Category: Motivational

Do Dreams impact on our life

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Did dream impact on life. Yesterday I saw a dream, I saw similar type of dreams, couples of time.

A lot of cats attacking me. And I am fighting with them.

Do dreams have impact on our life. I think, it is reflection of what we think all the day, or it is our subconscious mind. It reflects our fear. And interestingly our dream comes in deep sleep.

Life is full of stress. When I start tracking my sleep. I found, that most of the time my sleep is normal.

It varies between 5 to 9 hours. Some time it is less than 4 hours or even 3 hours per night.

Less sleep is result of stress or result of our fast place night life.

It was deep sleep. In the morning, I feel little discomfort feeling still sleepy. Ramdan is going on. And I have fasting. Without taking Iftar. But so did not take tea, or coffee. I need good amount of nicotine.

So dream creates in our subconscious mind. It is result of thoughts most of time negative in  our mind. Why negative, most of time we are hard wire with negative thoughts. That is due to our survival instinct.

From stone age to till modern day. Danger is everywhere. Anything we do, possible result in negative results.

How we have to defend ourself in the case of worse.

Most of the time, our sub-conscious mind warn about something. When I search about a lot of cats attacking me and I am defending myself and fighting against them. It means, my mind warns about a of challenges. As I am beating them. It means, I am facing them. But problems exists.

Later I found, that I involve in many different type of works in my life. For example

I want a cooking youtube channel. I want motivational channel. And then I want a blog. And then one channel for my professional so I can stay updated and can show myself as expert in my field.

And then I have 9 to 5 job full time. And as project goes move smooth. It requires a lot of challenges as well.

Same time I want to lose weight. And Also want to learn arabic.  Then I also want to talk to all of my friends and family member.

So all these things need time and attention. According to my understanding, my subconscious mind try to tell me to focus on small subset of things to get results. Al these appears to be as cats.

So my mind told me to stay focus on a few things and deliver them in good way. Instead to make a lot of challenges. Just focus on a few.

Focus on yourself not others.

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My horoscope that if Don’t go for Errands. Errands means, Do something for someone else on behalf.

How accurate my horoscope said. Sometimes surprise myself. Most of the time, we wasted our time. Instead we focus how we need to finish our own task doing well. We start to judge and help others how they need to do things. Today happens the same. My boss present a single slide what he need to present to top management of client. I have a lot of things to do, to finish things up. But instead focusing my work  and make it better and better, I intentionally start helping him  that things should be in that way, he should improve his work and things need to change.  He never asked my opinion. I even don’t know who is target audience whom he will going to present. Neither I am responsible for what he is going to present. The only point I have in my mind, that he is going to present whole team, so I need to help him.

Then I saw my horoscope on Horosocope.com. I surprised, it is accurate, no need to consider what other do,  I have to just focus on my improvement. What best thing I had to do is, access the issues and limitation on other work and used this this input for my own work. There are two reason for that.  One is people did not like criticism. It hurts they ego and they become enemy. Even if asked, never give the opinion. Until, he or she is your best friend, where he or she understand, what you are saying is benefit for them. Even then try to avoid it.

Second. It is nice way to understand other weaknesses and instead give them feedback. You need to check, are these things in you. Improve it.

Life is continues process for learning. We can not help people, until they realize by themselves, what need to improve and how to improve. Our only duty to improve ourself. If 1 percent daily. Learn and Improve.

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I was standing in office. A person who is acting solution architect. Purpose us “how to conduct session in right way”. And why it is important to do things in this way. My another fallow colleague is little aggressive nature. Also wanted to prove himself. He wanted to drive things by his own way. He also have THE cons and pros his approach of work. Both wanted to share their opinion And more importantly, How things need to be done and required form top management. Both tried to argue. But as result heated debate. I was silent. Just listen and Ignore.  Later one of guy was also angry with me, why I did not support him. And why not I tried to clear the situation. But I was just listen and ignore.

At that time I was concluded that both these guys have no authority to dictate us how to do work. Or We need to work in specific way.

How top management instructed us, we have to do things in their way. We have to follow. What if I do things in different but better way. Will our work is acceptable to management. They have to judge things in their own point of way, and we want to do things according to their requirement, or as compare.

These two people were just trying to share their experience. We did work in that way and it was working. And they fought to explain that things would need to done in this specific way.

But my experience said that we have to work according to requirement of management.

If you don’t have position or authority. Either you are subject matter or not. Keep silent, spoke only if asked. If you have position of power. People listen to you. In Punjabi we said

” Jadya gahar daanay othaye kaamaly we saayanaye”.

If you are nothing or low in ranking, no body listen to you. So You need to get position, try to take more responsibility, prove yourself and get position of authority. If you did not have position, If they ask you your opinion. Give them otherwise keep silent. Unfortunate sad truth is, world saw wealth and position before listen to other person. We have to follow the same.

Second point is it important to justify yourself, why to do things in specific way. My way is better than you. Why I am doing this and due to certain reason. Why we need to prove ourselves.

Third point, if some person want to share his opinion to you. Listen him with respect. But ignore him. Simple strategy is heard but not listen. There are noises in environment. But we did not listen these noises. We just listen those sound, which we want to give attention. There is no benefit to focus or give attention to everyone. Always focus on priority.

Dont waste time to share your opinion, until asked, Follow the authority, Ignore all, others just distraction. If you want people listen yourself, prove yourself and try to get position and go up to corporate ladder .. Get position and people follow you.

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Set Small goals, here is why

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If you are depress and feel loneliness. If you think you did not achieve what need to be achieve.

You are not at position where you must be. Then this video is for you.

My friends Some times big goals make us depress. We all have big dreams, but when we start achieving these dreams, It will take a lot long time. When results are not coming we quite and feel depress.

Solution to all these problem lies in setting small goals.

Start small goals, very small and start achieving them. That makes you happy, small achievements make you fullfilled and satisfied.

What about only 5 pushups per day.

what about only 30 minutes walk.

If your daily expense is 100 Rupees. Just save 5 rupees per day. What about just saving 1 rupee only. 1 dollar.

If unable to control on hunger, what about eat one fourth of Chapti less.

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If you feel sad, what about just push yourself smile for one minute. Just remember good memories for one minute.

If you feel alone, instead to waiting for some one, why not just go start talking someone else. If some one say no, try some one else.

Unable to read book. What about just 1 page per day.

unable to write. What about 1 page or one paragraph per day.

You want to learn a new language. what about read or memories just 5 words only. repeat them.

If you worry about something, what about accept it and enjoy and laugh on it. let it happens.

Most of the time worries just lies in our head, they never happen.

If you don’t have any accomplishment in day, what about making your bed in the morning.

When you start achieving these small goals in day. you start building momentum.

Remember, half empty glass is also half full.

If you think, one day you will sit and complete the task for spending full day on It , that will never happen.

Just consider two hours per day and do it with full focus.

Success lies in compound effect. It is doing something consistency with long period of time.

remember journey of thousand miles begins with single step. Taking one step at time, just one step after another, and another and will it help you reach your destination.

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Learn to live with difficulties. But stay positive.

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I was travelling to Leap event, with one young saudi guy. Young but well educated and fast learning person. He told me that what I need to improve in myself.

He told me I have problem in communication. I am good at professional communication. My communication is always to the point but it unable to make human connection.

I asked him what due mean that. He told look what you asked when you came first time in office in saudi. Instead you ask about us, you just start asking about where are you living. Where I can get residence. Where are good restaurant.

I asked him, now things are good, Or I have same problem.

He replied. no now after 3 weeks things are good. You feel happy.

What I can I told him, there are multiple mishap happens. There are some mistakes happens. I was hired for job. And due to wrong input. My nationality marked as Indian. While I have passport of Pakistan. Second, When I travel to Saudi. The place where I reached. Told me to leave todays night because during sleep I was too much snoring. So I have to search my place in the very morning.

Or after coming to office I have to search office. What to do. The whole day my first day in office was too much depressed. A new city, No place to stay.

The real problem of outsource guy is, no body owns him. Nor a client nor the partner who hired him. Both focus on their savings. Partner wants to save his money and company wants both.

I was afraid what to do next. Here I have mistake. I have to call the company owner. But as most of the time. I solved my own problem. So I started searching.

Our onsite manager called in the evening and ask me about is problem and near his home, He showed me some places cheap hotels. Where I can get space. finally I got one space for 170 Rayal per day. And he told me to stay, and search. At night 11 Pm night I took my luggage and shifted to that place.

Finally one Pakistani Taxi driver helps me to get one Room.

I was too depress those days. Now things are settle down. It took me 3 weeks to cool down.

I can do things different. I am thinking that during this period of almost 1 week. If I stay more positive. Then It will help me to create more positive impression on my colleagues and client.

I am not blaming for anything. I am glade, I took responsibility and problem is solved. But other hand, If I stay positive in that situation, than believe that I will solve this problem without any person. Than, My behavior will much better.

What I learn and it is my conclusion for sharing this post.

Always stay in any situation.

If this situation happen due to your mistake or negligence. then learn from it.

If this situation un expected. then Its Life way to teach you to solve it.

Always remind, some higher power is taking care of you.

You must always have some extra money other then your bank account, credit card or Wallet purse. So in case of any problem you have.

So my friend this is my todays post. Regarding. Live and enjoy life with difficulties. There is always better solution for any problem. Believe in yourself.

Stress is good or bad.

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Stress is good or bad, what you think. I think both. There is common saying. Excess of everything is bad. So overdose create problem.

Why Stress is good. Stress means caring. You are taking care of something. That will happen or require to happen. You put efforts and now result will come. or you take stress that I have to do something with care. If I am unable to do things what will happen. If I deliver something, It will properly deliver it.

But same time it will become bad if it is become habit. We start to busy as habit. For example overstress boiled our blood, problem of high blood pressure and heart attack. All these things result of taking stress.

Best way to take only tension of those things which we can control or which we can not control.

What other thinks about us, that is beyond our control. Why we stress.

but what we can improve, that need stress. Things we do with care, that need stress.

If we want to control stress. We need to focus on what we are thinking. Thought trigger stress. We can not control thought but we forcefully.

جذبات پر کنٹرول Rain میتھڈ سے

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ہماری زندگی ہمارے جذبات سے بنتی ہے ، جذبات خیالات کے نتائج ہیں۔ کبھی کبھی ہمارے منفی جذبات  ہمیں تباہ کر دتے ہیں ۔ ان منفی جذبات پر قابو پا کر ہم اپنی  زندگی بہتر کر سکتے ہیں ۔ اپنے رویے کو درست کرنے کے لیے ہمیں جذبات پر  کام کرنا پرے گا  ہوگا۔ سوچ کی اصل وجہ تک پہنچنا ہو گا  جو ان جذبات  کو 

ٹرگر کرتی ہیں 

اس کے لیے ایک میتھڈ ہے RAIN 

Recorganize 

Accept 

Identify 

non Identity 

پہلے سٹیپ میں ہم کو ریکورگنزئے کرنا پرے گا کے واقع ہی پرابلم ہے .

دوسرے سٹیپ پر ہم کو اککپٹ یا قبول کرنا پرے گا کے ہم کو یا مسلہ ہے جب تک ہم قبول نہی کر لیتے کے مسلہ ہم نے ہی ٹھیک کرنا ہے ہم اپنا تجزیہ نہی کر سکے گئے 

تھرڈ سٹیپ میں اپ کو وجہ تلاش کرنا پرے گی اسہ کیوں ہے ہر بات کی تہے میں بھی ایک بات ہوتی ھے . بچپن میں جانا پرے گا پرنی یادیں یا کچھ برا ہوا اپ کے ساتھ . کوئی برتاؤ یا کچھ ناکامی 

یہ سب جب پتا لاگانا پرے گا تاب ہی آپ حال نکل سکین گے.یہ معلوم کر لینا ہی مسلہ کا حل ہے . نیکسٹ ٹائم جب کچھ ٹرگر ہو گا تو اپ اپنے emotions پر قابو پا سکیں گے 

لسٹ سٹیپ ہے non identity یا emotions اپ کے ذات کا کچھ حصہ ہییں لکین تام حصہ نہی . اپ اپ ہے ہیں آپ ان پر کنٹرول کر سکتے ہیں . یہ آپ ک نہی ہیں .راب نے آپ کو ان احسات سے بڑا بنایا ہے . یہ آپ کے تابے ہیں .

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اگر آپ افسردہ ہیں تو آپ ماضی میں رہ رہے ہیں

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اگر آپ افسردہ ہیں تو آپ ماضی میں رہ رہے ہیں۔

“اگر آپ افسردہ ہیں تو آپ ماضی میں رہ رہے ہیں۔
اگر آپ فکر مند ہیں تو آپ مستقبل میں رہ رہے ہیں۔
اگر آپ سکون میں ہیں تو آپ حال میں رہ رہے ہیں۔

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صحیح فیصلے کیسے کریں۔

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اپنے فیصلے کی ذمہ داری لیں۔

اگر فیصلہ کر لو تو خوش رہو۔ آپ اپنا فیصلہ خود لیں گے تو کوئی افسوس نہیں ہوگا۔

دو قسم کے لوگ  ہوتے ہیں ایک ہ=وہ جو فیصلہ ساز ہوتے ہیں، اور دوسرے وہ جو مشیر ہوتے ہیں۔

ان لوگوں سے مشورہ سنیں جنہوں نے زندگی کے مخصوص شعبے میں کچھ کیا۔

جب آپ فیصلہ لیں تو درج ذیل نکات پر توجہ دیں۔

 آپ کس حال میں ہیں ۔

آپ کے فیصلے کے نتیجے میں آپ کیا چاہتے ہیں یا تبدیل کرنا چاہتے ہیں۔

نتائج کے طور پر آپ کو کیا فائدہ ہوا؟

نتائج حاصل کرنے کے لیے آپ کو کیا قیمتیں ادا کرنی پڑیں یا چیزیں چھوڑنی پڑیں گی۔

آپ کو تلاش کریں کہ اس سے آپ کو فیصلے پر توجہ مرکوز رکھنے میں مدد ملے گی۔