Category: Thoughts

Inner light and our purpose

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I was sitting in the mosque, Mullah, speaks about purpose of life. He told us, that every one born with purpose. Purpose lies mans inside. My purpose to worship my god. Guide and help them to become a good religious person. I think he is right, we have to understand what is our purpose of life. I called it inner light.

Every person born with inner light. In the darkness, when we did not have any one to guide us. Or we lost trust on others, This inner light guide us.

With passage of time, peer pressure, responsibility and life challenges fade this light. We lost. But at the end we did not happy.

So we have to see the inner light. it is inner compass for us.

Is reward or penalty help us to correct ?

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I want to reach office 8 o clock. But Unable to make it habit. Office timing is flexible . Office time starts at 8.am and finish at 6 pm. with 30 to 1 hour lunch break.

You have to reach before 9:30. After that deduction starts. As software developer, I used to come late. That habit was due to we work for remote USA and European clients. And we have to give at least 3 to 4 hours over lap to client timing.

Here in Dubai, where I am working. After 7 o clock bus starts to come with delay. But before 7 it comes with in 15 minutes. It means, If you miss the bus with in 15 minutes bus will come. But if you missed the bus after 7 o clock delay will be more then 30 to 40 minutes. So I decided to come early. Here office Government strict rule for work for 9 to 10 hours. Not like Pakistan, that we have to work 24 by 7. Here we have to left office on time. Some times we have to work from home after office hours.

So I decided to come early. Its very difficult to sleep one hour early and awake a hour early. In the morning. I wasted 30 to minutes in bed just I wake. When I reach bus stand. it was 7:40.

It is unable to reach office on 8 am. I decided to give me little penalty. I called taxi and reach office 7:58 am. I have to pay 21 dhirm to taxi. No break fast.

The pain of 21 Dhirm, Hurts me. Which is 21 *60 Pkr. This pain helps me to come office. Awake early.

I think pain and pleasure helps us to change. I can spent this 21 dhirm in better way. Will this approach will work.

Do you have right mindset.

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Nothing easy in life. Life throw misfortune and misery on us. There are failures we have to face. But this is not end. There are also successes, happiness and moments of joys. For these situations we need right mindset. The right mindset, helps us face all possible challenges life throw at us. Best solution to all negative is right amount of positivity, Believe me it is best counter to doubts, fears and discouragement. We have to learn from failure, We have to accept them and then study and improve and move forward. But too much positivity is also not right. Being to much positive makes us careless. There should be room for negativity. That helps us to prepare for obstacles, challenges and failures, Before hand preparation to deal with them. Right mindset have both combination of positive and negative.

Putting first thing first

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Life is all about priorities. Where we focus it grows. Where we ignore it dry.

Truth is we can not do everything. But we can do something. That something is based on priorities.

When we set priority, there are two things need to concentrate. Urgent and Important.

For example currently I am over weight. It is my second most priority. My first priority is my office work. Then I focus on my health. Walking, Exercise, diet control and controlling my hunger is my second priority. Third priority is my family and their needs. And forth priority my blog, youtube channel.

Our thoughts creates our life.

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God created our life or we created it. this statement confused us. God gives us life. But we shaped it as our our thoughts. Our circumstances shapes our thoughts.

There are some limitation. But most of time our choices shapes our life.

In this way we created our life. What we are results of choices and thoughts.

o change my life. I read one book by Faiez Hassan Seyal.

“Change your lens change of your life”.

That book helps me to rethink many areas of life. That book changed my life by sharing the idea of responsibility. My life is my responsibility.

Definitely results take time. Not even reading one book helps you change your life. But After accepting the fact you are responsible of your actions. And those action shapes your destination. And all your actions are result of your thoughts.

This idea helps me to improve many areas of life. And all those areas, where I did not take responsibility still are disaster.

Very interesting Quote I found from James Lane Allen.

“As you think, you travel, and as you love, you attract. You are today where, your thoughts have brought you; you will be tomorrow where your thoughts take you.”

lets talk about Patience

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What is patience. today I have to write my understanding about it. Patience is

the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, problems, or suffering without becoming annoyed or anxious.

The equivalent word is Saabar in arabic and Urdu. While searching this article I found Quran also describe Saabar.

One word more coming with Patience that is perseverance. In Quran Quran, 3:200 Almighty also mentioned this word.

One thing more interesting in that ayat lord mentioned, also helped others to stay motivated in situation where they have to practice patience.

Simple word meaning for patience is to bear something you dont like. Some thing we have faced but there is not solution for it. In this case usually said “ Putter saaber ker”. Child you have to bear it.

I but here my understanding is little different. Patience is bearing the consequence and prepare this next time this not happen. Or prepare for handle the similar situation. If you did not improve or learn then you are not practice patience.

Suppose I awake late and reach office late. And as result boss angry and he instruct the deduction of half day.

I handle this with patience. I can not do anything. But that is not patience. Patience is I bear the consequences. and try my best to avoid this mistake again. I have to awake early in the morning.

Many times results are not coming. We are putting efforts. We have to do patience.

Everything happens on their right time. Again here the understand why results are not coming, either we are doing right things or it natural process to results comes after specific time.

For example putting efforts to weight loss. Results comes in 3 months. We have to work with patience and perseverance. One day results will come, here patience also include hope. Stay motivated.

“The thing is, it’s very easy to be different,

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I was using elevator to come in specific floor. In elevator. small screen shows the different advertisements of gym, restaurant and luxury restaurants. They also show different Quotes.

On that screen I read quote form Jony Ive, Who is Apple’s senior vice.

“The thing is, its very easy to be different, but very difficult to be better.”

I purchased Ipad 7generation 2019 version. And from the day onwards. I used to write all my thoughts on it. I used to make mind maps on it to formularies my ideas.

I feel they implement it in their products. They are better then their competitors.

But question is how we implement it in our life.

Most of the time, we change our look. We make our style different from others. How we speak. “Zarah haat kayee”. Little different. Different look and feel. Different hair style. Color different.

But when we start to become better. either better from what you are yesterday or what you are with your fellow colleague or family member. The idea of competing with yourself is amazing. But in practical life we have to complete others. When two people are of similar education and experience who wins between them. Who have better communication. Who show more then what you are.

Politics is also form of Communication. We expose other person weakness and show our strengths.

I read somewhere. If you did not do politics. You certainly will be under less capable people.

But if we did not have these skills which we show to management. Certainly we will be in very bad situation at that time. So we have to built these qualities. And built or acquiring these skills is the become better. And it really difficult.

Competition is reality. If you did not try to compete, others will defiantly do.

In life we have face cut throat competition. If we did not compete, they will cut our throat. So we have to cut others. Do or die.

So we have to study our opponent know his weakness, know his strength. And built our added advantages. And then we can become better then others.

In fast competitive market fitness is also become part of our profession.

That I did not found while working in Pakistan. Here is also one definition of smart consultant.

Smart in his work but also smart in looks.

Initially I was not considering this point but while sitting with manager. He gave me example. If I have to hire and two candidates of same qualification. One is fat and other is smart healthy guy. Which one I choose. Certainly I will choose the smart one.

One place I heard comments about one manager who is fat and big belly. He can not manage himself how he manage the work.

That’s true my friend. In real life, people try to look different. But actually they need to be better then their competitor. And this competition is really. And you have to accept this challenge.

To become better.

What we think we attract

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I was listening a story, They guy talks about once he was speaking ill for himself. And couple of months back same thing happens to him. Do we really attract what we think or say about ourself.

If you watched the move “Secret” there they talk about Law of attraction. The idea is simple, what you want you have to think about it. It means, what happens in our life mostly reflection of our thoughts. Either we think positive or negative. We think about it, and that happens.

For example, You are sitting in cafeteria . And you saw a girl coming looking very beautiful You attracted towards her, Now in your mind it comes negative thought, she will refuse me. And as result on your face there will negative expression appears. And she looked at you and negative feelings she face and she rejects you as result. If you mind think, I am smart energetic , And I can do that, Your face look happy, as result she response you in positive way, She will return you with happy face. If she is not interested, she will reply in positive way.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.”

We have to think about things we want in life. If we think about prosperity, defiantly we motivate and do extra work, side job, online business to earn extra. If we think about poverty, we will go more poor. We will demotivate when extra work we need to do. We avoid late night to write, read or work. Because life is bad, there is no benefit. Because we attract poverty.

Neoplien hill said in his book. “Whatever Your Mind Can Conceive and Believe, It Can Achieve.”

Everything constructed two times, once person mind then in real.

But the idea of illness comes in your mind and you will become ill is not possible.

But thats is true. What we think we find. If things are not in our way, then we will get something positive in it.

I heard some islamic Quote from saint “ Allah kaye fasaily Guoman per hoteye haan” Means Gods decisions are based on your thinking about matter.

Suppose you have to deal with the situation, unexpected situation. Now how you behave, is based on your thinking. If you have positive thinking, you get positive results, If you have negative thinking you will get negative results. That reason they said you attract these result.

Most of the time, our thoughts are negative. Our self talk is negative. We have to forcefully think positive. Dont resist your thoughts, just start thinking positive. With the passage of time our outlook about life become positive.

When some one start to ignore you…

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Some one wants to Ignore me. I ignored them. That usually happen, when things they want is completed. Expectation meet or not meet. Our need is over. So they started to ignore.

What to do when you feel some one ignore you. They felt right, act strangely when you visit them. Or try to communicate. It means they want to ignore you.

I heard the quote. “Once you feel avoided by some one never disturb them again”.

Actually, they are not ignoring you, they are busy in their own life. And solution to that busy in yours.

It said need is blessing. It is blessing that some one needs you. they need your attention.

According Buddha, expectation is reason for suffering. detachment is solution. Take no expectation.

Give them what they want. Solve their problem. Help them in their need. And then step back.

They want ignore you or spare you, intentionally they want the same from you. Give them what they want, never disturb them again.

Living in present moment

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I was traveling to office. In RTA bus, I feel loneliness. Loneliness is absence of interest in crowd. A lot of beautiful faces, young and old. All are having hope for bright day, But I feel loneliness. That is problem of every expat. Who came to foreign country to earn money. To make the living standard of family up to the mark.

I was listen one recorded audio of Wasif ali Wasif. Some one asking loneliness comes from outside world or comes from inside.

The answer was it comes from inside. And solution was keep yourself busy. Either memories of past.

But for me, memories of past creates disheartens, guilt and pain. But it ups to use to remember the good moments of life.

My grand mother used to said “ waqat to guzarna haye miyaan, rooah ker guzaro yaa hass ker”. We have to kill the time, its up to you either be happy or be sad.

Best way to kill the time, is live in the present moment. No worry about future and no regrets for past. We can force. it

And if you have to remember only good moments of life. When bad events start to appear shut up these memories.

The memories or events did not make happy or sad, Its our story attached to these memories made us happy or sad.

That is truth that most of happy people actually sad people. They find reason to make them happy.

Most important thing is when we took decision and understand what will be the consequences. Then what why be said.

Accept the life as it is.

Most important thing what we make sad that we did not accept something, we want something different but things are not happen as our expectation. So we have to accept the life as it is. We have to accept every situation that occur.

I read one quote that is attribute to buddah and also Wasif Ali Wasif that, The different between expectation and reality is “Dukha” Suffering or pain. So remove the expectation and accept the reality.

Enjoy the present moment. That pain suffering are the noises that did not accept or live in the present moment. acceptance creates our mind calm. At that moment, we start to listen our surrounding. What people talks about, Who are they, what they are doing.

So we have to enjoy the present moment. And for this we have to accept our reality. Stop resistance. When you happy, everything seems to be happy. Start observing your environment. Enjoy the moment.