Many times in life, we unable to took decisions. Either we are not prepared, or some politics happens.
We suffer from other people decision. Or thing which we did not want happens to us. And things we want are goes to someone. And these regards, suffering and questions came into our mind. And suffering and pain associated with these memories and thoughts.
Similar to these memories also coming into my mind. On analysis, I found strange patterns.
When my mind is empty, these memories haunt me.
These memories haunt me and remind me you are loser. Sometime these occurs when I was extremely busy and under work pressure. And remind me, I lost once. And this will goes in same way. And I used this in my favor, I lost once, but I did not let it happen today.
Sometimes I feel, I love these memories. Because I am trying to justify that due to that reason I took some decisions.
Sometime I feel, I love these memories, because it make me to feel miserable. And miserable the condition which helps me to provide love and pity for myself. I need love and care for me.
Actually I love these feelings and memories. And help me to keep busy.
But now I realize that I am no more need these feeling, guilt and sufferings.
It actually keep me busy. It like Sudhu. He used to drink Bangh and drugs to keep his mind silent. Because when these memories are come back, these will encourage to do something and improve.
I can use these times for better usage. I need to clear my mind. To use for better thoughts and improvements.
To occupy I used three strategy.
Stop resist, there is rule, whatever you resist, persist. If these memories comes in my mind. I stop resisting them. Let it come. Its natural.
Stop feeling for self. Feeling sorry for myself, no more serving me. Accept it and let it go.
I start writing my goals, and like Daymond John I start reminding me these goals, whenever these memories and feeling starts to emerge. I forcefully start thinking about my goals.
My friends, these memories and feelings are part of us, not all of us, we are above them. We cannot get rid of these memories, but we can avoid suffering.
Remember “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional”.
What happen to us, we can not change it, but still suffering from us is not us. Best way to accept it, stop resist it and start focusing on new goals.