Lets sings song of hope.

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I meet a sufi saint. One of biggest sadu cult of Pakistan. When some one come to him. He listen to him. And pray to Allah, mola will full fill your wishes.

When I visited him, he asked what you want. I said just come to meet you. It was time of 2012. round 10 years ago. I meet him on Mela chargah lahore. It was time, when I started to explore whats around me. I am not accepting the realities of life. Failures, misery and betrayal. I replied, nothing, I just come to visit you. He gave me cup full of sweet rice. And reply. “ Daan waalah raab hayee, baanda kisee ko kay dae sakta hayee, Main to buss sun laana haan,” Wish granter is only Almighty, I can just listen with devotion.

Basically he is only hope seller. He just listen and pray to allah. listening is some time the only cure. Aas lag jatee haye, huk lag jati hayee.

So if we listen to some one. Biggest gift we can give them is our time. And then pray to Almighty. Or we give them hope, things will be better. Possible it will help him.

Hope is only thing we have. Possible hope is biggest gift we can give to any one. So if someone come to you and what is sharing is obvious , but give him hope. Things will be better, bad days will gone. good days will come.

The term I remember, from film Three Idiot “ All is well. “. Things will be better, time will be changed.

Lets become best seller of hope.

little delay always works

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Little delay works. couple of years back. When you go to purchase some food. Every thing is ready, but they do little delay. Waiting sir we are preparing something fresh. 90 percent things already cooked. But they delay. They delay to make customer stratified. Something fresh is coming. If they deliver immediately. Customer think, they deliver left over or some one return order.

Little delay is blessing. It gives satisfaction.

What we think we attract

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I was listening a story, They guy talks about once he was speaking ill for himself. And couple of months back same thing happens to him. Do we really attract what we think or say about ourself.

If you watched the move “Secret” there they talk about Law of attraction. The idea is simple, what you want you have to think about it. It means, what happens in our life mostly reflection of our thoughts. Either we think positive or negative. We think about it, and that happens.

For example, You are sitting in cafeteria . And you saw a girl coming looking very beautiful You attracted towards her, Now in your mind it comes negative thought, she will refuse me. And as result on your face there will negative expression appears. And she looked at you and negative feelings she face and she rejects you as result. If you mind think, I am smart energetic , And I can do that, Your face look happy, as result she response you in positive way, She will return you with happy face. If she is not interested, she will reply in positive way.

“Think twice before you speak, because your words and influence will plant the seed of either success or failure in the mind of another.”

We have to think about things we want in life. If we think about prosperity, defiantly we motivate and do extra work, side job, online business to earn extra. If we think about poverty, we will go more poor. We will demotivate when extra work we need to do. We avoid late night to write, read or work. Because life is bad, there is no benefit. Because we attract poverty.

Neoplien hill said in his book. “Whatever Your Mind Can Conceive and Believe, It Can Achieve.”

Everything constructed two times, once person mind then in real.

But the idea of illness comes in your mind and you will become ill is not possible.

But thats is true. What we think we find. If things are not in our way, then we will get something positive in it.

I heard some islamic Quote from saint “ Allah kaye fasaily Guoman per hoteye haan” Means Gods decisions are based on your thinking about matter.

Suppose you have to deal with the situation, unexpected situation. Now how you behave, is based on your thinking. If you have positive thinking, you get positive results, If you have negative thinking you will get negative results. That reason they said you attract these result.

Most of the time, our thoughts are negative. Our self talk is negative. We have to forcefully think positive. Dont resist your thoughts, just start thinking positive. With the passage of time our outlook about life become positive.

Speak to create impact

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I am confused about the term “ What impact you want to create when you speak these words “. I was listening some material on Linkedin. Speak to create impact.

I think idea is same, speak only keep in mind what others thinks about us after listening these words.

I heard some quote attribute from Hazart Ali “ Bolo kaye phanchayeen jaoo”. I heard that in in ancient times, one person comes from far away wearing very wealthy dress. People sit in Sari or Inn. The wise man asked him, Sir kindly speak so we can reorganize your worth. “ Boliya takey hum app ke kaadar jaan sakeen”.

I think idea is simple. Think before you speak. or Begin with end in mind. Before speak, think where you want to reach. After speaking, what other person perceive you.

I am facing the problem, while speaking, I speak too much truth. What I am, and most of time I spoke about my failures. Now I have to speak in such a way that other impress by my achievement.

Basic theme. How people think about us mostly reflection of our speaking and behavior of us. So what we speak and how we speak. We can control these things. If we start to think before speak. What other person perceive after our words reaches his or her ear. Many times we need to hide our insecurity. and try to speak how other feels about us.

Always think before speak. Its going to create your reality.

Why I comparing myself with others.

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Life is really tough. Specially when we live in foreign countries. We are warriors against our poverty. We fighting our poverty.

But others people achievement makes us down. their big home, cars, luxuries life style makes us breaks. But question is

Why we compare ourselves. with others. They are different from us. Their scenario is different. Their thoughts are different. We don’t know what challenges they faced. How much sacrifice they did to reach that position. We don’t know their journey.

We have to look our journey. Where we are headed. What achievement we have. We have to celebrate ours.

Our biggest competition is with ourselves. What we were yesterday.

You must be better person then whom you see in mirror every day.

I was listening Sadh guru. He suggest to take life as it is. “ As he hayee” no need to think about things which are beyond our control.

If some one has more success then you. Certainly he put more effort then you. He started his journey much before you.

Always look inside. Definitely you have some better things then them.

Always be thankful to what you have. Always great full. what you have. Stop impressing by some one. Possible these things are temporary. Try to ignore thing.

Apny Man  Mein Doob Kar  Pa Ja Suraag e Zindagi

Tu Agar Mera Nahin Banta Na Ban, Par Apna To Ban

Look inside you have everything to start, or make progress. Believe on that and start.

We can not happy every one

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We can not happy every one. People always happy with us only when, we are lesser then them. They feel superior in our presence. Or we move according to their wishes. It is very difficult to make them happy. We can do that in some cases when interest is there. They have skills we dont have.

Never become people pleaser. Avoid it. Its perfectly acceptable that some people are not happy with us. We dont know where we put our shoes on their toe. We can not cut ourselves according to their wishes. If we are intentionally in competition with some one else. Its ok.

But in some cases, it worse when we feel inferior in their presence. They tried to prove that they are something. in that situation we deal them. We can handle them but we can not happy. We have to control our nerves. We have to work on why we feel inferior. if we can change that thing or weakness. we have to work on that. We can not we have to accept our weakness which they are exploiting.

But never become people pleaser. Be come cool person. friendly person but never come people pleaser.

I read some where. The person from every one is happy is died from inside.

Have Strong Opinions, But Hold On To Them Loosely

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Hello friends, another simple post, many times in life we have firm opinion on something, That this way is right. We make our mind that his way is absolute right. There is no other way. It specially happens when we are working in teams. We have short amount of time and budget. And we try to force others to work in same way we work. But some times, young people challenge us. they know something different and effective then us. In that case we need to loosely hold these idea. We need to change our approach. We have to learn new things to make us more effective.

It is said that we have to unlearn old things to learn new things. Its certainly we need to strong opinion but required loosely hold approach to adopt new things to make us more effective.

living in past is like idol worship

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read the idea that Thought or living in past is like idol worship. And Living in present moment is idol breaking.

Is it right concept. Past teachers, sufi santh, baghat saints, all are respectable. But we have to follow present day saint, murshad or teacher. talk about. What is past is just idea and also future is another idea.

If we live in past, we are doing shirk. We are shirk adding something. Only reality is present moment. To living in present moment is like Towhid. Only oneness of God almighty that gives us only single moment of improvement. Shirk means multiple reality exist which actually not. Towhid oneness that is now. Don’t confuse it with Oneness of Almighty.

Living alone in Dubai, Scarify for family. Some times I started to live in Past moment. The same incident, That keep me busy.

I started worship some deities in past. Same stories again again. Later I start to realize this concept.

After reading and understanding this concept I feel that past and future is shirk it is duality. Sufi did not believe in past or future. they enforce to live in present moment. So I am follower of Towhid. not only towhid of Almighty Allah, but also towhid of represent moment. There is no other reality of present, dont confuse it with present moment. You have to learn from past. But do not live in past

When some one start to ignore you…

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Some one wants to Ignore me. I ignored them. That usually happen, when things they want is completed. Expectation meet or not meet. Our need is over. So they started to ignore.

What to do when you feel some one ignore you. They felt right, act strangely when you visit them. Or try to communicate. It means they want to ignore you.

I heard the quote. “Once you feel avoided by some one never disturb them again”.

Actually, they are not ignoring you, they are busy in their own life. And solution to that busy in yours.

It said need is blessing. It is blessing that some one needs you. they need your attention.

According Buddha, expectation is reason for suffering. detachment is solution. Take no expectation.

Give them what they want. Solve their problem. Help them in their need. And then step back.

They want ignore you or spare you, intentionally they want the same from you. Give them what they want, never disturb them again.

Living in present moment

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I was traveling to office. In RTA bus, I feel loneliness. Loneliness is absence of interest in crowd. A lot of beautiful faces, young and old. All are having hope for bright day, But I feel loneliness. That is problem of every expat. Who came to foreign country to earn money. To make the living standard of family up to the mark.

I was listen one recorded audio of Wasif ali Wasif. Some one asking loneliness comes from outside world or comes from inside.

The answer was it comes from inside. And solution was keep yourself busy. Either memories of past.

But for me, memories of past creates disheartens, guilt and pain. But it ups to use to remember the good moments of life.

My grand mother used to said “ waqat to guzarna haye miyaan, rooah ker guzaro yaa hass ker”. We have to kill the time, its up to you either be happy or be sad.

Best way to kill the time, is live in the present moment. No worry about future and no regrets for past. We can force. it

And if you have to remember only good moments of life. When bad events start to appear shut up these memories.

The memories or events did not make happy or sad, Its our story attached to these memories made us happy or sad.

That is truth that most of happy people actually sad people. They find reason to make them happy.

Most important thing is when we took decision and understand what will be the consequences. Then what why be said.

Accept the life as it is.

Most important thing what we make sad that we did not accept something, we want something different but things are not happen as our expectation. So we have to accept the life as it is. We have to accept every situation that occur.

I read one quote that is attribute to buddah and also Wasif Ali Wasif that, The different between expectation and reality is “Dukha” Suffering or pain. So remove the expectation and accept the reality.

Enjoy the present moment. That pain suffering are the noises that did not accept or live in the present moment. acceptance creates our mind calm. At that moment, we start to listen our surrounding. What people talks about, Who are they, what they are doing.

So we have to enjoy the present moment. And for this we have to accept our reality. Stop resistance. When you happy, everything seems to be happy. Start observing your environment. Enjoy the moment.