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How to Reduce Aggression in Children I Dealing with Aggressive Toddlers

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Are you also tired of your children’s destructive personalities? Are you annoyed by the aggression and anger of your kid as well? The answer to these questions is that behind every action is buried unaware reasoning. As a parent, it should be considered why your kid behaves a certain way. What is the main reason behind it? Children impersonate their parents in every field. The first school of education for a kid is his/her parents. He /she learns everything from their parents. Parenting is defined as the set of instructions and regulations given by parents that helps a kid eradicate defects from his/her personality and become stronger in his character. They copy their parents and develop an instinct to learn. According to some surveys and research done, it is come known that the destructive behaviours of children are mostly due to the pressurised and noxious behaviours of parents. The destructive behaviours of children are induced by parents themselves.

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        Lack of communication is the key problem of noxious behaviour among children. Proper communication plays an integral role in grooming the personality of children. Parents who   tend to live in the past are unable to have proper talks with their kids. They tend to behave aggressively for the things that have been done to them in the past. Since they can not let them go, the children have to face the chaotic behaviour of their parents. Children impersonate their parents so they tend to copy their chaotic and aggressive behaviour as well. In this way, this behaviour becomes integrated into kids as well.

Whenever we feel like our kid has become aggressive or is throwing toys and some other stuff like this. It is an alarming situation that we should identify what is going on with her/him. To find out first look after your behaviours and manners. Because parental behaviour is reflecting upon their minds and thoughts. Accepting mistakes in front of your children is a prime step towards their better personalities. Some parents do not accept their mistakes in front of their children. Due to their egos and authoritarian style, they are unable to apologise for their mistakes. Since children copy their parents they tend to think that way as well. If my father is not admitting that certain fault then why would I accept my mistake? The kids will eventually behave in that manner. Parents stress themselves out by always finding faults within their children. They should keep this thing in mind that children are divine creations as well. And as the saying says To err is human; To forgive is divine. Always looking for the mistakes of your children will make you depressed and stressed out. Just thinking about their good personality traits will make you feel blessed and blissful. There are certain ways of talking to a kid. If you talk to them aggressively they will develop it as a habit to talk to every person aggressively and fiercely. And If you talk to them politely they will talk to everyone in a kind manner. 

Constantly instilling your child’s brain with words like ‘you cannot do this”, “you are useless”, and “you do not know anything”. These negative approach sentences will make them feel useless. The physical damage inflicted upon children can be healed but the emotional damage can never be healed and results in long-lasting impacts on kids’ minds. It should be binding upon a parent to avoid using such gloomy conversations with their kids. The ultimate step of a parent is to lift his/her kids in every situation. Never let them down. Let them feel proud and glorious that you are their parents. In this current era parents and teachers barely have time to communicate with kids. Parents are busy with their work whereas teachers are always concerned about the completion of their syllabus. However, it should be taken into account that the character building of a kid is as important as other education. Parents should take out 15 minutes from the day to have a little conversation with their kids. Asking them if they have any problems or if they are doing well in their studies and sports will help children learn a positive aspect about their parents.

How to understand teen kids I Understanding kids I Kids I Growth I Teenagers I How to

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Hey, guys welcome back to Consultant Mindset. Our channel Consultant Mindset aims to provide you with the best knowledge and consultancy regarding your daily life issues. It educates you about worldly problems and gives you a good idea to mend your ways. The consultancy on daily life problems is a significant objective of our channel Consultant mindset. Let us not waste much time and jump right into the topic of our today’s video. This video will give you some recommendations for bonding with your teenage kids. As a child grows they go through various psychological and physiological changes. Due to puberty, they cannot understand their body changes. And they tend to need their parents to overcome those revolutions. I will tell you everything about it. But before that do not forget to like, share and subscribe to our channel Consultant Mindset. Let us get straight into the video 

Communicate your Expectations Clearly 

In order to develop proper connections with your kids, it is necessary to communicate with them. In every relationship, communication plays a key role in the maintenance of relations. If there is miscommunication or lack of communication then it eventually breaks a relationship and spoils it. It is obligatory for parents to let their kids know what they actually expect from them. Parents should be able to communicate well with their kids. When a child is in the developmental stage, he/she goes through various hormonal changes. In the case of males, they go through changes in the level of testosterone. An increased level of testosterone can result in anger issues and emotional disturbances. So they should be handled with care and cautiousness. If you tell the kids your expectations beforehand then they are more likely to accept them and agree to them. A parent should communicate with them in a polite manner. For example, a parent should avoid saying “wash the dishes”. It is just like ordering them around. Do it like this instead: “ can you wash the dishes?” there are more chances that they will accept what you are trying to say. 

Respect their privacy 

As a child in the developmental stages, there are lots of bodily changes occurring through time. We should give them enough time to recognize their physiological and psychological changes. The most important factor which is required by a teenager is independence and freedom. We should trust them enough to give them independence. They should have the freedom to go anywhere they want. But in addition to that, they should have the responsibility to inform their parents before going anywhere. In this way, the healthy bond between parents and kids remains intact. If a kid asks for some space then go ahead and give them that. Every person needs a personal space to nourish their character better. A parent should not take this as a personal attack when a child asks for some space. But parents should take care of their personal feelings themselves. When a kid is a teen some parents often force them to do the styling with the parents’ choice. However, a teenager should be given proper freedom to style themselves according to the way they want.

Accepting their Social Needs 

The majority of parents do not allow their kids to go to their friends’ houses. They do not even allow them to go to any other outside places with their friends. They place restrictions on them. That results in conflicts between parents and kids. Parents should allow their kids to go wherever they want to go. Going to a skating park, or joining a sports team is the need of their body. Parents should encourage them to go play outside. It not only enhances their social skills but also makes parents and kids good friends with each other. In addition, parents can maintain closeness with their kids by spending quality time with them. By eating dinner with them or by watching a movie with them. Playing board games, and making crafts with them is another way of developing bonds with kids. Parents should ask the names of the kids their children are being friends with. In this way, the children trust their parents even more. 

In concluding my whole discussion I must say parents should take steps to develop better relations with their kids. As kids grow the bond between kids and parents starts to change. Because the kids start to become adults. Giving them independence, privacy and space are integral in avoiding conflicts. Hope you guys enjoyed the video. Don’t forget to give a thumbs up. bye-bye 

How to Practice Charity I Charity I Helping others I Help

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Hey, guys welcome back to Consultant Mindset. Our channel Consultant Mindset aims to provide you with the best knowledge and consultancy regarding your daily life issues. Let us not waste much time and jump right into the topic of our today’s video. This video will give you recommendations on how you can practice charity in your daily life. Before that do not forget to like, share and subscribe to our channel Consultant Mindset. Charity is something that is often mistaken for money only. But giving time to a depressed, lonely person is also charity, helping a stranger is also a form of charity. 

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Helping a stranger 

In our society, most people avoid helping any of the masses.They just keep doing their work instead of lending a hand to the needy. I will give an example in this case if the people will see a man crying in the middle of the road for some sort of help. They will just gather around him as a source of entertainment. They will not take into account that he is disturbed and is going through some serious issues in his life. Sometimes a listener is enough to solve all your problems. At least it gives courage to the sufferer that someone is counting on him and believing in him and that he can do better with his life. If you are not capable of giving money then you can help him with your words only. Words surely help people to start believing in them. Take another example of helping a stranger to cross the road. If the stranger is older than you can lend him/her a hand. It is eventually your good deed. That will help you not only in this life but in the life hereafter as well. This is another form of charity.

Give Money 

Practicing charity mainly revolves around helping poor people. More appropriately helping people in need. It is highly mentioned in our holy book that “if you do deeds of charity openly it is well, but if you bestow it upon the needy secretly it will be even better for you” (2:271). Giving money to needy people shows love for humanity. And our religion Islam teaches us to fulfill human needs. The rights of humans are first to be asked after death. If a neighbor in your neighborhood is poor and cannot afford food for his family then his responsibility lays on you. You are responsible for him and his family. You have to make sure that no one around your circle faces a shortage of basic needs. This comes under the area of rights of neighbors. There are many Ahadees strictly commanding to take care of your neighbors. The integral step is that you should keep in mind that you are doing it for your Almighty lord and not for a public show. You should keep in mind that He will reward you for this in your afterlife. Charity not only brings peace but also improves your thoughts on humanitarian grounds. 

Help Orphans Get an Education 

According to Ahadees of our prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), he highly focuses on the rights and taking care of orphans. One of his Hadees written in ibn e Majah is “ the best household is the one where orphans are treated well; the worst household is the one where orphans are ill-treated”. How can we help orphans? We can help them by helping them in getting an education. Taking to them politely. Giving them love. Understanding their emotions and needs. These all are kinds of charity. And charity is for Almighty lord not for people. As there is 215 verse of Surah e Bakrah “: “Whatever good you spend should be for parents, kinsmen, orphans, the needy and the wayfarer; and whatever good you do, Allah is all-aware of it.” and prophet Muhammad said that supporting orphans is a continuous form of charity. And all of your deeds comes to end when you di e except three. Sadkah e jaariya(continuous charity), knowledge from which benefit is gained, and a righteous child who prays. 

I must conclude this whole discussion by saying that charity is not helpful for your afterlife only but for your peace as well. It brings humanity to a person and helps you to understand other people’s emotions efficiently. Being generous to the needy is the ultimate form of charity. I hope you guys enjoyed this video. bye-bye

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Hear your kids out 

If we want this world to be a better place then we have to start a revolution from our house. We have to teach our children how to become more disciplined and more responsible for their actions. In most cases, children idolise their parents. So it is binding upon the parent to mend his/her ways for their children. They will eventually follow in your footsteps. And will blame you for every mistake. So the initial step is to hear your kid’s every problem. To find the root cause. If you hear them out calmly then you will be able to help them as well. Many of the kids do not tell their parents due to their harsh and strict behaviour with their kids. In this way, they continue to grow in that harsh environment. This needs to stop. If parents want their kids to get disciplined and more responsible in their actions. Then they have to help them out in every step of life. For example in the case of a parent, you can ask them why a kid is in a bad mood today? Did he fight with any of his friends? The kids can become closer to their parents in this way. In this way, their lives can get disciplined and peaceful as well.

Give Them Attention 

In my opinion, attention is the most powerful tool that every kid needs. They want attention.  We can make our kids practice discipline only when they are close to us. Only when they have unlimited affection for their parents. Otherwise, kids do not listen to their parents to whom they do not feel affection. In this way, you can discourage the bad behaviour of your kids. And can enforce their good behaviours. For example, if a kid does a good deed like putting the toy back in its place after playing with it. Do praise them for their good deeds. And appreciate them for placing the toy back. In this way, they will become cautious about what they do afterward. They will become responsible for their actions just because they know that their parents have a check on them. Likewise forbade them from doing bad deeds as well. Cause it is binding upon a parent to tell their kids which pathway is right and which pathway is wrong.

Call A Timeout 

Set a certain limit for your kids. If they do not listen to your set rules. Or they break a certain rule. Then make a certain call out for them. So that they can be cautious about doing it again. Developing discipline is different for different ages of children. Just like for small babies you cannot shout at them and you cannot use harsh words with them. you gotta be more polite and humble with them. You can use words like “time to sit ” rather than saying “ don’t stand”. For teens, you do not have to take the side of one kid in fights with siblings. Just take away the toy on which they are fi ghting. For adolescent teens, parents should give them time to understand their hormonal and physiological changes. In this way, they can develop bonds with their parents. As I have discussed in my previous video “Parenting tips’ Do not forget to check it out. The link is in the description. By appreciating kids’ good acts you can make them develop discipline in their lives. 

Concluding this whole discussion I must say that by developing bonding with kids you can teach them how to behave well. Discipline is a bridge between goals and accomplishment. Self-discipline means establishing authority over one’s habits and routines. Hope you guys enjoyed this video. Byebye