If you are living in Indian city of Hyderabad, than Fine biscuits are not new to you. But being a Pakistani and belongs to small city, these fine biscuits are new to me. And I like them much. I think when I was child, I eat similar to these biscuits. But those were smaller in size. In Lahore we called them bakery biscuits. These biscuits are more expensive than packet biscuits. In Pakistan, it is culture, that when some guest visited our home, we serve them with tea and biscuits. When some very special guest visited our home than, these bakery biscuits serve them.
I like these fine biscuits much. These are spiritual successor of Bakarkhani. I was thinking BakarKani was introduced British, but wikipida said, that it is mugali Bread.
In Pakistan, we used to purchase Bakarkhani from different street oven for bread “Tandoor”.
But this Haiderabadi Fine biscuits are amazing. When I visited the Shalimar Restaurant, in Hara Riyadh. Instead to feel restaurant, it feel more like a stall at some festival. Hara, most of restaurant are stall like. It feel there is carnival and it will finish one day.
When ever I visited hara, I eat these Fine biscuits.
I was facing a problem where my management didn’t understand me, but when one of my colleagues said the same thing, they understood perfectly.
To improve my communication skills, I asked the same question to a colleague who gave me three points of advice:
Speak slowly and focus on each word.
Listen with focus and remain silent until the other person finishes speaking.
Reply in short sentences and don’t go into too much detail.
Although there are many ideas out there, the key is to start applying them to see results. And finally, don’t take things too seriously as life is never perfect. Focus on improvements instead.
Hey guys welcome back to consultant mindset. I hope you guys are doing great. Today we are going to talk about personal growth. It is something that we all want to bring into our lives. We all want to establish ourselves to live a peaceful and good life. What is personal growth? It is defined as some established ways that help us to live meaningful and productive life. We can make our lifestyles better to cope with worldly problems. When you are productive, you are less likely to face decision-making problems. The personal growth term can be referred to in many contexts. It can define your personality, your character and the multiple traits that are involved in making you a good person or a bad one. Why is it important to groom your personality? Why personal growth is essential?
Personal growth has a broad spectrum. It is not restricted to one area only. It involves physical, moral and intellectual ethics. It helps you to become a better human being. When you start to realize your mistakes and your past outcomes, you eventually become a better version of yourself. People who never accept their mistakes are less likely to get anywhere in their lives.
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What developments are involved in personal growth?
We should have control of our anger. Anger leads to many destructive chaoses. A person cannot think whenever he is angry. To cool down the situation, it is better to not get violent whenever you are angry. An angry person always makes foolish mistakes and can never become better in his life. Anger is only a self-destructing tool. It not only harms others but also destroys one’s own life as well. Procrastination is one of the leading factors in receding growth. People have become lazier and sluggish. They tend to delay their work by making excuses. They just act lazy and find ways to delay their work. However, a lazy man can never do their work on time. They always find ways to procrastinate.
Personal development is your springboard to personal excellence. Ongoing, continuous, non-stop personal development assures you that there is no limit to what you can accomplish.
A responsible person is always considerate. He always considers the problems of others. And he always makes their problem-solving his priority. And he never fails to back off whenever anyone requires help from him. Being considerate is one of the integral factors that makes you a good human being. Personal growth involves how you treat others and whether you are helpful towards your mates or not. It helps you proceed personally as well as morally.
How Can We Achieve Exponential Personal Growth?
There are some ways by which you can become an exponentially grown person in every way. The first and foremost key is to keep learning always. Learning is a way that helps you add more things to life. Learning and studying not only add innovative things to your life but they also let you learn from your mistakes. It is a crucial aspect of personal development. Listening is a powerful tool that makes you considerate towards others. You come to know about other people’s opinions as well.
Volunteer Your Time
Helping others always provides you insight into new things. You can learn new experiences from other people. You can learn new skills that can help you expand your worldview. By gaining insights into new things, you become more prone to a successfully developed personality.
“Your life only gets better when you get better “
Brian Tracy
Experience new things and new places
Exploring new things always adds a novel part to your personality. It brings light to all the new areas of life. You should have a taste of every aspect of your life. Experience is the only thing that makes your life way better than before. Travelling and meeting new people around the world change your perspective and makes you encounter new things. New places instill a new personality into you. It can change your ideology of life.
Make Your Health a Priority
A healthy body has a healthy mind. If you are not taking care of your health and are being careless and irresponsible then you are less likely to get anywhere in your life. Eating junk induces junk in your mind as well. The junk does not provide you with energy and makes you feel sluggish all day. This way you won’t be having the energy to cope with worldly issues. Taking vitamins, having a night of proper sleep, doing exercise and eating healthy food are the top-notch factors to improve health.
Self Evaluation
A person who faces life problems strenuously always remains steadfast. Many people keep denying some absolute certain realities of their lives. Ask yourself such questions so you know your position.
Where do I stand in my life right now?
What is your life like now? And how do you see your life in future?
What do you want to do with your life?
These questions provide you with a trajectory by which you can focus on your life. These questions provide you with better insights by which you can develop your life in a better way.
it is in the character of growth that we should learn from both pleasant and unpleasant experiences.
In the end, the thing that matters is you should keep going and improving yourself. Never stop learning and continue to incorporate new experiences into your life.
Hope you guys enjoyed it. That’s all for today’s topic
I was talking with Analia( Project manager), she told me to go slow. If you go fast, there will be chances for mistakes. She said, I am tend to be go fast. There is no hurry.
Its easy to understand others, how they think about you. Just listen to them what they are saying. You can judge a lot about them. Its not important, how they think about you. But it important to note that how your manager thinks about you. It will reflect on your appraisal. It will reflect how management treat you.
What I assess, after conversation to my manager. She things, I can do things, I am putting efforts. But due to proving myself. I am going to complete thing early or try to meet deadlines. And overlook the review. And as result my work is comes with error.
If I look back, Similar comments I have, ” Kaam zadha karta haye per masaly bhi zadha atye haeen”. He delivery more work but same time issues are highlighted.
You know, if you go Indian Pakistani restaurant. They usually have already cooked food. But when you take order. They told you we are cooking, just wait. Some time they cook actually. But most of the time, they have already 80 percent prepared. They let you wait. Then you got food after certain amount, You think it is freshly cooked and feel satisfaction.
Most of the time, we have to work according to satisfaction of other person.
What is take away from this post.
Never agree immediately.
Sharp your neoglaciation skills.
Get reasonable time.
Complete your task with in actual time.
Revise your work.
Review your task with third person eye.
Never take feedback personally.
Based on feedback, make a check list. Built a common pattern.
This check list or pattern, will help you in future task.
Try to learn from your mistake. What will happen only happens this time, this will not repeat.
Many times in life, we unable to took decisions. Either we are not prepared, or some politics happens.
We suffer from other people decision. Or thing which we did not want happens to us. And things we want are goes to someone. And these regards, suffering and questions came into our mind. And suffering and pain associated with these memories and thoughts.
Similar to these memories also coming into my mind. On analysis, I found strange patterns.
When my mind is empty, these memories haunt me.
These memories haunt me and remind me you are loser. Sometime these occurs when I was extremely busy and under work pressure. And remind me, I lost once. And this will goes in same way. And I used this in my favor, I lost once, but I did not let it happen today.
Sometimes I feel, I love these memories. Because I am trying to justify that due to that reason I took some decisions.
Sometime I feel, I love these memories, because it make me to feel miserable. And miserable the condition which helps me to provide love and pity for myself. I need love and care for me.
Actually I love these feelings and memories. And help me to keep busy.
But now I realize that I am no more need these feeling, guilt and sufferings.
It actually keep me busy. It like Sudhu. He used to drink Bangh and drugs to keep his mind silent. Because when these memories are come back, these will encourage to do something and improve.
I can use these times for better usage. I need to clear my mind. To use for better thoughts and improvements.
To occupy I used three strategy.
Stop resist, there is rule, whatever you resist, persist. If these memories comes in my mind. I stop resisting them. Let it come. Its natural.
Stop feeling for self. Feeling sorry for myself, no more serving me. Accept it and let it go.
I start writing my goals, and like Daymond John I start reminding me these goals, whenever these memories and feeling starts to emerge. I forcefully start thinking about my goals.
My friends, these memories and feelings are part of us, not all of us, we are above them. We cannot get rid of these memories, but we can avoid suffering.
Remember “Pain is inevitable. Suffering is optional”.
What happen to us, we can not change it, but still suffering from us is not us. Best way to accept it, stop resist it and start focusing on new goals.
⁶, location and sometimes financial insecurity doesn’t let us achieve our goals. There are always ⁶666⁷66666666666666 way of your passion and . And the exponential thing is to keep on going and ⁶666⁶⁷6666666666666⁶ those dreams regardless of any obstacle you may face in between these phases of difficulties. Everyone has their dreams which they want to achieve in life. But not everyone strives for their dreams. Everyone needs help to achieve their dreams. Many people do not go for their dreams because they are scared of the outcomes. They always feel themselves not capable enough to achieve goals in their lives. Dreams are often fulfilled when you strive for them with full enthusiasm and determination.
How can we pursue our dreams?
First off first it is necessary to have a dream. Some people are directionless in their lives. They don’t have a trajectory to follow. They just go with the flow and they won’t even try to reach that certain point. Being afraid of the outcome becomes the biggest hurdle in the achievement of your goals. We never get this fact that life is all about challenges and we have to go through them every single day. People who have an easier life never grow. They are mostly stagnant at one point in their lives. To go forward it is necessary to face hurdles and obstacles in life. Why won’t you try challenging yourself? Whenever you challenge yourself to achieve something you become more prone to attain your goals. Things become interesting whenever you try to take them as a challenge. There is a famous saying that “ every journey begins with a single step” it is necessary to take a step. It is quite important to jump into the crowd. How can you predict the outcome when you have never even jumped into the race? Putting yourself into that position is necessary to realise the importance of winning the race. Life is not fun until you face some challenges and hurdles. In this era, only those people are winners who have faced hardships and hurdles. They have emerged as the strongest human beings. To fulfill your dreams you have to take a step towards the journey.
How can we fulfil our dreams?
In any estimation of your life, believing in yourself always comes first.
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Believe in yourself
Believing in yourself is one heck of a task. All of the challenges and hardships we face in our lives have to be handled with proper care. This is the bitter reality of this world that we have to face things by ourselves. None will come to save us in our hardships. We have to encounter our problems. And facing these problems will make us even more formidable and steadfast. Many people tend not to believe in themselves. They think that they cannot achieve anything in their life. Why do they think like that? It is just because they have low self-esteem and self-confidence. They think they do not have the potential to succeed in life. They just envy other people and their successes. If you are still unaware of your dreams, start making ones. Ask yourself this question. What do I want in my life?
Make Sacrifices
For long-term happiness and contentment, we have to make the hardest choices. We have to do sacrifices to attain our goals and dreams. Our sacrifices and hardest choices act as a fuel to our success. They ignite our passion to achieve our goals. You have to give up your family time, your spare time, and quality time with friends as well. To achieve long-term happiness, you have to struggle for such things.
Never Let Fear Get in Your Way
When you take the difficult pathway, you may feel scared and lonely at first. But after going through trials and tribulations a person becomes consistent enough to face the hardships. Fear of taking risks, and fear of failing things emerge as hurdles in the pathway of being a warrior and a fighter. For achieving dreams, it is necessary to become a fighter. Fighting your fears is important in achieving your dreams. Surround yourself with those people who always make you feel motivated and encouraged. Such people are real gems to ever exist in someone’s life. Such people stand with you in your hour of need. They won’t leave your side even when you are falling apart. So it is a blessing to have such masses in your life.
Bring Positivity to Your Life
Always speak positively about your dreams. This will release the sense of contentment in your brain that you should speak positively about your things. By speaking positively about your dreams, you indirectly motivate yourself to achieve your goals. The biggest motivation for you comes from within yourself. You are your biggest supporter. One should stay always motivated and courageous about his goals and dreams.
That’s all for today’s blog. Hope you guys enjoyed it.
مجھے اپنے ایک آفس کے ساتھی کی طرف سے تنقید کا سامنا تھا ۔ اس کی ساکھ پہلے ہی متاثر ہے۔
میں نے اس کے بارے میں جو کچھ سنا، اسے سب سے برا پایا ۔ کبھی کبھی میں سوچتا ہوں، حالات ہمیں تشکیل دیتے ہیں۔ لیکن کبھی کبھی، میں سوچتا ہوں کہ ان حالات کا جس طرح ہم جواب دیتے ہین وھ ہمیں تشکیل دتا ہے ۔
وہ ان لوگوں میں سے ہے، جو اوپر جانے کے لیے دوسروں کو کچلنے کی کوشش کرتے ہیں ۔
اس نے میرے کام میں مسئل کو بے نقاب کیا۔ تنقید کی اور غیر ضروری اور نادان تبصرے کیہ ۔ اس نے میرے کام کو انتظامیہ کے سامنے بے نقاب کیا۔ مجھے ان تمام چیلنجز کا سامنا کرنا پڑا ۔ ان تمام مسائل کو ٹھیک کرنا ۔ میرے لیے اپنی غلطی تسلیم کرنا واقعی مشکل تھا ، کیونکہ وہ جونیئر ہے اور میں سینئر ہوں۔ میں درد کو سنجیدگی سے محسوس کیا۔
مجھے وہ سب خامیاں مل گئیں جن کا ذکر اس نے مجھے تباہ کرنے کے لیے کیا تھا۔ یا میری پوزیشن خراب کرنے کے لیہ ۔ میں نے محسوس کیا کہ اس نے جن چیزوں کا ذکر کیا ہے وہ 60 فیصد درست ہیں۔
میں نے اپنی کوششیں لگائیں اور تمام نکاتی چیزوں کا احاطہ کیا۔
مجھے احساس ہوا کہ مجھے پہلے اپنے گھر کو صاف کرنے کی ضرورت ہے۔ مجھے اپنے کام کو بہتر بنانے یا صاف کرنے کے لیے مزید کام کرنے کی ضرورت ہے۔
دوسرا، میں نے محسوس کیا کہ میں نے جو کوششیں کی ہیں وہ صرف کام مکمل کے لیے ہیں۔ نظر ثانی اور دوبارہ جانچ کے لیے نہیں۔ مجھے اضافی وقت لینا ہے۔ یا تو مجھے وقت دوبارہ حاصل کرنا ہے، کسی طریقے سے یا تخمینہ لگا کر۔ اور مقررہ وقت پر کام مکمل کریں۔
آخر کار میں نے پایا، میرے کام میں تنظیم کی کمی ہے۔
ایک کتاب ے on Managing Oneself ” پیٹر ڈوکر نے کہا کہ تمام مشہور افراد یا وہ لوگ جو تاریخ میں اثر انداز ہوتے ہیں ایک چیز مشترک ہے وہ یہ ہے کہ وہ خود کو سنبھالتے ہیں۔
اس جملے کی میری سمجھ کے مطابق، جب کوئی اپنے آپ کو(Manage ) سنبھال سکتا ہے۔ وہ دوسروں کا انتظام کرلے گا ۔ مجھے خود کو سنبھالنے پر کام کرنے کی ضرورت ہے۔
اس لیے میں اپنی گندگی کو صاف کرنے کے لیے پہلے ہفتے میں سب کو مرحلہ وار تقسیم کرتا ہوں۔ میں کیا کر رہا ہوں، میرا کمرہ کیسا ہے، میں کیسے خرچ کر رہا ہوں، کیا پڑھ رہا ہوں، کون سا ذاتی کام مکمل ہو رہا ہے۔ مجھے کن چیزوں کی ضرورت ہے، کن چیزوں کی مجھے ضرورت نہیں ہے۔ مجھے ایک فہرست بنانا ہے اور انہیں منظم کرنا ہے۔
دوسرا ہفتہ۔ میں دیکھوں گا، مجھے کیا چاہیے، مجھے کیا بہتر کرنے کی ضرورت ہے۔ میں نے کیا پھینکنا ہے، جس نے مجھے اچھی طرح سے خدمت نہیں کی.
مطلب جب میں بہتری کے لیے کام کرنا شروع کرتا ہوں۔
اور تیسرے ہفتے سے۔ اپنے کام پر پوری توجہ دوں گا ، جبکہ دوسروں کے کاموں پر نظر رکھیں۔
یاد رکھیں، جب میں اپنے ساتھی کے کام کو چیک کرتا ہوں جس نے میری غلطیوں کو اجاگر کرکے میری ساکھ کو تباہ کیا۔ مجھ سے زیادہ غلطیاں ہیں۔ میں انہیں بے نقاب کر سکتا ہوں ۔ لیکن فائدہ کیا ہے. اگر، وہ ان چیزوں میں بہتری لاتا ہے۔ یہ میرے لئے مزید مقابلہ پیدا کرتا ہے۔ اس لیے میں اس کے عیبوں کو نظر انداز کرتا ہوں۔ اسے لگتا ہے کہ اس کا کام کامل ہے۔ لیکن ہڈ کے نیچے اس نے زیادہ نہیں سیکھا. اس کے عیب نکالنا میری ذمہ داری نہیں، مجھے اپنے کام پر کام کرنا ہے۔
اس پوسٹ کے لیے میرا پیغام ہے،
اپنی غلطی سے سیکھو.
ہمیشہ بہتری کی ضرورت ہے۔
تنقید کا سامنا کریں، اسے مثبت لیں۔ منفی کو مثبتیت میں تبدیل کریں۔ اسے قدم قدم بنائیں۔ بہتے
پہلے اپنی گندگی صاف کرو۔ پھر دوسرے کا گند دکھیں ہے۔
اگر آپ کو دوسروں میں عیب نظر آتا ہے تو پہلے آپ کو چیک کریں۔ اگر مل جائے تو ان کو آپ میں ٹھیک کر دیں۔
اگر آپ خود کو سنبھال لیں۔ پھر یقینی طور پر آپ دوسروں کا انتظام کرسکتیں ہیں۔
تنقید سے پرہیز کریں، لڑائی کے لیے نہیں، کیونکہ اگر وہ بہتر ہوتا ہے تو آپ اس کی مدد کر رہے ہیں۔
I am facing criticism, from one of my follow colleague. His repute is already suffered.
What I heard about him, found him worst. Sometimes I think, circumstance shapes us. But sometimes, I think I response to these circumstances shapes us.
He is one of those person, who tries to crush others in way to go up.
He expose my work. Make criticize and unnecessary and immature comments. He expose my work in front of management. I face all those challenges. Fixes all those issues. It is really tough for me to accept my fault, because he is junior and I am senior. I seriously feel the pain.
I found all those things he mentioned for sake of destroying me. Or make my position worst. Actually helps me to grow. I found that 60 percent things he mentioned are right. 40 percent he mentioned were not correct.
I put my efforts and cover all pointed things.
I realize, that I need to clean my home first. I need to do more work to improve or clean my work.
Second, I found that I estimate efforts I given are just for work. Not for revision and recheck. I have to take extra time. Either I have to regain time, some way or by adding estimation. And complete task with in due time and then.
Finally I found, there is lack of organization in my work.
In managing oneself Peter Docker said that all famous persons or those people who impact in history has one thing is common that is they manage themselves.
As per my understanding of this sentence, when someone able to manage himself. He will manage others. I need to work on manage myself.
So I divide all in steps, first week to clean my mess. What I am doing, how is my room, How I am spending, what I am reading, what personal task are in complete. What things I need, what things I don’t need. I have to make a list and organize them.
Second week. I will see, what I need, what I need to improve. What I have to throw, which did not serve me well.
Mean while I start working to improve.
And from third week. Full focus on my work, while keep eye on others person tasks.
Remember, when I check my colleague work who destroyed my repute by highlighting my mistakes. Has more mistakes then me. I can expose them and that make a me feel good. But what is benefit. What if, he improves on those things. That creates more competition for me. So I ignore his faults. It feels his work is perfect. But under the hood he did not learn much. It is not my responsibility to get the faults of mine, I have to work on mine.
My message for this post is,
learn from your mistake.
Always need for improvement.
Face the criticism, take it positive. Convert negativity into positivity. Make it stepping stone.
Clean your mess first. Then goes for other.
If you found fault in others, first check in you. If found then fix these in you fix it.
If you manage yourself. Then certainly you manage others.
Avoid criticism, not sake of fight, because if he improves, you are helping him.
– Don’t take yourself too seriously. As long as you keep a lighthearted approach, you will skate through the day quite nicely. If, however, you insist that everything be done perfectly, you will be met with a great deal of frustration and headache.”
I am thinking about these statements. How accurate it is. I just completed two pieces of documentation. The documentation is the point, where perfection is never possible. Always chance of improvement.
I read the minutes of meetings and note down everything. But it can be improved.
When we get review from different people. Everyone has a different point of view. And one point of view is from Customer itself.
Sometimes we also face bias from different teammates.
I remember when I was come out from home, I was a over protected child. I face a lot of cititisim.
I complain it to my grade mom. She told, me ” Miayan agar kuch kerna chaathayte hoo to loogo kee baateen sonye kee aadat daal loo”. Look son if you want to achieve something, make habit to ignore what other said.
It very similar to Socrates said that ” If you want to avoid criticism, do nothing and be nothing”.
But truly speaking, you need a big heart. One of my ex colleague told me brother there are three words in Urdu ” Koi baat nahee”. ( no issue ). These three words are magic pill. If someone criticize you. Use these words and ignore what they said.
One of my friend told me brother ” toom suchayte bohat hoo”. You think a lot on what other said.
I am like Sathguru motivation speaking and discussion. He said, take the life as it is. No need to go find the truth behind everything. Its just there opinion.
In famous book 4 agreements Author talk about never take anything personally. Even he said, if someone comes and put gun on your head even that time, you will not take thing personally. Its all about them. How they think and feel about them.
So remember my friends, If you want to become something. Do something. Never stop if someone spoke about it. People are very clever, they observe you closely. They study you. They understand you. If you stop due to fear of criticism. They used this fear against you and did not let you go ahead.
So built a courage to face criticism. There is always positive way to deal with criticism, smile, listen and ignore.
