Many times in life, we feel, depress low and disappointed. not because you did not welcome a lot things in life, but not due to saying no what is not important too.
Is it life really all about saying No or yes. Or all about priority Lets discuss this.
If we talk about Stoic Philosophy
Seneca said that
“It is not that we have a short time to live, but that we waste a lot of it.”
It means, we waste a lot of time in task or things, which has no value. If you want to live well, you have to restrict a few things.
“Part of the perfection of one’s Islam is leaving what does not concern him.”
(Hadith – Tirmidhi)
In my life, there was time, when I said everything yes. As result I become some ones else life priorities. The mental stress I face, when I try to make happy those people who think and prove that they are better than me. And I feel very low after that. Its natural. That is not a problem. In some sense they are right. Their sense of superiority lies in suppressing mine.
Later, I realized that life is really about priorities.
But something interesting happens when we set our priorities: we automatically start saying no to many things.
Buddah said that
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”
The truth is that all of us have limited time and limited resources. Because of this, we must learn to organize and use them wisely.
Similarly there is hadith
“Your body has a right over you, your family has a right over you.”
(Hadith – Bukhari)
This hadith also remind us the balance and boundaries.
Sometimes people come to us asking for help. If we have the time, we should help them. But if we don’t, it is perfectly okay to say sorry. We should not sacrifice important tasks that truly matter to us just to avoid saying no.
Buddisim teaching
“Better than a thousand hollow words is one word that brings peace.”
When we say no to something, we are actually saying yes to many things that are more important to us.
The reality of life is simple:
- We cannot say yes to everything.
- We cannot accept every opportunity.
- We cannot do everything.
But there are a few things we can do extremely well if we focus on them.
In the end, saying no is not rejection.
It is simply a way of saying yes to what truly matters.