Why you consider what others said about you.

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I was in kitchen. My resign is accepted. I was in office and I got reply on email. Deliver these things and leave. He did not want to meet me. What ever is the reason. It is normal case.

When you did not have work for some one. Its better to layoff. I am facing the same problem from last one year. Any how its better for me.

In book winning Jack Welch said that, when need of a person completed. Or services for a person is not required. Fired him. Its good for him. both in terms of weight on companies expense and for him also. He will go outside and will find something good and will grow. In USA and European market they use better term Lay off.

I was in kitchen. Two sweet ladies form admin and HR standing in kitchen. HR lady make fun of me. Boss was so busy he did not consider to meet him. And then second lady spoke. Let him go, later we discuss and talk on this asshole. I enjoyed their conversation. I felt sad about those ladies and also for my self.

But why I considering their discussion. The Four agreement book Ruiz Don Miguel said, Second Agreement nothing take personal.

Its all about them. What they think of me. And they make fun of their organization not about me. They are making fun of owner of company not about me.

My friends. Every thing that hurts you has two solution. If you can change it do it. If you can not change it, just accept it.

Many times we hurt because our mind did not accept that fact. And when ever we start to resist it it starts to hurt us. So best way is accept it and stop resist it. It will pass.

What will happens, let it happens.

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I read about “connected the dots” theory by Steve Jobs. It simple means, we can not predict our future just day dreaming and thinking. We can only look into past and access how we face the challenges, How we deal with failures.

If you found similarity. Your future can be predict the same. Prediction is not 100 percent accurate. There is possibility you learned from your mistakes. You were not mature at that time. you vision was not bright as it was that time.

“Bulleh shah shaoo taanu milse dill no day dulaari”

Why I remember this couplet by baba bulleh shah because he mentioned, make your heart courageous.

I am facing the same problem. I am relocating to some other country and my heart is pumping. What will happens. Will be I successful . Or I will be fired. Because both these events exists in my past.

What should a person do, when there are both successes and failure in past. I got that conclusion. Check what are more. Successes then certainly you will successful. And if failure certainly you will be successful. Because it is your story. You can rewrite it. We can not alter our past, but we can alter our memories, feelings about you. You can modify your story.

We told ourselves stories about why that happen and as result I failed. Why not you change your story. That I learned from that moment, that I have to do things in different way. We can change our story.

What is easy and what tough

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Easy is what we want to do. And tough is which we did not want to do.

Some times things really tough. Usually we have to learn new things. And learning curve require time. We have to spent time.

As our experience grow. Management want to do things much faster. They expect the same thing as we do day to day task.

And we require less time but huge time to learn and develop new things. For this its important to set the expectation.

I think its more important, if you work is delayed, it comes to your expertise. When you scenario resource, expectation usually increased.

It take more easy for young resource to take more time then experienced resource. So What ever things feel easy or tough. You need to communicate properly.

Told, I am new in this thing. It will take extra time.

How to Study When You Are Not Motivated I Motivation I Study I Study Without Motivation

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Welcome everyone to the Consultant Mindset. If you guys are coming through this video, you must have been finding it challenging to do your task. You must have been facing difficulty in completing your assignments or projects. It is common for the human mind to face such issues as we become mentally tired sometimes and don’t feel like doing anything. I always feel tired and dull while doing my work. I have always faced zero motivation levels while doing my work. There are short-term fixes and long term fixes. The long-term fixes include building strong self-esteem, boosting your morale, and developing self-discipline techniques. But we are not going to talk about them. Let us jump right to the short-term fixes that will make you complete your task. What are short-term fixes? How are these short-term fixes going to help?  

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Go for a walk

There are four major steps that are needed to be followed. The first step is to go for a walk. Everyone must be aware of it. But how is it going to help you? Whenever you feel demotivated and feel like giving up. It is that time you switch your physiology and go for a walk. you have loads of work and you don’t feel like leaving your desk. You don’t feel like working; you don’t feel like leaving the workspace as well. I have applied this technique in my real life as well so trust this process. Whenever I feel like giving up, I go for a walk and refresh my brain. I can give you some scientific explanation for it. An experiment conducted in 2007 revealed that the treadmill walk for about 30-35 minutes boosted cognitive flexibility up to 70%. And according to another study it was found out that sunlight which is a major and natural source of vitamin D helps you in overcoming the symptoms of fatigue. There is another Japanese concept called Shinrin Yoku which literally means “forest bathing”. It means interacting with nature which helps you boost your motivation and makes you feel lively and refreshed. You can even do some exercise while going outside for a walk. You can play basketball, tennis, and badminton to freshen your mind.

Decide a topic to work on

The next step is to decide on a topic to work on. It illustrates that you should commit to one task instead of jumping to easier ones whenever you feel the current task is difficult. If you feel it is difficult to stick to one task then you can write it down anywhere in the notebook. It not only helps you stay focused but also doesn’t let you forget your task. The first thing is to get yourself committed to one task. No matter how difficult it turns out to be. Leaving things in between is the thing due to which people lag behind. Firstly make your head clear and clear up all the tangled thoughts and commit to one task. And then start working on it. Focus on it and make yourself remain in that box until you complete the task.

Organise your workspace 

Clearing the clutter and organizing the workspaces is as important as completing the task. Our moms have been scolding us well for keeping things in place. But do we listen to them? I guess if we had been listening to them, they would not have been scolding us for years. Keeping things in place and organizing your workspace boosts your morale and helps you remain focused and attentive. Continuously watching things on your desk being unorganized ultimately lowers your working efficiency. When you have an organized desk you will require less time to accomplish your task. You are unable to locate the important items? You can find them easily when you have your desk organized. Your thoughts will be organized at your desk.It helps you in time management as well. Requires less time than usual. Lets you focus on the important tasks so you don’t miss them out. The renowned American chef Anthony Bourdain writes in his book “ Kitchen confidential” that his fellow mates used to do work in a dirty environment. One day his head chef went to him and placed his hand on the cutting board dirty with bread crumbs and then placed it on his face. He told him “that’s how your brain looks”.

Low key efforts 

Everyone is scared of putting in an effort. What is the easiest way to do a difficult task? Shall I tell you a secret? The best way to do a difficult task is to put a lowkey effort into it. For example, if I talk about myself then while writing the script I will not beat myself up if I am unable to find any funny comments or references. I will just go with the flow and will write whatever is in my mind. And then once I come into my zone and creative form I will just go back and add up the missing things. You feel resistance to doing difficult tasks often. You can just deal with them by putting low-key efforts into it. Thanks, everyone for bearing with us. Do subscribe for more interesting articles.

How to Study Like A Genius I Simple Ways to Learn If You Are Not A Genius I Consultant Mindset

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Hey, guys, welcome to the consultant mindset. Today we will learn about some new tricks that will help you learn faster even if you are not a genius. Many people find it harder to learn than to understand. Understanding is something related to learning. You are capable of learning only when you have understood the assignment. Suppose you had to prepare a presentation for your school. And you had to cram everything written in the assignment for the presentation. You can do hard work and can learn everything but the next day you feel like fading everything from your brain. Why does that happen? After all such night pullers, you managed to prepare it. And now it’s all vanishing. Why’s it happening? The information is not stored in the long-term memory of the brain. And the short-term memory of the brain is not capable of having such a long span. 

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Sleep sandwich technique

The first and foremost trick is to practise a sleep sandwich technique. Continuously studying without any breaks will not help you. They will just assist you in draining your energy and enthusiasm. It is advised to follow this technique as it will help you retain and learn faster. The sleep sandwich technique majorly comprises the study and sleep with sleep sandwiched between them. It is study+sleep+study. Research has also revealed that a short amount of sleep within study sessions has proved to be effective in learning faster. It activates major parts of the brain and makes you feel motivated. And helps you learn faster eventually. When you are not studying and having a sound sleep your brain is involved in storing all the info in long-term memory. Good sleep is highly recommended before the exam as it helps you retain your knowledge. In pulling an all-nighter you tend to forget the things as quickly as you learn them. So take a sound sleep and let your brain work.

Chewing gum

The second trick is chewing gum. Chewing gum is found to have been involved in stimulating various areas of our brain. It helps a lot in alleviating anxiety and stress conditions. It helps to deal with situations without being less productive. In 2011 a social experiment was conducted on people. The people were made to do work in a stressed and anxious environment. The people who were chewing gum remained calm and handled the situation efficiently. Regardless of an anxious atmosphere they kept calm and remained productive. While those who were not chewing gums could not survive a chance. Studies have also shown that people who chew gum tend to be more attentive and focused in their work. It also increases their attention span. So whenever you sit to work just keep a pack of chewing gum in your pocket.

Hydration of the body

Are you drinking enough water? Because now studies have revealed that hydrating a body helps your brain work faster and more productively. It was explained by social experiments done on the students. The students who took a few sips of water during the exam tend to produce 10% more results than those who didn’t drink water during the exam. Water plays a major role in focusing and physical endurance. It helps boost the cognitive functions of the body. So if you want to feel enthusiastic while learning something new don’t forget to hydrate your body.

Music; A stress reliever 

Another bubbly trick is listening to music. Are you a music lover? If you are then it is going to help you a lot in learning faster. Some people have sworn that music has really helped them to learn faster. Music is known to be a stress reliever and an anxiety remover. So it is quite evident that it helps to reduce anxiety and makes you focus on things. According to some research, it is stated that some people cannot even study without music. It makes your brain receptive to new pieces of information. Try listening to new music every day.

Study in chunks 

We often study all our syllabi in one go. However, it is not the right method. Our brain is not designed this way to retain a lot of information in one go. It is advised to learn in pieces. As it keeps up your morale and helps you remain motivated. Study while taking short breaks. Doing something fun in between study sessions assists the fast learning process. 

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The idea of Intension and its implementation results massive success

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I was listening one video form Operah Winfrey. She talk about one idea or implementation of one idea “Intension” helps her to reach the glory.

Power of intension is law of cause and effect. What ever we do or creates comes back to you in some way. That is ancient law of Karma.

Good deed result good deed. Bad Deed results in bad deed. “Bhalaye kaa bahalay, Buray kaa buraah”.

She talk about she did a lot of things in the name of happy others. She agree on things which she did not want or like where she had to say no.

But she wanted to happy every one. After reading one book by Gary Zukav “ Seat for soul”. She realize the idea of Intention. Why you do anything. It is one step that what you want.

When you know what you want. And then you have to learn the idea why you need it. What are real reason behind. What you want to achieve. Or what goes around comes around.

It means. What ever you do. Stop doing it. And if you want to do it. You have clear understanding what result you expect as result. What thing you create as cause, will result in effect.

So begin with end in mind.

She said, when she started to implement in her life. Specially in her show. that show reaches at number one show at next 25 years. So what ever segment they want to introduce in show. They clarify its intension. Why they doing it. What result they want to create.

Piyush and simple thoughts to understand life.

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I was sitting with My friend Piyush. Piyush is Simple Rajistani software developer. Gool Mol. Some times, I feel Chanakya style something on his forehead, and some Poni tail hari, with less hair on head.

I used to criticize Mullahs of Pakistan and their spread of hate. What I think, Decline of Pakistan Mullahs are responsible.

But he told me not to criticize. He told me to speaks and think only those matter that you gives you get benefit.

He speaks old hindi. Some time little obsolete language. For We use word “ Wo log Sath sath chaal raye the”. But he speaks “wo us kay saang tha”. Some time speaking simple language. But one thing is very strange. His thoughts and philosophy of life is very similar to baba bulleh shah. And that creates some doubt about origin of Baba Bulleh shah.

One day he talked about all knowledge exits inside of every man. Books, religious teaching, parents and other environment factor built layer on it and truth is hiding. You have to remove these layers and find the your true self to get answers.

Baba Bulleh shah said.

Parh parh ilm hazaar kitaabaN

kadi apne aap nu parhya nahin

Jaa jaa wardey mandar maseeti

kadi mann apne wich wareya nahin

Anven larda shaitaan de naal bandeya

kadi nafs apne naal larya nahin Aakhe

peer Bulleh Shah aasmani pharna aeN

jehra man wich wasda unhoN pharya nahin

One day when I was little worry about my next move. He told me “ Chinta Chitta hayee”. Means, Worry is like death bed. He told me some reference from Vedics. Why worry. If you can do anything then do. If can not do anything just ignore it. He told me Chinta is for God not for us. Similar reference to Guru Granth Sahib

“Naanak Chita matt karo, Chinta Tiss hee haay-ay”

Jaal main jaanta upiaan, tinnah nu be rozee dayee”

O nanak, Dont wory, worries is for God or God will worry about you.

He created life in waters, He gives them nourishment.

I feel, simple villages either from Pakistan or India. Have still same thought pattern. They can not understand complexity of ancient wisdom both Arabic and Sanikrat. They know solution of problem of most of their daily life lies with in them. I was listening one Sath Guru that, is he has knowledge of everything ? How he will be answer to every question. He replied. No he did not have knowledge of everything. He just listen to people with focus and placed himself in the situation. And think what he will do in that situation. And share his solution.

After discussion with Pisush, I understand, That Baba Bulleh shah, was simple man. Simple ideology. He just share his message of love and peace. And ignore the complexity of Sharah Shariyat.

Mullah hate him. ordinary people love him. I love baba Bulleh shah. I am unable to follow the his path. But one thing sure, I stop criticizing the religious people and their division between people. When ever people speaks on religion. I just keep silent and no reply on that matter.

Patience Patience my friend patience is name of game.

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We Pakistani are very impatience nation. We need everything urgent. And when results are not coming we become impatience.

Today I was standing in Business Bay metro station and waiting for Bus. And it was not coming. Waiting waiting and waiting. It took 15 minutes to come. I was impatient. Why It usually came with in 5 minutes. Why late. I am getting late form office. My target to reach office at 8 o clock. Office hours are flexible we have to reach before 9:30. It took almost 28 minutes to reach office from Business bay metro station to office where I am working at the time of writing this post. Then I realize that where is problem. Problem is in bus that it came late or I did not make margin of this extra time.

rumi quote came into my mind. “ When I was young, I want to change the world. Now I am wise, I want to change myself”.

What about I start my journey to office 15 minutes early. If I forget to charge my mobile. Why not have extra mobile charger in my laptop bag. What if, I make a plan one day a head.

Life never goes according to our plan. I have to add some margin in it.

Mr Jimmy Dean or If he was possible Pakistani then certainly his name would be Jimmy ul Dean once said.

“I can’t change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination.”

I read some where, “ Successful people are those who do self evaluate themselves”. And Self Evaluation is really painful. Difficult and painful to accept that fault, mistake or situation happens due to your lack of knowledge or proper handling. Only then you have to correct it. Acceptance requires patience with self.

Patience means, bear the current situation and be prepare that this situation never happen. or happen you have to handle it in better way.

Why its important to write down what’s in your mind.

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In GTD David allen said, “Your mind is for having ideas, not holding them.” It better to write down everything. what ever in comes in mind.

The problem is we forget things. Because a lot of things going a round us. Our focus changes from point to point. Different people need our attention. And what Idea comes. What important task we need to complete, we forget. So You need simple diary. Pieces of paper or some note taking app on computer. Note down everything. It will help you to remember things. later you can add more information on these noted thing. Add and remove things. Which completed, which need to complete or no need to work on.

how to plan your Week Effectively I how to Overcome Procrastination I Avoid Procrastination

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Are you tired of procrastination? Are you tired of delaying your tasks? You should try making a planned week to overcome the habit of procrastination. Most of the time people delay important tasks because of laziness and sluggishness. Planning a week helps you remain organized and managed. It helps you to remain oriented toward your tasks. Since delaying things has become extremely common so it is better to practice planning a day. When things are organized they become easy to handle. Tangled things seem difficult to handle and that’s why we often tend to delay them because from the external view they seem tangled. Because of the fear of being entangled we tend to avoid such tasks for as long as possible. 

 Procrastination can be overcome by building routines. A routine is a set of good habits that are being followed every day. We should be able to distinguish between good habits and bad habits. A habit once built remains instilled in a person’s head for a long time. For example, if a kid is used to taking a longer path to school every day. Then about after 3-4 days, he starts taking that longer path without even realizing it. Such unconscious things become imprinted and saved in the part of our brain. Some research done by MIT has shown that this finding is correct. Some advantages of planning a week are 

  • It saves your energy 
  • It clears your thoughts
  • Makes your goals clear
  • You become always prepared to handle certain situations
  • It improves your focus and attention 
  • Makes you stronger in your decisions
  • Helps you manage time 

We can start by building a routine. Do we tend to snooze our daily morning alarm? The answer to this question is yes. Most people have this habit of snoozing alarms. Instead of snoozing in the morning, alarms get up from bed and make some healthy habits of exercise, meditation, and making a healthy breakfast. These healthy habits will become slowly instilled into your brain. Realizing what you are going to achieve. Acknowledging your goals is an important part of planning a week. Acknowledge what you want to achieve. Do you want to spend more time with your loved one? Or do you want to do a specific important task?  Do you want to organize an important business meeting with colleagues? Firstly become aware of what you want to achieve. And then make a to-do list. Now the point arises that you have ten important tasks. How would you know which task has to be done first? There comes prioritisation. Prioritise your tasks. The task that is extremely important and is going to provide you with benefits shall have to be done first. Deadlines of the tasks can be taken into account as well. Once your goals become aligned it becomes easier for you to achieve them.

You must assign yourself tasks, not on the exact morning. But on the previous evening, you can wake up with a calmer head with no stress and anxiety at all. The time focus technique is needed these days. Because a human brain cannot focus on one thing for a very long time. For example, if you expect me to sit in front of a computer and work for straight four hours then I won’t be able to fulfill the task efficiently. I will be sitting in front of the computer but my thoughts would be to go outside and have some fun. This problem can be overcome by doing your tasks in short intervals. Doing a task with multiple breaks is done in no time and keeps you motivated. It simultaneously increases your efficiency for the task. Eliminating distractions while doing a task helps you do the task faster. For example, the biggest distraction these days is a mobile phone. Phones won’t let us stay focused and attentive toward our tasks. They tend to keep us distracted. With mobile phones, we cannot work properly. They tend to remove our attention. It is better to switch them off. So that you can work easily. It is advisable to make a to-do list before performing your task. Helps you keep the motivation up and makes you organised. In the end, it is important to do a reflection. It is important to acknowledge whether you have achieved your desired accomplishments or not. Are you satisfied? It is important to have the answers to these questions.