applying them to see results. And finally, don’t take things too seriously as life is never perfect. Focus on improvements instead.