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Hey guys, I hope you are doing great. Welcome to the Consultant Mindset. Everyone is striving to fulfill their necessities. All of us are working day and night to get our things done. When was the last time that you thought of focusing on yourself? When was it when you realised this fact that you need some kind of self-care as well?  There is nothing wrong with thinking about yourself and fulfilling your necessities. Whenever we do something for ourselves, people perceive it as arrogant or self-obsessive behaviour. However, it aint true. Doing something for yourself and rewarding oneself with rewards is a form of self-love. 

What Do We Mean By Focusing on Yourself?

Focusing on yourself means one should prioritize his needs and basic desires. Giving up on your necessities due to some critiques aint worth it.  The main factor of jealousy doesn’t let people see anyone live in peace. Focusing on oneself means that you are treating yourself like a royal. You are rewarding yourself at the end of the accomplishment of every task. This is what we call self-love. According to psychology, you cannot love someone unless you start loving yourself. That indicates it is necessary to love yourself to love people closer to you. When giving yourself a slave treatment, how do you expect to give your loved ones a royal treatment?

There can be no failure to a man who has not lost his courage, his character, his self-respect, or his self-confidence. He is still a King.

Orison Swett Marden

The biggest portion of focusing on oneself involves self-care and self-love. You may feel selfish and self-absorbed but start to think about it from a different angle.  Today’s society is merely involved in pleasing people. They don’t know what they want. They are just running in the constant race of pleasing people with no ending line at all. They are just living their lives according to the desires of the masses. The true self of the majority has vanished. When someone criticises us, we start to change ourselves without even realising that we are going towards a negative development.  How can we practice self-love?

Self-love needs acceptance.  Giving oneself enough space to accept his true self is a positive development. It leads you to accept your flaws and develop a love for yourself. When we set standards for a perfect human being, we become less likely to achieve them. To err is human; to forgive is divine. Humans are not bots, so they are imperfect. Imperfections are the identifiers that make us distinguished from the bots. Developing empathy and compassion for oneself leads you to be empathetic towards others. If you are treating yourself right, you are gonna treat people surrounding you with kindness and sympathy. 

Why is it Important to Focus on Yourself?

Focusing on oneself makes you realise your self-worth. It increases your self-confidence ad boosts your self-morale. You start to become the ultimate beast. You start realising what you deserve. You set boundaries and standards. Self-confidence does not allow you to settle for less.  

Every human has four endowments – self-awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom… The power to choose, to respond, to change.

Stephen Covey

So, have you ever pondered about what you want in your life? Have you ever realised what kind of lifestyle you are living? Are you living according to people or yourself? This is a dire need of today’s era to realise this fact that what we want with our lives.

Make Sure You are Seeking What You Want

There are times in our lives when we acquire opinions from our elders or friends.  You can just take their guidance to guide you through the way. But it does not mean that you get swayed away from your desired destination. When listening to others, we somehow manage to get ourselves trapped in their words. We start doing what they recommend us to do unintentionally. However, asking for opinions and doing the whole thing according to them are two different perspectives.  Make sure to stick to your desires.

Let People Feel How They Feel

If people close to you are upset about your self-focus attitude, then let them be alone for a while. Let them process their emotions. We cannot make everyone happy now. We have to establish ourselves. They will feel strange for a while, but when they will get to know about your boundaries; they will eventually get used to it.

Be Kind to Yourself

Give yourself enough room to grow. Reserve time for yourself and carry out your hobbies in that time. There will be times when you gonna have some negative thoughts about yourself. Never let them move you away from your destination. Be kind to yourself and use your spare time for your self-care.

Kindness in words creates confidence. Kindness in thinking creates profoundness. Kindness in giving creates love.

Lao Tzu

Start saying ‘no’

To please people, we cannot make ourselves deny them. For instance, if someone invited us to a party and he didn’t feel like going, then he probably should have enough courage to refuse them. But that is not how it goes. We think more about people than think about ourselves. We are worried about what they think about us. In all this amusement, we have forgotten ourselves and are living a life of what others want us to be. Most of us are reflections of what people want us to be.

Concluding this whole discussion, focusing on your self-care and self-love plays an integral role in your development. That’s all for today’s video. Hope you guys enjoyed it. Stay tuned for more interesting videos.

If someone already takes credit for your work, then you must consider this

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Are you failing in life? Are you putting in a lot of effort? But someone else takes the credit.

I was facing this problem in my life. And recently, I met a complete failure. Failure is not due to a lack of skill, knowledge, or ability to present. I failed for only one reason. Let me explain a little detail here.

Being frustrated, I start searching. On all books, blogs, and YouTube videos, the same things I found

  • goals and planning.
  • hard work.
  • Accept failure with an open heart.
  • perseverance and persistence.

If you apply these things, one day you will succeed.

I am getting frustrated at not knowing why I failed.

The idea came to mind: what about Chanakya? What he taught his student to build a kingdom And why still, some ancient knowledge resurfaces.

When I searched for Chanankiya, I found that we did not know much about him. Being Pakistanis, we have a very bad impression of Chankiaya. I heard he was a very clever man. Not even a single publication on Chanakiya In Pakistan.

Even When I searched on the Internet, I found that only “Radhakrishnan Pillai” wrote some books in the light of the wisdom of Chanakya.

I feel the knowledge and wisdom of Chanakiya have been lost. We are unable to place him like Plato and Socrates.

Thanks to Amazon, I purchased one book, “Think Like Chanakya,” as a kindle.

I used to purchase books on my kindle, and the Amazon kindle app on Windows is a replacement for reading these books.

“Think Like Chankaya” writer Radhakrishnan Pillai sahib mentioned that according to Chanakya, four things are required as subject matter experts.

  1. Right thinking. You are capable of making the right decisions.
  2. Knowledge of the Vedas. The Vedas are knowledge of that time. At the moment, I consider it mastering the subject. Bookish knowledge of your field
  3. Knowledge of the economy. What will sell, and what will not? Demand and supply
  4. Knowledge and science of Politics.

I discovered the first three points. I am a knowledgeable person. I have already implemented it in my personal and professional lives. The only thing missing is Politics.

I was left behind due to Politics.

Plato: One of the penalties of refusing to participate in politics is that you end up being governed by your inferiors.’

Without politics, you cannot get ahead.

So every task has two parts.

  • Do the task.
  • Show the completed task.

You cannot be successful until you are able to show your work. Showing your work requires a lot of concentration. We can compete with others only through office politics.

And this is reality.

Previously, I thought politics were bad. But now that I think either is bad or good, I have to learn the art and science of politics. This is the way to go.

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Hey guys welcome back to the consultant mindset. I hope you guys are doing great. You all must be striving for some goals in your life. Everyone is working in their zones to get to the zenith. But are they heading towards that point? Is there anything unnecessary stopping you to achieve your goals? If yes, let me know in the comment section.  Sometimes things happen, and we fail to get what we want to achieve. Regardless of our hard work and untiring effort we somehow don’t manage to get our goals. The most common and typical problem these days is show-off. People like to flaunt their success and achievements. however, this show-off does not help them achieve their goals. Before we get further. If you have not subscribed to our channel yet, then click the subscribe button and press the bell icon so you never miss any notifications from our channel.

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According to some scientific research, announcing your goals publicly releases a neurotransmitter dopamine that is responsible for the feeling of satisfaction in your body. When you tell your goals to anyone,the chances of achieving them start to lower eventually.  It is highly recommended to stay silent unless you achieve your goals. Announcing your goals publicly means you are adding more pressure on yourself. You are inviting unnecessary distractions to deviate you from the main destination.  As a result of all talk, people think that you are being a hypocrite who just talks and can never do anything in life.

Everything that’s created comes out of silence. Your thoughts emerge from the nothingness of silence. Your words come out of this void. Your very essence emerged from emptiness. All creativity requires some stillness.

Wayne Dyer

This post is all about working in silence. Never tell anyone about your next move.  What do we mean by working in silence?

Like is too short to worry about what others think about you. You are too busy to prove to anyone what you are capable of. Each of us is an equally capable human, and we don’t need anyone’s validation. The lesser you brag about your destination, the more likely you are going to get it.  Let your hard work be loud enough to make noise of your success. Telling everyone your goals beforehand makes you even more nervous and anxious to achieve them.  Constantly feeling the pressure and anxiety of not letting them down eventually lowers your work capacity. An individual’s efficiency is eventually lowered when he is constantly under pressure. When you think of people’s expectations, you start to put more effort under humongous stress. Any decision made under pressure yields no result even though you are putting in a great effort. Many people allow the public to invade their lives. They allow them to do whatever they want with their lives. Such people start living their lives according to other people’s opinions.  The marketing of success snatches the core competency of an individual. 

 “Silence at the proper season is wisdom, and better than any speech.” – Plutarch

There are some silent productivity tips which you can apply to continue work in silence. Are you aware of those tips? If yes, let me know.

Set Clear Goals

Clarity of thoughts is an important step. Are you aware of yourself? Have you ever tried to find your true self? A self-aware individual never fails to achieve anything. He gets what he desires. Almost all of us are aware of our capabilities. We know our potential and capacities. When you are going on a journey, choose a destination first.  A person without goals is just like a person wandering in a dark blind tunnel.  Organize your tangled thoughts and become self-aware of what you want in your life. 

Visualise Success

Visualising success means the power of imagination of the human mind. Imagine yourself achieving that peculiar goal. But not revealing it to anyone else is a must condition.  Just imagine yourself getting those achievements and feeling the breeze of that splendid euphoria. This way it will burn the lighter of hard work in your heart. And you will continue to push harder to enjoy that moment of euphoria. Visualising success is better than telling others. In this world, not all people are happy for us. Some jealousy factors are present in people that do not let them see anyone else ahead of them. That is one of the major reasons we should not tell anyone about our future goals.

Practice Self-Discipline

To avoid distractions, try to remain disciplined. Practice discipline even when no one is watching you. Self-discipline is necessary for one’s personal growth. Regulating your actions and performing them on time is essential to maintain the zone of your personal growth. A self-disciplined mind goes for a step-wise procedure and performs tasks.

I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who conquers his enemies; for the hardest victory is over self.

Aristotle

Practice Mindfulness and Reward Yourself

Mindfulness meditation helps you get over anxiety, overthinking, stress, depression and many more mental illnesses. It is advised to keep up with meditation. It seems quite easy, but has major impacts on the human mind. After completion of the task, don’t forget to reward yourself. Since you are working in your zone. You cannot expect rewards from others. Try to keep yourself motivated by rewarding yourself with little sweets at the end of the completion of every ask.

Concluding the whole discussion, it is essential to keep your goals private. Let your success throw the enchanting melody of your untiring hard work.

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When someone told you I have a doctor’s appointment.

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Most of the time, we did not think before speaking. We speak because we want to share.

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A couple of days ago, I learned this lesson. I got a call from my friend from the USA. We worked together in a software company, and he became my buddy. Couple of days back. He was facing a problem with sciatica, and the doctor wanted to remove the disk from his backbone. I was sitting in the room alone, seeking someone to talk to.

I got a call from him; he just told me that I have a doctor’s appointment. Instead of speaking further, I just started sharing my experience with illness. That happens; this happens; nobody cares; doctors are making money. If I just wait a few days, I can save money on all those things. When I discuss all my experiences, I feel light, but I find he becomes more depressed. He was in pain; he wanted to share. Instead of listening to him, I made him more worried. He wants to share that he has had a small operation to remove a disk from his backbone. He started weeping about what would happen tomorrow. I shared my friend’s problem with him instead of listening to him.

It was a very embarrassing situation for me. I feel that I need to change. I would not share my experience and knowledge about the problem. I just have to listen. What I learned is that whenever someone tells you that I have a doctor’s appointment, You have to just reply, “You will be well soon”. And try to listen to him and give him hope that things will be better. Never ever share your or others people stories with him.

Deadline is reaching I have 6 weeks and Good Omens are here

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Ah, I have 6 weeks, but 3 days have already passed. I start searching for jobs and apply to different places. Try to connect different people.

Today, on a hot summer day in Riyadh, I was walking in line under trees with little shadow. I was feeling a little depressed, thinking about what would happen after September 5. My company will find another job for me because my contract will end. If I get a job without their help, will they cooperate with me or not?

What will happen? Possible stress was on my face. The temperature was more than 50 degrees Celsius. While walking on the footpath, Mercedes stopped. I was surprised. An Arab in Modern dress in his mid-30s gave me a chilled water bottle. The moment I saw and touched the bottle, a smile and happiness came to my face. He enjoyed my expressions, and I thanked him, and his car moved away. I was thinking that this is God’s omen for me, that if I trust in God, things will be better. Or It is just a normal incident.

How this idea came into my mind In Dubai, I have one Hindu friend who has a lot of knowledge. Another question is about his knowledge of right and wrong. He told me, God is in everyone, and when you were in trouble And called him, he replied to you indirectly. I don’t believe in this ideology.

I just know that good people are everywhere, which is why he gave me a chilled water bottle. Because Allah added it to his heart to distribute water. The idea came to him from Allah. So everything is from Allah.

Never give up. But where to start? Here is my story of change

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In life, we meet failure. Life broke us. It is tougher when others are moving ahead and you stay tired and frustrated. surprised at what’s wrong with you. In real life, there is a lot going on. Much is behind us that is invisible to us. According to the law of attraction, we attract them. That’s true; situations that happen to us are due to our mistakes or poor planning. Here is my story from failure to success:

In my early 40s, I stopped coding. Younger people are much faster and quicker than me. I was working in ERP development. 10 years ago, I accidentally started working in Microsoft ERP. But in the last decade, I started to realize that everything was already developed. There is no need for development in the ERP stack. I said that after 3 years of experience, you automatically get functional (Product ) knowledge.

So after that, I started that journey. I got a job in a foreign Arab country. And For three years, I worked as a support consultant. That implementation is already complete. And I support and implement new modules. I helped different end users with their queries and validated their requirements.

It was successful. Then I switched jobs and went into the consulting field. Initially, I worked hard and got required documents signed, but office politics I was unable to handle. A lot of my efforts were going against me. After 7 months of efforts, I decided to quit, mentally broken, discouraged, and frustrated.

As I was living behind a closed door, My first functional job was the same. Behind the closed door. I feel like a failure.

Finally, my manager asked me if we were going to release you within 6 weeks.

It is really stressful for me. I found that I failed. I failed to prove myself. Here are a few things I want to change:

Accept the failure.

I have to accept my failure, regardless of my extensive knowledge. Unable to meet expectations.

I decided to accept that failure. Accept it with an open heart. I found that until we accept the problem, we will not change it in the future.

Stop weeping:

I was discouraged. I was more focused on what others said. And I shared more about it. I talk a lot about my failures with my wife. My children, my friends, and my colleagues My colleagues listen to me. It feels like some shoulder But actually, they enjoy my failure. While my family starts to think that I am not capable.

I realize that the more we talk about something, the more we attract it.

The second thing I did was stop discussing my failure. Complete silent. If someone comes to me to discuss it, I zip my lips. In Punjabi, we say “Daar waat jaa”. Means, keep holding your tongue tight with your teeth. So stop discussing it with anyone. Except sit alone, weep over it, and learn from it. But stop discussing it with others.

Share your success:

People love to hear success stories. I started sharing these. Initially, when I started sharing my success, People ran from it. But slowly, I got better at sharing my stories. People like to change stories; I start with sharing.

Start building relationships with people.

I am an introvert. How do I understand whether I am an introvert or an extravert? The only answer is that If you have an option for the weekend, either you go party with friends or stay home to watch videos.

But the quality of life depends on the quality of our relationships with others.

So I start making relationships with others.

Focus on one small improvement per day:

Roam is not built in a day. Change occurs slowly. Focus on small changes and track them.

I started focusing on small steps. One step at a time, I start to compare myself to yesterday. Instead of focusing on my destination, I just focus on the next step. And forget about All the details I have. Just focus on my next step.

Use reflection.

I read somewhere that experience does not come with work or events; it comes from reflection on work or events. So I started to reflect. I start following the what, so what, and now what strategies.

In the evening, I start writing down everything that happens. How can I deal with these events and situations?

What can I do better? And the very next day, I started applying these rules.

Always stay positive.

We all become negative. All negative thoughts come into our minds. Bad things happen; our plan did not go well. But the only thing that keeps us going is our positive attitude. Let it go, reorganize energetically, and put in hard work. Remember, whatever the situation, we can control our attitude.

So these are some tips I implemented in my life, and now I am one of the best consultants in the job market.

Just be positive. Have a plan, focus on the next step you have, and continue to make gradual improvements.

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Hey guys welcome to consultant mindset. I hope you guys are doing great. Give me a thumbs up in the comments section if you have ever faced anxiety, stress, depression or overthinking. These mentioned mental disorders are pretty common these days. Due to certain causes, many people have been suffering from such illnesses. One of the main causes is a sluggish lifestyle. How can we prevent such maladies? well, there are many ways by which you can avoid such conditions.  By engaging in activities like exercise, reading, and games, we can easily prevent such conditions by tricking our brains into these activities. The brain is the commander of the body. It guides our body to do the necessary functions. The brain has a pituitary gland that sends signals to the body to release multiple hormones. Due to the secretion of those hormones, we feel accordingly. If stress hormone is released our body initiates the flight or fright response. Similarly, the happy state is due to the secretion of happy hormones in the body. That’s how our brain controls our body.

 

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When we mention the mind, it is something abstract. Abstract can’t be touched. The brain is concrete and it is like a hard copy whereas the mind is referred to as a soft copy. People who suffer from mental illnesses may have already trained their minds to the extent in which they don’t feel pressure anymore. You can train your mind to get over these ailments. 

What is Mind Control?

Mind control is a rewiring of the brain done by the individual himself. A trained mind is more powerful and strengthened as compared to a regular mind. A trained mind encapsulates organized thoughts and is free of overthinking. 

I feel as though, if you’re able to control your dreams, you have more power and control over your mind, like you could reach more areas of your mind. Therefore, I feel like it creates the ability for you to achieve more things in reality.

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How can we control our minds? Controlling your mind means managing your thoughts and organising them accordingly. How do we achieve those convenient ways to control our minds? A powerful and controllable mind yields powerful ideas. Likewise, a weak mind yields debilitated thoughts. We have some ways by which you can easily control your mind.

Mindfulness Meditation

A study has been proven to indicate that mediation plays a major role in relieving mental chaos. We can get rid of chaotic and destructive thoughts by practising meditation. It seems pretty simple but has long-lasting impacts.

Meditation makes the entire nervous system go into a field of coherence.

Deepak Chopra

Meditation helps you to make your mind clear. Meditation helps you organise your tangled thoughts. It helps you achieve that calmness, peace and serenity that is useful for your mental and emotional being. Mediation helps you remain centred and focused on your target. This way you become less susceptible to encountering any stress and depressed situations. That’s how meditation can help you get through the tough times. 

Gratitude

 Studies have proved that expressing gratitude can be beneficial in relieving stress and anxiety. Expressing gratitude is more effective than medications. It releases a sense of satisfaction and tricks your brain into a healthier situation. It decreases stress, anxiety and helps you get over insomnia as well. Most of the time the cascade of thoughts at night doesn’t let us fall asleep.  As a human we long for more and more. Instead of being happy in what we have we long for more. Such constantly provoking thoughts never let us be in peace. When you start to express gratitude towards things, you feel serenity. Even a thousand dollars cannot buy this feeling. Are you thankful for what you have?

Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation.

Brian Tracy

Goal Setting

Why do we set goals? Whenever we are aiming to construct a building, we require a map. A proper map guides us through the whole journey of construction. Similarly, a guide is required to achieve the goals. We set goals to clear our pathways. When we have set those peculiar goals, we will strive for them. It gives your thoughts a trajectory which helps you fuel your way to success. Goal setting is important because the constant thoughts of aiming to achieve something in life replenishes your soul and leaves behind a sense of serenity and calmness.

Avoid Negative Energies

Avoiding negative energies is essential in controlling your mind. Your surrounding has a great impact on your personality. Negative energy eventually disrupts the calmness and serenity of your personality. It makes you feel agitated. Negative energies are responsible for many adverse symptoms. Like it lowers your self-esteem and self-confidence. How do we avoid such surroundings? Beware of people around you. If people in your surrounding are making you feel conscious about yourself, you should part ways with them. It is better to leave than to be with them. The space where you feel left out and anxious due to certain people shall be evaded.

Positive Self-Talk

Do you talk to yourself?  It may sound weird to some people, but it is true to some extent. Positive self-talk develops a positive attitude that boosts your morale and makes you a better person.

A trained mind has many benefits including good sleep, a peaceful life, a good sense of humour, and purposeful thoughts making you into a better person. That’s all for today’s video. Hope you guys enjoyed it. Stay tuned for more interesting blog

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Specialized or generalized.

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So I decided on the area of expertise. I cannot be strong in all areas of ERP. I decided to be specialized.

There are two terms: Generalized and specialized. Everyone has their own way of thinking and makes adjustments in life.

I am more focused on Specialization.

I remember the quote from Bruce Lee.

I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.”

Many times, big organizations prefer the Generalized expertise of people. These people are very good at communication. Usually, these people work at the start of a project. When a project goes into a critical phase, they outsource things to specialized people.

Generalized people usually work in requirement gathering sessions. Most of the time, their deliverables are documents.

Specialized people deliver the solution, actually. Both have their own importance.

But I like to be specialization. So I decided to work on three areas.

  • Inventory management.
  • Advance warehouse management.
  • Enterprise asset management

Previously, I was thinking about where to start. Now I have an answer.

Decide what you want. Clarity is the starting point. I know planning and execution are also important points.

But a clear decision on what you want is the starting point.

Anyhow, I decided to be specialized. I have a clear vision of the areas in which I need expertise.

Now it’s time to plan and execute.

Let’s go there.

A MAN WITHOUT A SMILING FACE MUST NOT OPEN SHOP

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I was listening a podcast, there speaker talks about 10 10 10, 3 10 are people observer in you and last 10 are words. It talks about this quote that is in China, they said, if you cannot smile, you should not open a shop.

It means, The smile is the first thing every one note.

My father once told me that what he observed in other person is the smile.

We all are business man, Some business men are selling their products or open a shop. Others are selling their services. Consultants are coming in second category. We are selling our services.

Services to our company, Colleagues, and to clients.

And best way to sell our services is to smile. Because before selling our services, we ourself to others.

The only way to smile at workplace is live in present moment.

We all have pains, traumas and failures in life. We all have regrets,

We cannot finish all these things. Only way is to accept them. Accept them, so they no more hurt us.

Sometimes, we start to oppose and as result, these pains and suffering hurt us more.

The solution to all these problems, are acceptance. Let them come and go. Then we have to able to face the challenges we have in present moment.

I have to smile. Smile because I am capable to face every challenge that comes across.

Conclusion is smile is first thing, people watch at your face.

For smile, you have to live in present moment. Just focus on now.

Make peace with your past and live in present moment.