Every day we are in competition

If you think life is fair, it does not. we make others only happy, only if we lesser then them, inferior to them. You have to listen and face a lot of criticism. You never be make happy to every one. You have to face a lot of aggression.

Life’s every moment there is competition.

I used to listen the word from my mother, “Hum muqabalah nahee ker taye”. We are not going to competition with others. We are what we are.

Some times these words are wrong.

I heard the quote from John Spence.

“If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn’t eat him.”

— John Spence

Competition is on every step of life. On every step, we have to face. competition.

But sometime we are in competition without knowing. I found many people grow due to competition. They were nothing but due to competition, they made themselves.

If you want to grow. You need competition. The competition gives you strength, teach you something. Even you competed, you failed, but you learn a lot.

But one thing always remember. Always chose right battles, right battles gives you strength and power. Competition will trained you.

embrace the gift of life

While another reflection on Azim Jamal, one minute sufi. And also try to write.

The Azim Jamal, writes about sufi quote, “ life is precious gift and bridge to next life”. Then end of each concept he asked to write on this reflection.

For sufi death is very different meaning. It is another form of life. Something beyond our understanding. Some videos I saw in Present day Pakistan that on death of Malang, so called sufi. Or possible some resistance between what ancient folk religion and Islamic tradition. there is celebration on the death of sufi. They go with traditional music and dancing in the front of Jinaza until they buried the sufi. Because they think death is meeting with God.

Qatara mila samdar saye samadar hoo gaya.

When we drop in unlimited, we become unlimited.

Other point of view of life is precious gift and is bridge to next life. If we see ever moment is change. In ever moment has power to transform. It converts into next life. It is bridge. If we consider next life as result of something. Which is it. its mean so shall you reap. So we consider death is meaning of something finish or end. Then it means out put come out. This moment will over and something will come out of it.

Its said that guru Nanak while traveling to his spiritual journey, He was sitting outside of small settlement. A few naughty child came to know that some Gayani sadu ( Enlighten Saint) came and sitting outside the city. He brought chicken baby in his hand and behind the back. And visited to Guru Nanak and ask him, What was in his hand. He was thinking, if Guru ji replied you had alive chicken in your hand, he we would break the nick of chicken and would show him dead one. And if he told he has dead chicken in his hand. He would show alive chicken. But Guru replied in surprisingly amazing, “ You have in life in your hand. Make it or break it”.

The hidden message here is we life life in our hand, precious life. Its our responsibility to make it or break it. We have to spent it with respect to as our wants. either is absolutely what we want or we follow the gods way or saint sadhu told us. its up to you.

Life is previous only when it came with responsibility. We have take responsibility to live it fullest.

the when it brings us to another life. The result from current life. We take benefit until, we take its responsibly of life.

So this sufi concept is all about hope. What ever happen, is past, What we doing today, it will help us to transform to other life. Today is the bridge for tomorrows life. So still hope for better tomorrow if we do better good deed, focus goals. And result will come. What will be do today, it will result tomorrow, It is as simple as what we are today are result of yesterday acts.

Slow Down And watch where you are going

In the reflection section of One minute Sufi aurther called to write your own reflection after each sufi thought.

I starting to write because I want to improve my writing skills.

In a boat rushing on a fast-running creek, it seems as if the trees on the bank are rushing by. What seems to be changing around us is rather the speed of our craft leaving this world. —Rumi

Jamal, Azim. The One-Minute Sufi: 1 . Jaico Books. Kindle Edition.

Some times, I found that time is running fast. Days, night and then week ends comes fast. We busy ourselves too much. And we forget what is important to us. The living style is too expensive. And we are struggling to much to maintain us. We spent on things which not required. We can impress others. We can survive without these things.

Rumi write this fast place life as moving fast placing boat in creek. It feels trees on the shore are moving very fast. But actually our time is passing and we are moving towards death, our departure from this world.

This boat takes us which direction, we dont know. We are just moving with boat. The fast placing boat. We need to take pause. understand were we are going. Ask right question, is this right direction ?. What we see moving around the creek? is it illusion or reality. What we are thinking and what is our actual reality. Either we are living in fantasy or we living in reality. reality check is very necessary.

Here boat is symbolic for our Circumstances. Our circumstances takes us in unknown direction. We are moving with it.

It is very similar to situation, that one person is running very fast horse. One person asked him where is going so fast. He replied. I don’t know where horse takes me, I am going there.

Time is passing, we need to control our circumstance not our circumstances control us. It is not easy. But with efforts and struggle, you can change your direction. A lot of efforts required.

life has four seasons, but three already passed

I want to write on the topic of “life has four seasons, but three already passed”.a

When I started to write, this sufi quote attribute to Sultan Bhu came to into my mind

īmān salāmat har koī mañge ishq salāmat koī hū

jis manzal nuuñ ishq pahuñchāve īmān ḳhabar na koī hū

mañgan īmān sharmāvan ishqoñ dil nuuñ ġhairat hoī hū

ishq salāmat rakkhīñ ‘āhū’ deyāñ īmān dharoī hū

یمان سلامت ہر کوئی منگے

عشق سلامت کوئی ھُو

منگن ایمان، شرماون عشقوں،

دل نوں غیرت ہوئی ھُو

جس منزل نوں عشق پہنچائے،

ایمان خبر نہ کوئی ھُو

میرا عشق سلامت رکھیں باھوؒ،

ایمانوں دیاں دھروئی ھُو

life has four seasons, three already passed mean, life is short, only we have to live in short of period of time.

There is biblical ledgend that longest lived man was Phrophet Noah. It said that he has near thousand year long life.

On god order, angel of death came to him take his soul back. He was prophet, he understand who is visitor, When angel of Death came, he was working in fields and that hot summer day. He asked angel of death, give me a few minute let me go and sit under the shadow of tree near by. Angel of death let him go. When he sat in shadow, and angel of death reach him to take his soul. Noah said to him, I found life as short as I was it was distance between a person who standing under sun and go under the shadow of tree.

Life is really short. We have to understand our purpose of life. Every one has different purpose of his life. Its up to us what we decided, what we want to do. In Dubai, while meeting with different people. I meet the Bangladeshi person. He used the word “ I saye app ko kush milaye gee”. It will make you happy. The purpose of life is what’s make you happy.

I am not religious person, other wise I told you that purpose of life is to worship of God. Actually he was saying what he thinks and works on his purpose of life.

Three season already passed. What we have enjoy that. We can enjoy present moment only when we make peace with ourselves.

Sufi did not believe in past. Sufi did not believe in future. Past can not be change. Future is not yet coming. We have only one season. That is present moment. To enjoy present moment we have to accept what we did in past. We are result of our past action. What we did yesterday we are facing it result. Now is the only time, only season, what we are doing today, we will face its result tomorrow.

Life is like day tight compartment. like ship standing in sea, water in all side. if we open the door of past, we will fill it with sorrow, regrets and guilt of miss opportunity . If we open the door of future, we will get worries, tension and anxiety . It is last season we are living in. Just it is. Make it beautiful. Do what we like, do what makes future beautiful.

Sufi is live in present

My life changes, when I start to live in present moment. No worry for future. No thoughts of past. Practically it is not possible. But we forcefully change our thoughts.

I read this concept in One minute sufi by Azim Jamal. In fact this post is also result of reflect on sufi concept of timelessness “ Timelessness in you”.

Time like a sand, that continues slip in our hand. Sufi did not believe in past and future. future if exists, need to erase, and future if exist it not yet come. we come from past and going towards future and path is now, Path is present. We can not change past so we ignore it, we can only learn it. What we do will effect our future.

For sufi are believe on timelessness. means no regret for past and no worries for future. Just live in present moment.

Living in present moment is timelessness.

the current moment is powerful moment, it has essence of past and future. Embrace the beauty of present moment.

This very moment is powerful, never wait for another moment. What will come, I don’t know, what passed we cant change it. let it go.

Sufi is timeless. Essence of life is now. Embrace in it.

When I start to implement this idea of living of present moment, I become more learner.

Some time senior bully and Junior challenge

Some times senior bully juniors, That junior are not good. Some times juniors challenge seniors. Because, with passage of time juniors reach same level of knowledge and experience.

I faced both. What I learn that after 3 years of experience every one reach on same level. Junior and seniors have same level of knowledge. After 3 years of experience all become equal.

What if senior bully you. Bear it, your response creates situation. Secretly put efforts and improve yourself put efforts to prove yourself. Remember one thing, no body consider yourself equal to them. They never did it. But you respect the seniors, they give you knowledge trained you. But never take them to your head.

What to do when junior challenge you. In that case you have to claim down. Smile and ignore it. told them you trained make them your helping hand. And always focus on next target or goal. Possible we are not growing. There will be no next level. Always focus on that. I heard that professional career like a chess. If you are not prepared for next step, some one is killed you.

Remember, politics is every where. We have to handle politics. But more important is work. You have more focus on delivery.

Second be friendly, always stay to ground. Most of the time I avoid challenge. But some times I have to face the challenge.

But before getting involve in challenge. See things from all angles. What is advantage you got after getting involve in challenge. If you got more damage, avoid it. Always keep in focus what you want. Always think about next move.

Toughest time

Toughest time of software engineer is when nothing is assigned to him.

No bug comes, no issue appear today. One of my friend who is in USA now. Good software developer usually said that we all like prostitute the who more make noise rewarded more.

As Ramzan starts and no issue, no change request appeared. I start feel like myself similar to prostitute who sit in bar waiting whole night to get some customer and sun raises she left home empty.

Most of the time we working as consultant. And consultancy is temporary type of job. Short period of time we go, solve problem and come back. There will be short break. Task are over and nothing assign to you.

This is best time. During this time you have to prepare yourself. Take a nap. Did you study the seventh habit of highly effective people. yes I am talking about “ Sharpen your saw”.

But truly speaking, it is toughest time on me. Very similar to person who are selling Coffin but no body ready too die.

What You Seek Is Seeking You

Life is strange. What happens to your life. You attract it. you agree it or not. That is true.

Rumi said that, What you seek is seeking you.

Initially I was not believing on this idea. We daily making different choices that results in different way.

Same things happens to others people life. They interpret things according to their point of view.

for example yesterday, we colleague sitting development hall of office. in five minute break, some one try to share his three months experience of diet plan which helps him to lose waight. All ignored, but I was seeking something so I can lose my weight too.

I catch up him, and asked him about his experience. He shared me his experience and then his experience.

I was sitting in bus, It was normal, desi bus, some one hocker raised voice of there is solution of black magic meet and consultant some abmil baba. No body bother him, but one guy raised his hand, and pick the paper.

there is urdu “ Sakhar kharoy ko shakar” mil he jaati hayee.

It said that, when you are in problem and you can not discuss your problem with any one. Just start to listen people. Don’t discuss. just listen. You will find your answer, during their discussion. They are not talking to you. Possible two reason for that. first most of human problem of same nature. Second, your mind intentionally seeking the problem and you will catch your solution from discussion.

Always in search of your answer. Some where one one has your answer.

Innovation or creation is enemy of writing.

When I used to write technical articles. My friends insist to innovate something. These things already on web. I dont believe in idea of creativity. I think things are interlink. Nothing is innovate. Everything is already exists in some form. Even the idea.

Everything is inspiration. If you think to write or create something innovative. I am sure you are planning to stop.

I just thought to just write. just document.

One idea of writing reflection. Just start write what you thinking about things. Don’t be criticize . just write.

Silent worker.

Some times, what we want we did not get. is It necessary that we get everything that we want.

Even Kings did not get what they want.

Some times I feel, stone age folk lore convert into story of buddha. The young King left everything to find the solution of human suffering. Finally he finds that enlightenment lies within inside. Expectation or wants is real cause of suffering. Only solution is acceptance.

Sometimes the suffering and pain we faced in life, we consider it due to our past life deeds. Janam Janam ke mali chaadar.

Sometimes we suffering due to will of Allah.

It is not necessary that our all wishes will be full filled. We have to focus what we have.

I heard somewhere. The fateful is that guy who happy is with his fate.

Life is all about compromise. Every one is doing compromise.