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Worries only eat today’s Joyful moments

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I am new to company, manger called me all the team to go to client side. But ask me to report to the head office. It was shocking for me. After coming from the office, I had at least 3 hours. I wanted to spend an hour reading news and watching YouTube videos about what was going on. 1 hour to write an article or blog post. And an hour on my pending book summary. But that message made me a little worried about what would happen next. They will fire me because, within the last three months, I have been unable to deliver anything tangible. They show me that they are not satisfied. I am working to my full capacity. They told me I was a little slow. As I get older, I become slower. I do things with patience. That something is true; I have to gain expertise in Microsoft Excel. Anyhow, truth is truth. I accept those things and focus on what I can improve and what I cannot improve. After that message, I got depressed. What will happen? They will fire me. Possible. As they told me, you are doing a good job. We are no longer counting on you. Everything is possible. But I was too depressed. I stop everything and go to sleep. The whole night was dressed. I woke around 3:30 a.m. Stressed, I wanted to go outside, see the sky, and pray to God. Help me, Lord. Help me, Lord. Then I went to sleep again. I wake up early in the morning and take breakfast disheartedly. What will happen?What will happen? Finally, I reached the office. I sent a message to the manager that I was in the office. He called me Ali. Wait, we have little contact with the client for payment, so work for our office and do testing. As soon as the problem is resolved, I will tell you to visit the client side. I realized that the game was something else; I just overthought something and worried about something that would never happen. Actually, I completed one functionality, and I did a lot of functionality testing. And helped them complete it. Today it will be demonstrated with the client. And they did not want that I closed it. They want credit for someone else. Or they did not want it, as I claim. So the moral of the story is that I have to not worry. Worry did not let us take action. Worry only destroyed today’s joy. Instead, what should I do? I have to accept it. Ok, that is not happening now. Let’s see what happens. The third thing is that I cannot do anything if they fire me. One day, it will happen. It is the private sector; anything happens at any moment. At that time, when I had some spare time to improve myself, I wasted it worrying. So remember,

“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”

― Mark Twain

As one quote from Will smith said

The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is the product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist. That is near insanity. Now do not misunderstand me, danger is very real, but fear is a choice.

“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.”

―

Mark Twain

if you stuck in crossroad in your career consider this

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Do you face a challenge when you are stuck in your career path or at a crossroads in your career? When no one is there to answer all your questions.

then this video is for you.

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I was stuck in the same situation when I felt my software development career was over and I wanted to become a functional consultant.

At that time, I was stuck because I did not stop my old mindset and did not adopt a new mindset.

When you ask your question with scenarios to ask another person, what is your opinion on this? and they are unable to answer your question.

Because they are not in a situation or they cannot see things from their point of view.

And for that reason, you feel stuck, have no guidelines, and have no idea what to do next.

The only thing you can do is step aside and think. You needed a quiet place to start asking questions.

In childhood, I got the right answer to questions. Our condition is that we always know the right answer will lead in the right direction or reach the right conclusion. But actually, that is not right. Answering the right question leads us in the right direction or helps us lead in the right direction.

When it comes to selecting a career, it is crucial to assess the potential benefits and drawbacks of each option. One way to do this is by asking yourself what the upside of a particular career is. By doing so, you can gain a better understanding of the opportunities and rewards that the career path may offer. For example, you may want to consider the potential for career advancement, financial stability, work-life balance, and other factors that are important to you. Taking the time to explore these different aspects can help you make a more informed decision about your future career.

One important aspect to consider when reflecting on your career is to also identify the potential drawbacks or downsides. In doing so, you can gain a more holistic understanding of your chosen profession and the challenges that may arise. Some possible downsides to consider may include job instability, long work hours, limited opportunities for advancement, or high stress levels. Additionally, it is important to acknowledge that what may be a downside for one person may not necessarily be the same for another, as individual experiences and perspectives can vary greatly. By taking the time to reflect on both the positive and negative aspects of your career, you can gain a more well-rounded perspective and make informed decisions about your professional development. Therefore, answering the question, “What is the downside of your career?” can be a valuable exercise in self-reflection and growth.

When making a decision, it is important to consider both the potential benefits and drawbacks. One question to ask oneself is whether they can live with the downside. However, it is also important to take a closer look at the downside and examine any potential ways to mitigate or overcome it. It may also be helpful to weigh the potential positive outcomes against the potential negative outcomes to determine if the decision is truly worth it. So, can you live with the downside? It’s a question worth asking, but it is by no means the only question to consider when making an important decision.

Most of the time, we took emotional decisions. And become rational that we must have to adopt that career.

But certainly, we have to think differently. We have to see things in their actual form. what they are.

Sometimes we live with fanaticism. We have to see and analyze what is actually right for us.

We also decide what skills you require to get this position. Do you already have these skills, or can you acquire them? how much time it takes to acquire these skills. Or these are possible.

To effectively address a problem or situation, it is necessary to take the time to pause and reflect. This involves not only thinking about the obvious questions, but also taking a holistic approach to the situation at hand. By doing so, one can gain a deeper understanding of the issue and identify potential solutions that may not have been apparent at first glance. Therefore, it is important to set aside ample time to contemplate and carefully consider all relevant aspects of the problem, so as to arrive at the best possible outcome.

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When someone told you I have a doctor’s appointment.

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Most of the time, we did not think before speaking. We speak because we want to share.

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A couple of days ago, I learned this lesson. I got a call from my friend from the USA. We worked together in a software company, and he became my buddy. Couple of days back. He was facing a problem with sciatica, and the doctor wanted to remove the disk from his backbone. I was sitting in the room alone, seeking someone to talk to.

I got a call from him; he just told me that I have a doctor’s appointment. Instead of speaking further, I just started sharing my experience with illness. That happens; this happens; nobody cares; doctors are making money. If I just wait a few days, I can save money on all those things. When I discuss all my experiences, I feel light, but I find he becomes more depressed. He was in pain; he wanted to share. Instead of listening to him, I made him more worried. He wants to share that he has had a small operation to remove a disk from his backbone. He started weeping about what would happen tomorrow. I shared my friend’s problem with him instead of listening to him.

It was a very embarrassing situation for me. I feel that I need to change. I would not share my experience and knowledge about the problem. I just have to listen. What I learned is that whenever someone tells you that I have a doctor’s appointment, You have to just reply, “You will be well soon”. And try to listen to him and give him hope that things will be better. Never ever share your or others people stories with him.

Seeking our own Path.

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I have dream of visiting a graveyard, There buried lovers like suhni mahiwal, writers, Sant, shadu, big names. On one place, a saw a person, who is highly successful. I asked him, what is way to be successful. With hands he point towards a cemented stairs, without stair case leading to somewhere up. I don’t believe in dreams, but for sure, it is result of our sub-conscious mind. What I was understand, what my subconscious mind trying to told me, that built your own way. It means, all successful people are those who do things in their own way.

Actually what will happen. The whole day, I was working on document to provide the answers, why these things are just fit.

I was also learning a something new. the area, which I never explored. Some blogs on internet and nothing. Microsoft own notes are not sufficient. I was constantly asking this question, what to do, whom I took guidance. How someone else did this implementation.

In the morning, management will accept my answer because they all non technical. One manager, is already concern doubt on me.

My subconscious mind try to answer my question. That make your own way. study the matter, understand the requirement. And use your own path.

In the sufi way, its called Tariqat. In Arabic Tariqat is the way you do things, Also called Path. In sufisim, Tariqat means, your own way.

What is meaning of your own path.

Stop seeking Guidance : Many times, we are at level, that no body helps us. Its very difficult situation. We reach at certain level.

Some times, we can not ask questions. Nobody at our level or see things from your point of view.

All answers lies in side your. You have clear understanding of situation.

Darad under day under wasson, Bahar karran tay gahil huu.- Couplet from Sultan bahu.

All pain and suffering lies inside me, If I share it, I can be victimized.

Seek knowledge. Learn through observation, how things handled by others, Listen to your environment, People trying to teach you.

study blogs, study tutorials, Listen to others. Read books.

Apply knowledge:

Third is apply knowledge. Without applying nothing found. Experience comes from apply knowledge. And then reflect on it. What benefit we found after apply knowledge. Do things in your own way.

Communicate: Start communicate, start sharing your knowledge, how you apply them, what benefit you found after applying these knowledge. Speak about it.

The difference between, successful and loser is execution. Both have ideas, but successful person, execute the idea.

I am not saying don’t seek guidance. Without guru, teacher, and guider, we did not reach at certain point. But in life, sometimes, we reach a point, where no one guide us. In these situation, stop seeking guidance. Take a lead. Study the topic, stop asking questions, seek knowledge, start communicate, And start apply knowledge by trusting your own guts. No body comes to help you.

My own believe that, when a such a point reach, when you cant ask questions, And unable to take decision. Start listening what people are saying around you. they are discussing their own matters, there own problem. Just start observing people what challenges they are facing and how they handle these. Keep silent, just listen. You will find answer to your problem, without sharing and without asking, Just listen.

Do Dreams impact on our life

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Did dream impact on life. Yesterday I saw a dream, I saw similar type of dreams, couples of time.

A lot of cats attacking me. And I am fighting with them.

Do dreams have impact on our life. I think, it is reflection of what we think all the day, or it is our subconscious mind. It reflects our fear. And interestingly our dream comes in deep sleep.

Life is full of stress. When I start tracking my sleep. I found, that most of the time my sleep is normal.

It varies between 5 to 9 hours. Some time it is less than 4 hours or even 3 hours per night.

Less sleep is result of stress or result of our fast place night life.

It was deep sleep. In the morning, I feel little discomfort feeling still sleepy. Ramdan is going on. And I have fasting. Without taking Iftar. But so did not take tea, or coffee. I need good amount of nicotine.

So dream creates in our subconscious mind. It is result of thoughts most of time negative in  our mind. Why negative, most of time we are hard wire with negative thoughts. That is due to our survival instinct.

From stone age to till modern day. Danger is everywhere. Anything we do, possible result in negative results.

How we have to defend ourself in the case of worse.

Most of the time, our sub-conscious mind warn about something. When I search about a lot of cats attacking me and I am defending myself and fighting against them. It means, my mind warns about a of challenges. As I am beating them. It means, I am facing them. But problems exists.

Later I found, that I involve in many different type of works in my life. For example

I want a cooking youtube channel. I want motivational channel. And then I want a blog. And then one channel for my professional so I can stay updated and can show myself as expert in my field.

And then I have 9 to 5 job full time. And as project goes move smooth. It requires a lot of challenges as well.

Same time I want to lose weight. And Also want to learn arabic.  Then I also want to talk to all of my friends and family member.

So all these things need time and attention. According to my understanding, my subconscious mind try to tell me to focus on small subset of things to get results. Al these appears to be as cats.

So my mind told me to stay focus on a few things and deliver them in good way. Instead to make a lot of challenges. Just focus on a few.

Focus on yourself not others.

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My horoscope that if Don’t go for Errands. Errands means, Do something for someone else on behalf.

How accurate my horoscope said. Sometimes surprise myself. Most of the time, we wasted our time. Instead we focus how we need to finish our own task doing well. We start to judge and help others how they need to do things. Today happens the same. My boss present a single slide what he need to present to top management of client. I have a lot of things to do, to finish things up. But instead focusing my work  and make it better and better, I intentionally start helping him  that things should be in that way, he should improve his work and things need to change.  He never asked my opinion. I even don’t know who is target audience whom he will going to present. Neither I am responsible for what he is going to present. The only point I have in my mind, that he is going to present whole team, so I need to help him.

Then I saw my horoscope on Horosocope.com. I surprised, it is accurate, no need to consider what other do,  I have to just focus on my improvement. What best thing I had to do is, access the issues and limitation on other work and used this this input for my own work. There are two reason for that.  One is people did not like criticism. It hurts they ego and they become enemy. Even if asked, never give the opinion. Until, he or she is your best friend, where he or she understand, what you are saying is benefit for them. Even then try to avoid it.

Second. It is nice way to understand other weaknesses and instead give them feedback. You need to check, are these things in you. Improve it.

Life is continues process for learning. We can not help people, until they realize by themselves, what need to improve and how to improve. Our only duty to improve ourself. If 1 percent daily. Learn and Improve.

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I was standing in office. A person who is acting solution architect. Purpose us “how to conduct session in right way”. And why it is important to do things in this way. My another fallow colleague is little aggressive nature. Also wanted to prove himself. He wanted to drive things by his own way. He also have THE cons and pros his approach of work. Both wanted to share their opinion And more importantly, How things need to be done and required form top management. Both tried to argue. But as result heated debate. I was silent. Just listen and Ignore.  Later one of guy was also angry with me, why I did not support him. And why not I tried to clear the situation. But I was just listen and ignore.

At that time I was concluded that both these guys have no authority to dictate us how to do work. Or We need to work in specific way.

How top management instructed us, we have to do things in their way. We have to follow. What if I do things in different but better way. Will our work is acceptable to management. They have to judge things in their own point of way, and we want to do things according to their requirement, or as compare.

These two people were just trying to share their experience. We did work in that way and it was working. And they fought to explain that things would need to done in this specific way.

But my experience said that we have to work according to requirement of management.

If you don’t have position or authority. Either you are subject matter or not. Keep silent, spoke only if asked. If you have position of power. People listen to you. In Punjabi we said

” Jadya gahar daanay othaye kaamaly we saayanaye”.

If you are nothing or low in ranking, no body listen to you. So You need to get position, try to take more responsibility, prove yourself and get position of authority. If you did not have position, If they ask you your opinion. Give them otherwise keep silent. Unfortunate sad truth is, world saw wealth and position before listen to other person. We have to follow the same.

Second point is it important to justify yourself, why to do things in specific way. My way is better than you. Why I am doing this and due to certain reason. Why we need to prove ourselves.

Third point, if some person want to share his opinion to you. Listen him with respect. But ignore him. Simple strategy is heard but not listen. There are noises in environment. But we did not listen these noises. We just listen those sound, which we want to give attention. There is no benefit to focus or give attention to everyone. Always focus on priority.

Dont waste time to share your opinion, until asked, Follow the authority, Ignore all, others just distraction. If you want people listen yourself, prove yourself and try to get position and go up to corporate ladder .. Get position and people follow you.

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اگر آپ افسردہ ہیں تو آپ ماضی میں رہ رہے ہیں

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اگر آپ افسردہ ہیں تو آپ ماضی میں رہ رہے ہیں۔

“اگر آپ افسردہ ہیں تو آپ ماضی میں رہ رہے ہیں۔
اگر آپ فکر مند ہیں تو آپ مستقبل میں رہ رہے ہیں۔
اگر آپ سکون میں ہیں تو آپ حال میں رہ رہے ہیں۔

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صحیح فیصلے کیسے کریں۔

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اپنے فیصلے کی ذمہ داری لیں۔

اگر فیصلہ کر لو تو خوش رہو۔ آپ اپنا فیصلہ خود لیں گے تو کوئی افسوس نہیں ہوگا۔

دو قسم کے لوگ  ہوتے ہیں ایک ہ=وہ جو فیصلہ ساز ہوتے ہیں، اور دوسرے وہ جو مشیر ہوتے ہیں۔

ان لوگوں سے مشورہ سنیں جنہوں نے زندگی کے مخصوص شعبے میں کچھ کیا۔

جب آپ فیصلہ لیں تو درج ذیل نکات پر توجہ دیں۔

 آپ کس حال میں ہیں ۔

آپ کے فیصلے کے نتیجے میں آپ کیا چاہتے ہیں یا تبدیل کرنا چاہتے ہیں۔

نتائج کے طور پر آپ کو کیا فائدہ ہوا؟

نتائج حاصل کرنے کے لیے آپ کو کیا قیمتیں ادا کرنی پڑیں یا چیزیں چھوڑنی پڑیں گی۔

آپ کو تلاش کریں کہ اس سے آپ کو فیصلے پر توجہ مرکوز رکھنے میں مدد ملے گی۔

How to understand teen kids I Understanding kids I Kids I Growth I Teenagers I How to

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Hey, guys welcome back to Consultant Mindset. Our channel Consultant Mindset aims to provide you with the best knowledge and consultancy regarding your daily life issues. It educates you about worldly problems and gives you a good idea to mend your ways. The consultancy on daily life problems is a significant objective of our channel Consultant mindset. Let us not waste much time and jump right into the topic of our today’s video. This video will give you some recommendations for bonding with your teenage kids. As a child grows they go through various psychological and physiological changes. Due to puberty, they cannot understand their body changes. And they tend to need their parents to overcome those revolutions. I will tell you everything about it. But before that do not forget to like, share and subscribe to our channel Consultant Mindset. Let us get straight into the video 

Communicate your Expectations Clearly 

In order to develop proper connections with your kids, it is necessary to communicate with them. In every relationship, communication plays a key role in the maintenance of relations. If there is miscommunication or lack of communication then it eventually breaks a relationship and spoils it. It is obligatory for parents to let their kids know what they actually expect from them. Parents should be able to communicate well with their kids. When a child is in the developmental stage, he/she goes through various hormonal changes. In the case of males, they go through changes in the level of testosterone. An increased level of testosterone can result in anger issues and emotional disturbances. So they should be handled with care and cautiousness. If you tell the kids your expectations beforehand then they are more likely to accept them and agree to them. A parent should communicate with them in a polite manner. For example, a parent should avoid saying “wash the dishes”. It is just like ordering them around. Do it like this instead: “ can you wash the dishes?” there are more chances that they will accept what you are trying to say. 

Respect their privacy 

As a child in the developmental stages, there are lots of bodily changes occurring through time. We should give them enough time to recognize their physiological and psychological changes. The most important factor which is required by a teenager is independence and freedom. We should trust them enough to give them independence. They should have the freedom to go anywhere they want. But in addition to that, they should have the responsibility to inform their parents before going anywhere. In this way, the healthy bond between parents and kids remains intact. If a kid asks for some space then go ahead and give them that. Every person needs a personal space to nourish their character better. A parent should not take this as a personal attack when a child asks for some space. But parents should take care of their personal feelings themselves. When a kid is a teen some parents often force them to do the styling with the parents’ choice. However, a teenager should be given proper freedom to style themselves according to the way they want.

Accepting their Social Needs 

The majority of parents do not allow their kids to go to their friends’ houses. They do not even allow them to go to any other outside places with their friends. They place restrictions on them. That results in conflicts between parents and kids. Parents should allow their kids to go wherever they want to go. Going to a skating park, or joining a sports team is the need of their body. Parents should encourage them to go play outside. It not only enhances their social skills but also makes parents and kids good friends with each other. In addition, parents can maintain closeness with their kids by spending quality time with them. By eating dinner with them or by watching a movie with them. Playing board games, and making crafts with them is another way of developing bonds with kids. Parents should ask the names of the kids their children are being friends with. In this way, the children trust their parents even more. 

In concluding my whole discussion I must say parents should take steps to develop better relations with their kids. As kids grow the bond between kids and parents starts to change. Because the kids start to become adults. Giving them independence, privacy and space are integral in avoiding conflicts. Hope you guys enjoyed the video. Don’t forget to give a thumbs up. bye-bye