I was sitting in the mosque, Mullah, speaks about purpose of life. He told us, that every one born with purpose. Purpose lies mans inside. My purpose to worship my god. Guide and help them to become a good religious person. I think he is right, we have to understand what is our purpose of life. I called it inner light.
Every person born with inner light. In the darkness, when we did not have any one to guide us. Or we lost trust on others, This inner light guide us.
With passage of time, peer pressure, responsibility and life challenges fade this light. We lost. But at the end we did not happy.
So we have to see the inner light. it is inner compass for us.
Are you also tired of your children’s destructive personalities? Are you annoyed by the aggression and anger of your kid as well? The answer to these questions is that behind every action is buried unaware reasoning. As a parent, it should be considered why your kid behaves a certain way. What is the main reason behind it? Children impersonate their parents in every field. The first school of education for a kid is his/her parents. He /she learns everything from their parents. Parenting is defined as the set of instructions and regulations given by parents that helps a kid eradicate defects from his/her personality and become stronger in his character. They copy their parents and develop an instinct to learn. According to some surveys and research done, it is come known that the destructive behaviours of children are mostly due to the pressurised and noxious behaviours of parents. The destructive behaviours of children are induced by parents themselves.
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Lack of communication is the key problem of noxious behaviour among children. Proper communication plays an integral role in grooming the personality of children. Parents who tend to live in the past are unable to have proper talks with their kids. They tend to behave aggressively for the things that have been done to them in the past. Since they can not let them go, the children have to face the chaotic behaviour of their parents. Children impersonate their parents so they tend to copy their chaotic and aggressive behaviour as well. In this way, this behaviour becomes integrated into kids as well.
Whenever we feel like our kid has become aggressive or is throwing toys and some other stuff like this. It is an alarming situation that we should identify what is going on with her/him. To find out first look after your behaviours and manners. Because parental behaviour is reflecting upon their minds and thoughts. Accepting mistakes in front of your children is a prime step towards their better personalities. Some parents do not accept their mistakes in front of their children. Due to their egos and authoritarian style, they are unable to apologise for their mistakes. Since children copy their parents they tend to think that way as well. If my father is not admitting that certain fault then why would I accept my mistake? The kids will eventually behave in that manner. Parents stress themselves out by always finding faults within their children. They should keep this thing in mind that children are divine creations as well. And as the saying says To err is human; To forgive is divine. Always looking for the mistakes of your children will make you depressed and stressed out. Just thinking about their good personality traits will make you feel blessed and blissful. There are certain ways of talking to a kid. If you talk to them aggressively they will develop it as a habit to talk to every person aggressively and fiercely. And If you talk to them politely they will talk to everyone in a kind manner.
Constantly instilling your child’s brain with words like ‘you cannot do this”, “you are useless”, and “you do not know anything”. These negative approach sentences will make them feel useless. The physical damage inflicted upon children can be healed but the emotional damage can never be healed and results in long-lasting impacts on kids’ minds. It should be binding upon a parent to avoid using such gloomy conversations with their kids. The ultimate step of a parent is to lift his/her kids in every situation. Never let them down. Let them feel proud and glorious that you are their parents. In this current era parents and teachers barely have time to communicate with kids. Parents are busy with their work whereas teachers are always concerned about the completion of their syllabus. However, it should be taken into account that the character building of a kid is as important as other education. Parents should take out 15 minutes from the day to have a little conversation with their kids. Asking them if they have any problems or if they are doing well in their studies and sports will help children learn a positive aspect about their parents.
Set priority . In organization, we usually work in different project and same time. some task are big and some are small. All these task are important.
But we have to do these task on the bases of priority. We can not do all these task same time. Because officially we have only 8 to 9 hours to work.
And truly speaking. we have only 5 hours to work. Rest are discussion, meetings and chit chat or dealing with office politics.
So If any task comes. Ask them about its priority. For this you have make a list of task. And update daily its status.
I prefer to make a list o daily status task on google sheet. Some people use trello, kanbanflow and even notions.
I feel google sheet is good for office relate task and status. When you got any task. update that status sheet.
And when management wants something show from there.
Always work on priority based work. Remember Eisenhower matrix. It helps you to deliver things.
I want to reach office 8 o clock. But Unable to make it habit. Office timing is flexible . Office time starts at 8.am and finish at 6 pm. with 30 to 1 hour lunch break.
You have to reach before 9:30. After that deduction starts. As software developer, I used to come late. That habit was due to we work for remote USA and European clients. And we have to give at least 3 to 4 hours over lap to client timing.
Here in Dubai, where I am working. After 7 o clock bus starts to come with delay. But before 7 it comes with in 15 minutes. It means, If you miss the bus with in 15 minutes bus will come. But if you missed the bus after 7 o clock delay will be more then 30 to 40 minutes. So I decided to come early. Here office Government strict rule for work for 9 to 10 hours. Not like Pakistan, that we have to work 24 by 7. Here we have to left office on time. Some times we have to work from home after office hours.
So I decided to come early. Its very difficult to sleep one hour early and awake a hour early. In the morning. I wasted 30 to minutes in bed just I wake. When I reach bus stand. it was 7:40.
It is unable to reach office on 8 am. I decided to give me little penalty. I called taxi and reach office 7:58 am. I have to pay 21 dhirm to taxi. No break fast.
The pain of 21 Dhirm, Hurts me. Which is 21 *60 Pkr. This pain helps me to come office. Awake early.
I think pain and pleasure helps us to change. I can spent this 21 dhirm in better way. Will this approach will work.
Nothing easy in life. Life throw misfortune and misery on us. There are failures we have to face. But this is not end. There are also successes, happiness and moments of joys. For these situations we need right mindset. The right mindset, helps us face all possible challenges life throw at us. Best solution to all negative is right amount of positivity, Believe me it is best counter to doubts, fears and discouragement. We have to learn from failure, We have to accept them and then study and improve and move forward. But too much positivity is also not right. Being to much positive makes us careless. There should be room for negativity. That helps us to prepare for obstacles, challenges and failures, Before hand preparation to deal with them. Right mindset have both combination of positive and negative.
But the word Satya creates impact on me. I was watching Kota factory tv series on Netflix. Where the favorite character . Jithu bahiya, usually use the word “Yahi Satya ha”
“to tomarah yaa saatya hayee”. I think the word “Sach” is also derived from the same word Satya.
satya means your reality. your truth.
I think Jithu bahiya use the word “Yahi satya ha”. means accept or under your reality and then start taking decision. Need to know your current reality and then decide what you need to do.
Life is all about priorities. Where we focus it grows. Where we ignore it dry.
Truth is we can not do everything. But we can do something. That something is based on priorities.
When we set priority, there are two things need to concentrate. Urgent and Important.
For example currently I am over weight. It is my second most priority. My first priority is my office work. Then I focus on my health. Walking, Exercise, diet control and controlling my hunger is my second priority. Third priority is my family and their needs. And forth priority my blog, youtube channel.
ہماری زندگی ہمارے جذبات سے بنتی ہے ، جذبات خیالات کے نتائج ہیں۔ کبھی کبھی ہمارے منفی جذبات ہمیں تباہ کر دتے ہیں ۔ ان منفی جذبات پر قابو پا کر ہم اپنی زندگی بہتر کر سکتے ہیں ۔ اپنے رویے کو درست کرنے کے لیے ہمیں جذبات پر کام کرنا پرے گا ہوگا۔ سوچ کی اصل وجہ تک پہنچنا ہو گا جو ان جذبات کو
ٹرگر کرتی ہیں
اس کے لیے ایک میتھڈ ہے RAIN
Recorganize
Accept
Identify
non Identity
پہلے سٹیپ میں ہم کو ریکورگنزئے کرنا پرے گا کے واقع ہی پرابلم ہے .
دوسرے سٹیپ پر ہم کو اککپٹ یا قبول کرنا پرے گا کے ہم کو یا مسلہ ہے جب تک ہم قبول نہی کر لیتے کے مسلہ ہم نے ہی ٹھیک کرنا ہے ہم اپنا تجزیہ نہی کر سکے گئے
تھرڈ سٹیپ میں اپ کو وجہ تلاش کرنا پرے گی اسہ کیوں ہے ہر بات کی تہے میں بھی ایک بات ہوتی ھے . بچپن میں جانا پرے گا پرنی یادیں یا کچھ برا ہوا اپ کے ساتھ . کوئی برتاؤ یا کچھ ناکامی
یہ سب جب پتا لاگانا پرے گا تاب ہی آپ حال نکل سکین گے.یہ معلوم کر لینا ہی مسلہ کا حل ہے . نیکسٹ ٹائم جب کچھ ٹرگر ہو گا تو اپ اپنے emotions پر قابو پا سکیں گے
لسٹ سٹیپ ہے non identity یا emotions اپ کے ذات کا کچھ حصہ ہییں لکین تام حصہ نہی . اپ اپ ہے ہیں آپ ان پر کنٹرول کر سکتے ہیں . یہ آپ ک نہی ہیں .راب نے آپ کو ان احسات سے بڑا بنایا ہے . یہ آپ کے تابے ہیں .
Hey, guys hope you are doing great. Welcome back to our Consultant Mindset. Just as we get diseases like flu, cough, and fever, we can also have some mental illnesses. These cognitive issues are those that are never taken into account. We do not consider them a disease. In fact, the literal meaning of disease tells us the feeling of being in an uncomfortable situation. If you are feeling bizarre, anxious, or agitated then you should pay attention to such feelings as well. We only pay attention to infectious diseases. Psychological issues are something that should be treated as well. Many suicide cases are happening these days due to mental health issues. I will state some reasons why people encounter mental health issues and their solutions in this video. Let us get straight into this video without wasting much time. Before that do not forget to like, share and subscribe to our Youtube channel. Let us jump right into it.
Causes of mental health issues
Childhood trauma or abuse
According to science, there is some genetic basis for mental problems as well. For example, the mental disorder schizophrenia is most likely to be passed on to the next generation because it has a genetic basis. Other psychological disorders like autism, bipolar disorders and depression run in the family as well. Diseases with a genetic basis can never be cured 100% but they can be managed with proper treatments and prevention. Mental health issues can arise from various traumas and incidents in life. Consider a kid facing traumatic incidents in childhood like parental abuse or bullying in school. These traumas will continue to grow with him/her till he/she gets old enough to overcome them. Even if they overcome such traumas a piece of them becomes part of their brain and can never be unremembered.
Bereavement
It is something that can arise from losing loved ones in your life. It is the deprivation of your beloved and precious people. People who tend to lose their loved ones unexpectedly or unexpectedly in their lives can have major impacts on their mental states. Just as consider an example in 2016 a native school in Pakistan became under terrorist attack. And many youngsters were martyred in that incident. That incident left long-lasting damage to their parents’ brains. Their children left for education but they never came back. This will become a trauma for other parents as well eventually. Traumas lead to depression, agitation, and anxiety.
Homelessness or unemployment
Poverty is something that can turn your life upside down. Homelessness can cause you to worry more about your lifestyle issues. Hazrat Ali (A.S) “if poverty were a man; I would’ve slain him”. Homelessness and unemployment are related to each other. Unemployment results in poverty and stressed-out conditions. Consider if you are living on rent and suddenly you get fired from employment. Now you have no source of income. How are you going to overcome this problem? Employment is not something that would be given to you in no time. You have to strive for it. Constant worries about these situations lead to psychological issues. And our psychology is related to our physical health as well.
Solutions to mental issues
As I mentioned earlier, mental disorders that have a genetic basis and run in families cannot be treated. But their symptoms can be managed by proper steps.
Look after your physical health
Our brain and body are connected. Our body works in coordination. There are proper signaling pathways in the body that are being done by the glands and hormone production. Such as whenever you are happy the happy hormone called oxytocin is produced. Whenever you are stressed out, stress hormone adrenaline is produced. It concludes how well our body is coordinated in its actions. It is essential to take care of your physical health so that you remain mentally healthy. Getting enough sleep prevents you from mood swings. Eating healthy food instead of junk helps the release of happy chemicals in the body.
Nourish your social life
Try to stay connected with your peers and family. It will help you engage your thoughts. It helps in feeling confident about yourself. Boosting morale and self-esteem is also a major step in lifting your anxious thoughts. Connection with peers helps you in a way that you feel protected by their support. You do not feel lonely and stressed out. You always think that they got their back so there is nothing to worry about.
Medications and therapies
According to doctors many medications and therapies are available that can help you in overcoming mental disorders. Therapies like CBT(cognitive behavioural therapy) help you in dealing with behavioural problems. Antidepressant pills and many stress-reducing pills are recommended by psychiatrists to control mental health issues.
In the end, I must say we should not overlook mental disorders by considering them just mood swings. Mental issues are a hot topic these days leading to suicidal thoughts and mental lacerations. We should consult therapists and psychiatrists for their treatment. Early signs should be taken into consideration and should get treated properly. That’s all for today’s video. Hope you guys enjoyed it.byebye
