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Most of the time, I run away the competition. Whenever someone challenge. I avoid the conflict. Later people make fun of me. If I look back, I found multiple reason for that. One of them, I was not satisfied with myself.

Sometimes, I found, but little bit guilt still now is. Can I fight for someone, In their life I am just options. Like spare tier in car , worthless. I have much better than this. Now I feel guilt.  Sometimes I think, let it to be, Let them happens to be.

Most of the time, I avoid the conflict due I have a fear of failing. What If I defeated. Actually, If I did not go in conflict, I already fail. And most importantly, I did not reorganize myself. I did not found that I have important position, But others things that I am competitor.

What is meaning of competition. Competition, happens between two people or more, who are trying to chase same thing or goal. What if, one of two competitor, don’t have same goal. Sometimes happens to me, things goals are not worthless.

But recently I face one of strange thing in my life. The great realization. Directly or un directly, if you did not face competition, You will ultimately lost. Everybody thinks about him or herself. And as result  if you will lose your wroth.

Second competition is good thing, It let you know your worth, helps you to improve. Even if you fail, you did not have regret.  Even if you are indirectly in competition. Then you have to understand your position. Your worth. And why that person feel competition. And If you lose that competition, what you lost in that conflict.

The only thing, understand yourself. Your worth, Your true potential. Where you should be. What’s in you from others feel competition.

No problem, just start from now. I just started. Note down all your strength. Write down all your weakness.

But start working only those weakness, that hurdle in your success. Because we can not work on all of our weakness. And even working on weakness, we can make midcore level strength. But if we work on our strength. We make it excellence.

You have to understand, why other feel competition.  What target goal, he wants to achieve. There is possible something which you ignored, but worth to compete.

My friends, people did not give path, you have to make your way in. And that is it way,

But more importantly, know what you want is more important, what other want and you are crossing their way.

Because, always chose the right battle.

Our thoughts creates stress.  From last couple of days I am facing high blood pressure. Blood pressure not alarming level. But need to focus on. So what are the reason for Blood pressure I am facing. I found I have stress.

• Creativity stress
• When I start to writing by my own. It creates pain in head.
• Expectation too much
• Fitness problem.
• Financial problems.
• Office work how to complete.
• Learning curve.
• Arabic learning challenge.

Are these problem are bigger then me or I am bigger than them.

Most of the time problems happens only when we are not organize.

If we start organize and note down all those things that bother us. Our stress level will come down.

Our mind is tool, which remind us what is important. And if we did not complete those pending task. It will start create panic. So best way is Brain dump. As David Allen said that our mind is not storing ideas.

So we have to write it down somewhere. And then set priority. And start working on them one by one.

Whenever mind start to remind. We also have some progress. And this will not create.

Second way is to understand, not everything is not our control. We can just control what we can do. What will out is not control. And what we say. Take life as it is. Its ok. Third way is god make us capable enough to meet all those challenges.

Time passes, I am getting old. We have to accept the fact that we are old.

Here in Riyadh life is different, what is different from Dubai. It feels home. Another home. A lot of Arabic speaking people.

I am trying to learn arabic, But it take time.

I meet a lot of Pakistani here, As compare to Dubai, here a lot of Pakistan. Here is language Barear.

A lot of Pakistan. I meet a most most of Pakistan.

Yesterday, I meet a old

I asked him, did you have any girl friend. He replied, I am aged, and you are also aged, its time to pray “ Allah Allah karoo”.

You are also more then 40, its time to do “Allah Allah” pray. At that time It realized, I am aged.

If look back, I have a travel long long back. But still dealing with different people.

Some times I feel I am successful. But on the other hand I feel I am failure.

Currently working for one of biggest company of software companies. as outsource person. Still facing the challenge.

Where is the problem. Problem is I am not getting organize. My opponent is extremely good in communication. He is good in speaking.

But on the other hand, He is not good in delivering things.

When you have to compete others, you have to understand others. What are their weakness and what are their strengths.

But before that, you have to understand your own weakness and strength. I feel, my weakness is communication.

Now I have to work on my strengths. I have to play on my strengths.

So whats are your strength.

Simple story telling about you.

Character : you

Plot : Un expected challenge

Plot : Un expected decision

Plot : Outcome

Moral: What result you want to share.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QUVX2AVrL90

Every one has some hidden skill or hidden talent. You have to unlock that. I read somewhere In the US, people find their inner talent and then monetize these skills.

But some times we are so negative. Due to our inner self or due to what other talk or think about us. Some times our environment is so toxic they did not let you grow. They force their though pattern on you.

In famous 4 agreements book Author Miguel Ruiz. said that we have to cure these words. who are become part of our reality. Either domestication of our environment so we can work according to their wishes. Or our inner self talk did not stand us. Our fear system triggers thread form others people on our reaction and as result we start to say some stupid and negative words to us. We can not do that.

Now question is how we find our spark. That is simple. The thing we did not get bored. Find a think you did not get bored if you spent hours hours on it.

If you start to getting bored. It means you are not built for that task.

For example I love writing. I have to built habit to write daily something. I have to improve a lot. there are chances of spelling mistakes. Grammatical mistakes. But If I am going to improve. There are chances that I can start earning from it. I can monetized my blog. Or even I can provide services to different people to write content.

Nothing built in day. But in the longer run. More then 3 years, I start to earn money from it. You have to pay the price. You have to spent time. And a lot of wait.

Most important thing just start. Some one told me what if I start youtube channel 10 years ago. That was it was less crowded. My friend. Next best time is now. Just you need to start from some where.

One more year passed. All my goals goes in vain, Achieve nothing.

Do I am total failure or I have successes.

Yes, I have some successes. I survived the job.

Find a new job before finishing the old one.

I meet a lot of new friends.

I visited home.

But I am unable to reach my full potential.

I break many rules in life. My mismanagement leads me to debit.

I explore most of Dubai and Sharjah. I made a new friends, but same time, my loneliness increased a lot.

There is a lot of black and white. Do things black and white. Our thoughts make them black and white.

Do I change, what I did in 2022. No I can’t change. But what ever I wrote in 2022. I have to face it in 2023 and beyond.

But at the end of year, I can sit, analysis my mistakes and successes. Set a new goals and start working on in it 2023.

I read some where, Plan is nothing, but planning is everything.

I think, this year, give me confidence. Make me stress free. I enjoyed my alone life. But same time, I getting more distracted from my goals.

I tried my best that I did not do bad with any one. I tried not to hurt any one.

I feel this year is not bad.

Some times we want to talk. But no common point comes out. What to do at that time. First of thing is to just talk on random topic. Talk about in other persons interest.

Its good to avoid political and religious topic. You have to talk about food and restaurants.

Listen to them. At that time, most important point is talk on what other person think or plan. Ask question. Listen to them with focus and ask question what he or she talk about.

Try to encourage other to talk.

I read about “connected the dots” theory by Steve Jobs. It simple means, we can not predict our future just day dreaming and thinking. We can only look into past and access how we face the challenges, How we deal with failures.

If you found similarity. Your future can be predict the same. Prediction is not 100 percent accurate. There is possibility you learned from your mistakes. You were not mature at that time. you vision was not bright as it was that time.

“Bulleh shah shaoo taanu milse dill no day dulaari”

Why I remember this couplet by baba bulleh shah because he mentioned, make your heart courageous.

I am facing the same problem. I am relocating to some other country and my heart is pumping. What will happens. Will be I successful . Or I will be fired. Because both these events exists in my past.

What should a person do, when there are both successes and failure in past. I got that conclusion. Check what are more. Successes then certainly you will successful. And if failure certainly you will be successful. Because it is your story. You can rewrite it. We can not alter our past, but we can alter our memories, feelings about you. You can modify your story.

We told ourselves stories about why that happen and as result I failed. Why not you change your story. That I learned from that moment, that I have to do things in different way. We can change our story.