Reyan was asking to get electric cycle. I told him get good results, but after effort he did not get good results. He failed many times.
I tried much, I provide him resources, but until, he is not willing to get good grades, no one can do that.
Today when I got his whats app message, I become little hursh on him.
I told him not to obssessed with anything. If you got it, then its fine, If not then let it go. We never get everything that we want.
Focus on your education. And when you got good grade, I will help you to purchase that. I did that by two reason.
We did not get everything, even kings has limit. Second, until you put efforts, than you understand that worth of efforts. Other wise you take things for granted and , you stop value those things.
But those moments, were very cruel for me. I feel the pain Reyan is facing. I felt many times, when things are beyond my reach. Many places, even I tried to achieve something but even tried I unable to achieve those things. So I just focus on my efforts, and detach from the output. Not every wish fullfil.
Joe Schmit is an award-winning broadcaster, community leader, and popular keynote speaker.
In this book, Joe Schmit teaches us how to be impactful in the lives of fellow beings.
If we have the three qualities of purpose, persistence, and passion, we can create a big impact on others.
Most of the time, we can create an impact on others when we stop trying to impress them.
And it is not necessary that any workplace worker in a higher position be impactful; it is possible that the person who cleans the office is more impactful.
To be impactful, we need to align our actions with our values.
With purpose, we can align our actions with our values. Those who align their values and actions in the workplace demonstrate integrity in their work.
Persistency in work and action creates results. We can become impactful when we have results.
By reaching the office on time, staying fully energized at work, and putting 100 percent effort into work, the positive routine impacts ups and downs in teams.
The work of impactful people reflects their passion. Their passion is making them the heart and soul of their work. They understand their team members and take an interest in their lives. And this passion is their key to a good relationship.
As parents, our integration is always on the line. And if our actions do not align with our actions, it will reflect on our children. We need to be very careful in our daily lives.
Impact resolution.
Instead, make a new-year resolution. That did not remain for long. Commit to a 30-day impact resolution. And remake it every month.
The most important resolution must be to never be petty with yourself. Whatever the situation, no matter how bad things are, someone else will take credit for your work. You need not be petty with yourself. If you pity yourself, others will make you more miserable.
The second resolution is less judgmental. Accept things as they are. Give one compliment each day. Be more patient. speak less and focus more on listening. When we focus more on listening, it helps us learn to be more generous and tolerant.
Being an impact player in life, we need to be committed to principles, even when no one is watching.
It is very interesting that being impactful does not require a lot of resources, a lot of skills, or a lot of strength. It is similar to what Mike McKninley once said.
“USE WHAT YOU GOT TO GET WHAT YOU WANT.”
It means we should understand our strengths and weaknesses and use them to achieve our goals.
Only by achieving our goals can we create a positive influence on others.
We can also create negative influence if we talk about our failures and bad things.
For example, on one of the private TV channels, human resources never hires a candidate who complains about their previous employer.
During the interview, they asked about why you decided to leave your previous company, and in the case of the candidate, they spoke about politics, bad behavior, and not good people working there. Human resources rejected that candidate. The reason for that is that all those organizations have similar problems. He who did not fit or handle will also fail here.
If we want to create an impact, never complain about a bad experience. It reflects that we are unable to handle the situation.
For success, there are no short cuts; you need consistent, persistent hard work.
Hard work and persistent preparation are needed to get to the top, no matter what industry.
There is a famous quote from pop singer Usher: “LUCK FAVORS THE PREPARED.”
Sometimes in life, we stay mediocre and less impactful when we think that we can settle for good while we can do better. We will be impactful. when we continuously think and put effort into staying at the top of the game while we are already at the top of our industry.
It is our responsibility to stay away from negative people. They create an impact on us, which leads to further impact on our family and team members.
If we find ourselves as negative people, then take decisions and make conscious efforts to stay positive or stay quiet. Always think and act as an impactful person; your actions can influence your fellow beings. So always keep this in mind and control your actions and behavior.
Persistence is the key to achievement. If you want to succeed in business, you need to be persistent. the spirit of achieving a big goal that stays persistent and celebrates the small wins. And learn from your mistakes.
If you face adversity, you intentionally do and think differently, so different results appear. The only way to influence your future self is by living intentionally.
Influential people always remember that the journey to achieve something is more important than the award they receive. In life, there are no shortcuts. To achieve something, you pay the price. It’s important to learn how to win and how to lose. You need to build relationships both in school and in your professional life.
Happiness is intention. Control is illusent; you have intention. You have intentional control over your actions and your reactions to things. In the morning, we get up with the intention of staying positive or negative. You cannot control what happens outside the world, but you can still control how you respond to it and how you approach life.
One way to wake up in the morning and stay positive is to think of all the great things in your life. If you don’t have one, make a list, count them in the morning, and think of the great day ahead. This will help you stay motivated and achieve success every day. This list is your security blanket for bad days.
Aruther talks about how you can be influential only when you feel good about yourself; instead, you are a person of influence when everyone around you feels good about themselves in your company.
You can do that by lifting someone’s self-esteem.
Always say something positive about someone. You can always find something good in them. Make it a practice to praise others more and condemn only those who require it.
If you have a positive attitude, you can create a positive impact. Positive attitudes, including smiles, a friendly attitude, and a heart of gratitude, help to make an impact.
Sometimes, we make a motto and then start chasing it, which makes us impactful and successful. For example, Dave Thomes started Wendy’s in November 1969. He stated that his goal was to serve great hamburgers. He made a motto: “Quality is our recipe.” He built his empire around this motto, “which decided to deliver what to the community.
We all have seven days in the week. It’s up to us to make something special.
To stay motivated to achieve your goals and to understand your trigger point, the same pain that makes you decide to quit also helps you stay motivated. Remember the pain, after which you decided to push yourself to be the best?
To be successful in your company, your job, or your personal life, take and implement the three Ps.
Purpose, persistence, and passion.
By implementing these three Ps in our lives, we can make our Mount Rushmore.
Improve yourself and become influential. when people use the word impact or influence. Look where they point, and study those people who are considered influential in that context. What characteristics do they have? Understand and implement those things in your life. Be honest with yourself in those areas that need improvement.
You should make a purposeful commitment to yourself—what you want to achieve and why you want it—and put your commitment and efforts into achieving it.
Do you also suffer from procrastination or the sticky habits of overeating? Are you having a tough time removing such bad habits from life? If yes, then you are at the right place to eliminate such habits. Habits are classified into good and bad ones and people try to keep themselves away from the bad ones. Everyone has certain kinds of habits either bad for them or good. There is this famous saying that when there are two wolves one in the dark and the other in the light. Which one will grow? The one you feed. Likewise, the bad habits become stronger and harder to leave when you keep pounding your head on them to make them firm. There is a famous American scientist Dr.BJ Fogg who has developed a framework to quit bad habits and his framework includes three elements motivation, ability and triggers all of which are discussed in this video.
Habits, like always delaying your important tasks, checking your phones in the meeting, and always snoozing alarms, can damage your reputation and make you turn into the villain of your own story. In this video, we will explore why we even develop habits?
The development of a habit entirely involves the psychological part of our body. The formation of either bad or good habits is related to the psychology of our brain. When we tend to repeat our tasks all day every day it becomes a memory of our brain and it tends to do it repetitively and automatically. Those habits become part of your unconscious brain and they begin to perform those activities without any initiative. For instance, drinking caffeine daily in the morning will become your habit and you will get irritated and annoyed when you won’t be able to have it on some random day. That’s how bad habits affect our mental health and lure us to think that we have been on the right path. Bad habits are part of the unconscious brain so it is hard to spot them. The pleasure you get from performing bad habits makes it harder for an individual to leave them instantly.
The bad habits are difficult to quit but they are not impossible to leave. Let us dig into some ways to overcome bad habits.
Identifying the cause of your habit
The best way to solve a problem is to find the root cause of that problem. Identifying which one of the factors is causing that habit to form and process is a necessary part of quitting that peculiar habit. How do we identify the cause of bad habits? Begin to analyze your schedule and your day-to-day activities that which are those activities which are stimulating such habits. For instance, some people have a habit of smoking, now you have to analyze which factors are triggering smoking. Most individuals start smoking just to fight stress and depression. In order to overcome such habits, people tend to involve them with bad habits of overeating, alcohol consumption and smoking. After finding the triggers to your habits, try to stay away from such triggers. When you have enough self-awareness about yourself, you will try to stay away from such triggers.
Use replacements
There is one psychologist named Shawn Achor who prefers to put obstacles in the way of your bad habits so it may become easy for you to get rid of them. For instance, if you have a bad habit of repeatedly checking your Instagram then you can try to remove this habit by uninstalling the application. When we are constantly involved in a task, it becomes our unintentional habit and muscle memory to do that. If you have a bad habit of gossiping about people at work, you can avoid it by playing any game in that particular lunchtime. You can always use replacements and tactics to avoid certain bad habits. You can also flip the bad habits by using them into positive ones so you may keep yourself away from harm. How can you do it? If you have a bad habit of criticising people, try praising them instead for their little good habits. You can always replace the bad habits with the good ones when you have proper self-awareness.
Reward yourself
A sense of accomplishment is acknowledged only when it is awarded with some reward. In order to make yourself good about breaking the habit, it is necessary that you start acknowledging your progress. Rewarding yourself with little treats releases a sense of accomplishment and makes you feel more motivated. For constant motivation to give up on your habits, it is necessary to stay dedicated and consistent. Start to associate yourself with all the good habits by realising all the good rewards at your destination. The quench of seeking your favourite reward at the end will help you remain dedicated.
Concluding the whole video, bad habits are not impossible to give up on. We can always look for some better ways to overcome our fears and bad habits. We hope you guys enjoyed this video. For more interesting content, Don’t forget to like, share and subscribe to our channel. Thank you.
Don’t forget to reward yourself at the end of the accomplishment of quitting a habit. This will keep you dedicated and consistent.
Hi friends, Today I am going to share the book summary of “Traveler Gift” by Andy Andrews.
This is the transformation story of a person who tried to quit his life, but during qoma, he met seven biblical and historical figures who gave him different advice, and after awakening, he implemented those seven lessons in his life to improve his quality of life.
The story of a person who is in his mid-40s is about almost failure in everything. His daughter was in the hospital, full of debt. He was in desperate need of money for his only daughter, but due to stress and aggression, he was fired from his job. In total disappointment, he started to think that, due to his inability to meet the needs and expectations of his family, he should quit his life. He thinks that is the only way to provide a better future for his family. After his death, his wife will find a good husband, and that person will take care of his girl. On a cold winter night, he hit his car into a tree. As a result, he went to Comma.
During this period, he met many historical and biblical figures, and he even met himself in the future.
All these people gave him their wisdom. I am going to share this wisdom. And if we apply this wisdom to our lives, our future is bright, regardless of our age.
Lesson 1: Harry S. Truman: The buck stops here.
David met first with Harry Truman. Harry Truman talks about how the first lesson is to accept the responsibility of life.
You have to accept the resuscitation of the choice you made in the past. Responsibility for who you are now is a result of your past choices. Our actions are directed by our thinking. If we want to have a different future, we have to make different choices. We have different ways of thinking and acting. We stop blaming our present situation on our parents, friends, wives, and relatives. We have to accept responsibility for our thoughts and actions. We consider every problem an opportunity to grow and learn.
The past is gone, but the future is still in our hands.
Lesson 2: King Solomon: I will seek wisdom.
In his second visit, David meets biblical figure King Solomon. He advised David to seek
wisdom.
How to prepare for the future is by seeking wisdom and taking responsibility.
Most of the time, we took inspiration from the people with whom we spent time. If we take
company of cursed and complaining people, we also develop a victim mindset.
It is a common saying that we are the average of five people with whom we are associated in life.
We have to guard our association. Intentionally or unintentionally, we follow our mentor in life. For example, Solomon explains that his father was his mentor. Your teacher, uncle, actor, or any other figure will possibly be mentioned. So seek wisdom from their lives.
We have to take the present problems as challenges, and facing these challenges will result in a better future. We have to increase our wisdom by reading books, watching YouTube videos, listening to podcasts, and observing and studying the lives of successful people.
Seeking wisdom to overcome the thoughts, doubts, and fears in life
Lesson 3: Col. Joshua Chamberlain: I am a person of action.
Third wisdom. David got it from Joshua Chamberlain, who taught David that the only solution to all problems is to take action.
Take charge and take action. Even if we do not have all the necessary resources, we can still take action. What is best possible? We have to. Many times, we did not take action and stayed in the same location. In life, we take decisions quickly and do not let change happen. They take decisions and start taking actions. With these actions, they will no longer be afraid.
They did not fear other people’s opinions, gossip, idle chatter, or all those things.
For men of action, failure is a myth. Failure exists only for the person who quits.
Lesson 4: Christopher Columbus: I have a decided heart
The fourth lesson David learned from Columbus was to have a detached heart and ignore what people think about him.
The truth is the truth, whatever the situation. The truth is never dependent on the opinions of others.
Many people did not make efforts to change due to fear of the opinions of others and were doomed to mediocrity.
If you worry about what other people think of you, which results in you having more confidence in them than in yourself, poor is the man whose future depends on the opinions and permission of others. The only solution to criticism is that you will die doing nothing.
To achieve something, you must have a decisive heart. Many people fail because they lack a decisive heart. They are not committed from the heart.
“Most people fail at whatever they attempt because of an undecided heart. Should I? Should I not? Go forward? Go back? Success requires the emotional balance of a committed heart.
“Getting started, getting finished—both ends of a journey require a demonstration of passion.”
Passion only comes from the heart. Its product is a heart decision.
Lesson 5: Anne Frank: Today I will choose to be happy.
In his next visit, David meets Anne Frank. She provides her way to always stay happy, regardless of the situation.
Whatever condition we have or whatever challenges we are facing, it’s up to us to stay happy.
What ever is in us that takes us to the top, instead of what color or race we belong to?
Happyness is the result of certain thoughts and activities, which are actually chemical reactions.
In body. So we have to focus on these thoughts, which makes us happy.
The smile is our calling card.
Many times in life, we have to face injustices based on color, race, and nationality. But absolutely, what matters is what is inside us. It’s like a balloon; whatever its color or size, it goes up due to what’s inside it. It does matter what we think. Similary, we have to choose what we think to be.
Lesson 6: Abraham Lincoln: I will greet this day with a forgiving spirit.
On his next trip, David meets the present Abhraim Licon. Lincon described how important it is to have a forgiving spirit.
People make mistakes, either intentionally or unintentionally. Hurt us. If we are in a leadership position, we have to deal with people. We can use their strength only when we are able to forgive them. They make mistakes and make wrong decisions.
Lincon takes David to the graveyard. It shows that our hearts are like graveyards. You have to bury disappointment, anger, frustation, misbehavior, and other things here. As in the past, all events that occurred in the past are now dead; bury them.
The only way to become a good husband, father, or leader is to forgive others.
In a similar way, when someone hurts us or does not meet our expectations, we become angry. When we were going to sleep, those moments came into our minds. And we did not get good sleep.
There are two types of forgiveness we require: forgiving ourselves for our mistakes and failures Why? Because, instead of focusing on future outcomes, we were struck by the past. The second is unconditional forgiveness for others.
We all have failures in life and in business, but we all have success in our lives. But if we are still thinking about failure, we will not stay happy due to our success. So to enjoy the present moment, better sleep, and the company of our friends, we need to be forgiven.
Licon also advises David about the quest for power. Before that, Davide, think that power is wrong. But Licon told him that power in the right hand results in good things. If you have power, then you can help your management deliver more.
Lesson 7: Gabriel the Archangel: I will persist without exception
The next lesson that Ponder learned was from the archangel Gabriel.
Archangel Gabriel told David that he would persist without exception.
Successful people always focus on the outcome. There is a possibility that the process is not enjoyable, long, and boring, but they pressurize without exception only due to their focus on outcome.
Gabriel asked David, “Is he a man of faith or a man of fear? It means that in our lives, there are two main motivational forces: belief that I can do it or fear. We do things out of fear of something, like being fired, having someone else win, or being shown less than us. fear that one day we will be empty. Both are different.
We have to be men of reason. Why do we do things that we do? We definitely have reasons.
Gabriel, it’s up to us how circumstances affect us. Circumstances are excuses for poor men. It is the wise man who recognizes opportunities and uses them to his advantage.
To be a wise man, study, get lessons from the circumstances, and apply that knowledge to get a brighter future. A depressed person usually overthinks what will happen to him; instead, he focuses on what he actually wants and how he will achieve it.
A depressed person faces the situation and overthinks,
Average people usually compare themselves to others and achieve something, but successful people also compare themselves to their true potential. What they can achieve if they realize their full potential
Hi friends, I hope you like the book summary.
So it’s our time; whatever the condition we have, we have to take charge, take responsibility, be happy with what we have, whatever the condition we are, and have a dedicated heart. and take action, because without action, nothing is accomplished in life. The desire to work with others and for the betterment of ourselves is forgiven; there is a graveyard in our hearts where we bury our anger, expectations, and other things others said to us. If we still think about what others say or think about us, we will not reach where we want to reach. We have to be persistent, without exception. In the case of difficulties, frustation, and disheartness, we have to focus on the outcome. There are two types of motivation in life. Fear and faith Focus on faith. faith in the certainty of the future
I was standing in front of a big clothing brand outlet. It was the winter season, and there was a big sale or promotion.
There was a 50% price reduction. I stopped, I checked my pocket, and I could spend money.
Would I purchase these clothes? But what about those clothes, which are still more than I need?
Would I really need these? While I have good-condition clothes
Is this necessary? The answer was no. I don’t need it. There are chances that I will never wear this.
The only question that keeps you frugal is, “Is this my need or want?” If it is needed, you can spend money. If it’s what you want, there is a chance you can save money.
Hey guys, welcome back to the consultant mindset. I hope you guys are doing great. Addictions are something that is hard to overcome, even by practising multiple remedies. There are several types of addiction, which may include smoking addiction, drug addiction, vaping addiction, or even nicotine addiction. In this video, we will talk about multiple ways in which we can overcome smoking habits. Are you a smoker? If yes, then you are going to find this video informative for quitting it. Quitting smoking is a hell of a big task, whether you are an occasional smoker or a chronic smoker. An addiction is never easy to overcome, specifically when it is nicotine- or tobacco-related. Smoking has not only physiological impacts but also adverse impacts on one’s mental health. The main ingredient in tobacco is nicotine, and nicotine has chronic effects on users’ health. Nicotine directly impacts your nervous system, causing it to release dopamine, which is the happy hormone. Why do people become addicted to it? The mere reason for becoming addicted to tobacco smoke is its ultimate impact on mental well-being. According to some surveys, people have various reasons for smoking. For instance, some people smoke to cope with depression, anxiety, and stress so they can provide themselves with mental relief. Some individuals opted for smoking as a fashion, while others started it under the influence of their bad company.
Is smoking a daily ritual? The answer to this question is definitely yes. People have developed an instinct for smoking; they have unintentionally included smoking as a part of their daily activities. For instance, some people have included smoking in their breakfast routine, while others have included it in their coffee routine. In order to gain a full stop to smoking, you need to identify the routes of habit and the triggers that are ultimately causing you to smoke drastically. It is nearly impossible to quit smoking immediately, but it can be done in phases and gradually. Let’s dig into the video to find out some useful ways to overcome the chronic habit of smoking.
To keep track of your smoking, several questions need to be answered. For instance, you have to ask yourself questions like, Are you a heavy smoker? Or are you an occasional smoker? Are there certain activities or people associated with this habit? Do you buy cigarettes when you are feeling down or stressed out? All of these factors are to be taken into account so that your smoking routine can be traced. After having answers to these questions, the strategy to quit smoking will take place.
Avoid triggers
Tiggers are those products that aggravate your need to smoke. For instance, alcohol, e-cigarettes, people who smoke around you, or the end of any meal People who smoke around you make it challenging for you to quit smoking, so try to stay away from such people or else publicly announce your decision to quit smoking so that smokers won’t smoke around you. Some people develop this habitual thing of making themselves light at the end of every meal with the help of cigarettes. However, this meal-lightening strategy needs to be replaced with fruit or some kind of dessert. If there is a peculiar kind of trauma that triggers your depression to inhale smoke, try to avoid such gatherings or such conversations. You just have to be self-aware of yourself so that you can avoid environmental triggers to prevent yourself from developing this addiction. Are you guys aware of your triggers? If yes, then let me know in the comment section.
Chew on it.
The main goal of quitting smoking is to give your mouth something distracting so that it may not crave smoke. In order to solve this dilemma, it is highly recommended to begin chewing gum or lozenges in its place. This way, you will trick your brain into chewing gum or candy and stay away from tobacco smoke.
Don’t have “just one.”
In the journey of rehabilitation, various thoughts in your mind provoke you to take just one last cigarette. You don’t have to fool yourself into such vicious thoughts because the circle goes on and on and you never get to quit smoking tobacco. So try to overcome that “one last cigarette,” because it’s just a foolish act to destroy yourself.
Get physical
Engage yourself in physical activities, which can aid you in overcoming your tobacco smoking habits. Try running, doing workouts, and going upstairs and downstairs in your office, which can help you engage yourself while keeping you away from the craving for smoke.
Try relaxation methods.
Some people have seen the aggravation of smoking due to increased stress and mental health issues. Try some relaxing activities like yoga, massage, meditation, and deep breathing so that you can keep yourself away from stress, which ultimately prevents you from smoking.
Seek moral support from family and friends.
Ask your family members or friends to regularly support you in quitting smoking. The moral support helps you boost your mental and physical courage. Mental power is extremely important to fight anything. The restrictions exist only in our minds, so break those boundaries and overcome your fears.
Remind yourself of the benefits.
Start journaling about your journey and all the blessings you have received so far. When you keep track of your assets, you are less likely to fall and leap behind. The bounties give you the motivation to overcome all the possible addictions. When you remember the benefits, like getting healthy, feeling better, saving money, and saving your life, you eventually feel worthy of doing the hard stuff.
Try nicotine replacement therapy.
The nicotine replacement therapy requires the aid of medical and professional healthcare. You can buy lozenges, gums, nicotine patches, or prescribed non-nicotine stop-smoking drugs such as bupropion.
Manage cravings
Whenever you crave a cigarette, try applying suppressive strategies like distracting yourself by watching TV, using the phone, or spending time with family. Get out of the tempting situation and remember why you started the whole journey.
Reward yourself
A brain works better when it is rewarded for performing a certain task. This reward works as motivation to keep going on your journey.
Concluding the whole video, smoking is injurious to health, and its addiction is difficult to overcome. By following these strategies, you can easily quit smoking. Stay tuned for more interesting content.
Sometimes in life, we have a lot of unsettled issues. Emotions are buried inside us.
And when things are not going in our direction, these unsettled emotions pop up in our minds.
Sometimes there is no issue or problem in life. And then suddenly, buried emotions start to pop up.
We start to ask questions of us.
“Why do those things happen to me? Why he or she said to me, How she treated me in such a way.”.
Most of these things happened almost a decade ago.
Sometimes, from unknown sources, negative thoughts start to appear in our minds. This will happen if I move this way. There are chances that I will be fired from this job. One of the most important thoughts is what others think of us.
That’s true; life is never easy; it’s cruel. We cannot control our thoughts. As a result, we become victims of our thoughts.
We cannot control our thoughts, but we can avoid being victims of them.
One way is to start thinking in terms of consequences.
When a strange thought starts to appear in your mind, Start to think about its consequences.
For example, 20 years ago, one girl rejected me, and she enjoyed the company of some other person. When this incident came to mind, I started feeling the pain of rejection, and as a result, either I became angry or I became sad. My head starts to get heavy, and sadness and disappointment start to appear in my mind.
when I realized the result of this thought on my personality. I stop focus on those thoughts and forcibly think on other direction.
And this idea consequence helps me control my thoughts.
When letting go is not possible or thoughts are repeatedly coming into our mind. Then only solution is focus on consequences. What are results I face if I continue focus on that thought.
The only secret here is that when we start thinking about something, random thoughts disappear.
When you start in terms of consequences, our thoughts starts to disappear.
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