In life, we meet failure. Life broke us. It is tougher when others are moving ahead and you stay tired and frustrated. surprised at what’s wrong with you. In real life, there is a lot going on. Much is behind us that is invisible to us. According to the law of attraction, we attract them. That’s true; situations that happen to us are due to our mistakes or poor planning. Here is my story from failure to success:
In my early 40s, I stopped coding. Younger people are much faster and quicker than me. I was working in ERP development. 10 years ago, I accidentally started working in Microsoft ERP. But in the last decade, I started to realize that everything was already developed. There is no need for development in the ERP stack. I said that after 3 years of experience, you automatically get functional (Product ) knowledge.
So after that, I started that journey. I got a job in a foreign Arab country. And For three years, I worked as a support consultant. That implementation is already complete. And I support and implement new modules. I helped different end users with their queries and validated their requirements.
It was successful. Then I switched jobs and went into the consulting field. Initially, I worked hard and got required documents signed, but office politics I was unable to handle. A lot of my efforts were going against me. After 7 months of efforts, I decided to quit, mentally broken, discouraged, and frustrated.
As I was living behind a closed door, My first functional job was the same. Behind the closed door. I feel like a failure.
Finally, my manager asked me if we were going to release you within 6 weeks.
It is really stressful for me. I found that I failed. I failed to prove myself. Here are a few things I want to change:
Accept the failure.
I have to accept my failure, regardless of my extensive knowledge. Unable to meet expectations.
I decided to accept that failure. Accept it with an open heart. I found that until we accept the problem, we will not change it in the future.
Stop weeping:
I was discouraged. I was more focused on what others said. And I shared more about it. I talk a lot about my failures with my wife. My children, my friends, and my colleagues My colleagues listen to me. It feels like some shoulder But actually, they enjoy my failure. While my family starts to think that I am not capable.
I realize that the more we talk about something, the more we attract it.
The second thing I did was stop discussing my failure. Complete silent. If someone comes to me to discuss it, I zip my lips. In Punjabi, we say “Daar waat jaa”. Means, keep holding your tongue tight with your teeth. So stop discussing it with anyone. Except sit alone, weep over it, and learn from it. But stop discussing it with others.
Share your success:
People love to hear success stories. I started sharing these. Initially, when I started sharing my success, People ran from it. But slowly, I got better at sharing my stories. People like to change stories; I start with sharing.
Start building relationships with people.
I am an introvert. How do I understand whether I am an introvert or an extravert? The only answer is that If you have an option for the weekend, either you go party with friends or stay home to watch videos.
But the quality of life depends on the quality of our relationships with others.
So I start making relationships with others.
Focus on one small improvement per day:
Roam is not built in a day. Change occurs slowly. Focus on small changes and track them.
I started focusing on small steps. One step at a time, I start to compare myself to yesterday. Instead of focusing on my destination, I just focus on the next step. And forget about All the details I have. Just focus on my next step.
Use reflection.
I read somewhere that experience does not come with work or events; it comes from reflection on work or events. So I started to reflect. I start following the what, so what, and now what strategies.
In the evening, I start writing down everything that happens. How can I deal with these events and situations?
What can I do better? And the very next day, I started applying these rules.
Always stay positive.
We all become negative. All negative thoughts come into our minds. Bad things happen; our plan did not go well. But the only thing that keeps us going is our positive attitude. Let it go, reorganize energetically, and put in hard work. Remember, whatever the situation, we can control our attitude.
So these are some tips I implemented in my life, and now I am one of the best consultants in the job market.
Just be positive. Have a plan, focus on the next step you have, and continue to make gradual improvements.