Have Strong Opinions, But Hold On To Them Loosely

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Hello friends, another simple post, many times in life we have firm opinion on something, That this way is right. We make our mind that his way is absolute right. There is no other way. It specially happens when we are working in teams. We have short amount of time and budget. And we try to force others to work in same way we work. But some times, young people challenge us. they know something different and effective then us. In that case we need to loosely hold these idea. We need to change our approach. We have to learn new things to make us more effective.

It is said that we have to unlearn old things to learn new things. Its certainly we need to strong opinion but required loosely hold approach to adopt new things to make us more effective.

living in past is like idol worship

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read the idea that Thought or living in past is like idol worship. And Living in present moment is idol breaking.

Is it right concept. Past teachers, sufi santh, baghat saints, all are respectable. But we have to follow present day saint, murshad or teacher. talk about. What is past is just idea and also future is another idea.

If we live in past, we are doing shirk. We are shirk adding something. Only reality is present moment. To living in present moment is like Towhid. Only oneness of God almighty that gives us only single moment of improvement. Shirk means multiple reality exist which actually not. Towhid oneness that is now. Don’t confuse it with Oneness of Almighty.

Living alone in Dubai, Scarify for family. Some times I started to live in Past moment. The same incident, That keep me busy.

I started worship some deities in past. Same stories again again. Later I start to realize this concept.

After reading and understanding this concept I feel that past and future is shirk it is duality. Sufi did not believe in past or future. they enforce to live in present moment. So I am follower of Towhid. not only towhid of Almighty Allah, but also towhid of represent moment. There is no other reality of present, dont confuse it with present moment. You have to learn from past. But do not live in past

When some one start to ignore you…

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Some one wants to Ignore me. I ignored them. That usually happen, when things they want is completed. Expectation meet or not meet. Our need is over. So they started to ignore.

What to do when you feel some one ignore you. They felt right, act strangely when you visit them. Or try to communicate. It means they want to ignore you.

I heard the quote. “Once you feel avoided by some one never disturb them again”.

Actually, they are not ignoring you, they are busy in their own life. And solution to that busy in yours.

It said need is blessing. It is blessing that some one needs you. they need your attention.

According Buddha, expectation is reason for suffering. detachment is solution. Take no expectation.

Give them what they want. Solve their problem. Help them in their need. And then step back.

They want ignore you or spare you, intentionally they want the same from you. Give them what they want, never disturb them again.

Living in present moment

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I was traveling to office. In RTA bus, I feel loneliness. Loneliness is absence of interest in crowd. A lot of beautiful faces, young and old. All are having hope for bright day, But I feel loneliness. That is problem of every expat. Who came to foreign country to earn money. To make the living standard of family up to the mark.

I was listen one recorded audio of Wasif ali Wasif. Some one asking loneliness comes from outside world or comes from inside.

The answer was it comes from inside. And solution was keep yourself busy. Either memories of past.

But for me, memories of past creates disheartens, guilt and pain. But it ups to use to remember the good moments of life.

My grand mother used to said “ waqat to guzarna haye miyaan, rooah ker guzaro yaa hass ker”. We have to kill the time, its up to you either be happy or be sad.

Best way to kill the time, is live in the present moment. No worry about future and no regrets for past. We can force. it

And if you have to remember only good moments of life. When bad events start to appear shut up these memories.

The memories or events did not make happy or sad, Its our story attached to these memories made us happy or sad.

That is truth that most of happy people actually sad people. They find reason to make them happy.

Most important thing is when we took decision and understand what will be the consequences. Then what why be said.

Accept the life as it is.

Most important thing what we make sad that we did not accept something, we want something different but things are not happen as our expectation. So we have to accept the life as it is. We have to accept every situation that occur.

I read one quote that is attribute to buddah and also Wasif Ali Wasif that, The different between expectation and reality is “Dukha” Suffering or pain. So remove the expectation and accept the reality.

Enjoy the present moment. That pain suffering are the noises that did not accept or live in the present moment. acceptance creates our mind calm. At that moment, we start to listen our surrounding. What people talks about, Who are they, what they are doing.

So we have to enjoy the present moment. And for this we have to accept our reality. Stop resistance. When you happy, everything seems to be happy. Start observing your environment. Enjoy the moment.

Every day we are in competition

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If you think life is fair, it does not. we make others only happy, only if we lesser then them, inferior to them. You have to listen and face a lot of criticism. You never be make happy to every one. You have to face a lot of aggression.

Life’s every moment there is competition.

I used to listen the word from my mother, “Hum muqabalah nahee ker taye”. We are not going to competition with others. We are what we are.

Some times these words are wrong.

I heard the quote from John Spence.

“If you expect the world to be fair with you because you are fair, you’re fooling yourself. That’s like expecting the lion not to eat you because you didn’t eat him.”

— John Spence

Competition is on every step of life. On every step, we have to face. competition.

But sometime we are in competition without knowing. I found many people grow due to competition. They were nothing but due to competition, they made themselves.

If you want to grow. You need competition. The competition gives you strength, teach you something. Even you competed, you failed, but you learn a lot.

But one thing always remember. Always chose right battles, right battles gives you strength and power. Competition will trained you.

embrace the gift of life

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While another reflection on Azim Jamal, one minute sufi. And also try to write.

The Azim Jamal, writes about sufi quote, “ life is precious gift and bridge to next life”. Then end of each concept he asked to write on this reflection.

For sufi death is very different meaning. It is another form of life. Something beyond our understanding. Some videos I saw in Present day Pakistan that on death of Malang, so called sufi. Or possible some resistance between what ancient folk religion and Islamic tradition. there is celebration on the death of sufi. They go with traditional music and dancing in the front of Jinaza until they buried the sufi. Because they think death is meeting with God.

Qatara mila samdar saye samadar hoo gaya.

When we drop in unlimited, we become unlimited.

Other point of view of life is precious gift and is bridge to next life. If we see ever moment is change. In ever moment has power to transform. It converts into next life. It is bridge. If we consider next life as result of something. Which is it. its mean so shall you reap. So we consider death is meaning of something finish or end. Then it means out put come out. This moment will over and something will come out of it.

Its said that guru Nanak while traveling to his spiritual journey, He was sitting outside of small settlement. A few naughty child came to know that some Gayani sadu ( Enlighten Saint) came and sitting outside the city. He brought chicken baby in his hand and behind the back. And visited to Guru Nanak and ask him, What was in his hand. He was thinking, if Guru ji replied you had alive chicken in your hand, he we would break the nick of chicken and would show him dead one. And if he told he has dead chicken in his hand. He would show alive chicken. But Guru replied in surprisingly amazing, “ You have in life in your hand. Make it or break it”.

The hidden message here is we life life in our hand, precious life. Its our responsibility to make it or break it. We have to spent it with respect to as our wants. either is absolutely what we want or we follow the gods way or saint sadhu told us. its up to you.

Life is previous only when it came with responsibility. We have take responsibility to live it fullest.

the when it brings us to another life. The result from current life. We take benefit until, we take its responsibly of life.

So this sufi concept is all about hope. What ever happen, is past, What we doing today, it will help us to transform to other life. Today is the bridge for tomorrows life. So still hope for better tomorrow if we do better good deed, focus goals. And result will come. What will be do today, it will result tomorrow, It is as simple as what we are today are result of yesterday acts.

Slow Down And watch where you are going

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In the reflection section of One minute Sufi aurther called to write your own reflection after each sufi thought.

I starting to write because I want to improve my writing skills.

In a boat rushing on a fast-running creek, it seems as if the trees on the bank are rushing by. What seems to be changing around us is rather the speed of our craft leaving this world. —Rumi

Jamal, Azim. The One-Minute Sufi: 1 . Jaico Books. Kindle Edition.

Some times, I found that time is running fast. Days, night and then week ends comes fast. We busy ourselves too much. And we forget what is important to us. The living style is too expensive. And we are struggling to much to maintain us. We spent on things which not required. We can impress others. We can survive without these things.

Rumi write this fast place life as moving fast placing boat in creek. It feels trees on the shore are moving very fast. But actually our time is passing and we are moving towards death, our departure from this world.

This boat takes us which direction, we dont know. We are just moving with boat. The fast placing boat. We need to take pause. understand were we are going. Ask right question, is this right direction ?. What we see moving around the creek? is it illusion or reality. What we are thinking and what is our actual reality. Either we are living in fantasy or we living in reality. reality check is very necessary.

Here boat is symbolic for our Circumstances. Our circumstances takes us in unknown direction. We are moving with it.

It is very similar to situation, that one person is running very fast horse. One person asked him where is going so fast. He replied. I don’t know where horse takes me, I am going there.

Time is passing, we need to control our circumstance not our circumstances control us. It is not easy. But with efforts and struggle, you can change your direction. A lot of efforts required.

life has four seasons, but three already passed

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I want to write on the topic of “life has four seasons, but three already passed”.a

When I started to write, this sufi quote attribute to Sultan Bhu came to into my mind

īmān salāmat har koī mañge ishq salāmat koī hū

jis manzal nuuñ ishq pahuñchāve īmān ḳhabar na koī hū

mañgan īmān sharmāvan ishqoñ dil nuuñ ġhairat hoī hū

ishq salāmat rakkhīñ ‘āhū’ deyāñ īmān dharoī hū

یمان سلامت ہر کوئی منگے

عشق سلامت کوئی ھُو

منگن ایمان، شرماون عشقوں،

دل نوں غیرت ہوئی ھُو

جس منزل نوں عشق پہنچائے،

ایمان خبر نہ کوئی ھُو

میرا عشق سلامت رکھیں باھوؒ،

ایمانوں دیاں دھروئی ھُو

life has four seasons, three already passed mean, life is short, only we have to live in short of period of time.

There is biblical ledgend that longest lived man was Phrophet Noah. It said that he has near thousand year long life.

On god order, angel of death came to him take his soul back. He was prophet, he understand who is visitor, When angel of Death came, he was working in fields and that hot summer day. He asked angel of death, give me a few minute let me go and sit under the shadow of tree near by. Angel of death let him go. When he sat in shadow, and angel of death reach him to take his soul. Noah said to him, I found life as short as I was it was distance between a person who standing under sun and go under the shadow of tree.

Life is really short. We have to understand our purpose of life. Every one has different purpose of his life. Its up to us what we decided, what we want to do. In Dubai, while meeting with different people. I meet the Bangladeshi person. He used the word “ I saye app ko kush milaye gee”. It will make you happy. The purpose of life is what’s make you happy.

I am not religious person, other wise I told you that purpose of life is to worship of God. Actually he was saying what he thinks and works on his purpose of life.

Three season already passed. What we have enjoy that. We can enjoy present moment only when we make peace with ourselves.

Sufi did not believe in past. Sufi did not believe in future. Past can not be change. Future is not yet coming. We have only one season. That is present moment. To enjoy present moment we have to accept what we did in past. We are result of our past action. What we did yesterday we are facing it result. Now is the only time, only season, what we are doing today, we will face its result tomorrow.

Life is like day tight compartment. like ship standing in sea, water in all side. if we open the door of past, we will fill it with sorrow, regrets and guilt of miss opportunity . If we open the door of future, we will get worries, tension and anxiety . It is last season we are living in. Just it is. Make it beautiful. Do what we like, do what makes future beautiful.

Sufi is live in present

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My life changes, when I start to live in present moment. No worry for future. No thoughts of past. Practically it is not possible. But we forcefully change our thoughts.

I read this concept in One minute sufi by Azim Jamal. In fact this post is also result of reflect on sufi concept of timelessness “ Timelessness in you”.

Time like a sand, that continues slip in our hand. Sufi did not believe in past and future. future if exists, need to erase, and future if exist it not yet come. we come from past and going towards future and path is now, Path is present. We can not change past so we ignore it, we can only learn it. What we do will effect our future.

For sufi are believe on timelessness. means no regret for past and no worries for future. Just live in present moment.

Living in present moment is timelessness.

the current moment is powerful moment, it has essence of past and future. Embrace the beauty of present moment.

This very moment is powerful, never wait for another moment. What will come, I don’t know, what passed we cant change it. let it go.

Sufi is timeless. Essence of life is now. Embrace in it.

When I start to implement this idea of living of present moment, I become more learner.

Some time senior bully and Junior challenge

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Some times senior bully juniors, That junior are not good. Some times juniors challenge seniors. Because, with passage of time juniors reach same level of knowledge and experience.

I faced both. What I learn that after 3 years of experience every one reach on same level. Junior and seniors have same level of knowledge. After 3 years of experience all become equal.

What if senior bully you. Bear it, your response creates situation. Secretly put efforts and improve yourself put efforts to prove yourself. Remember one thing, no body consider yourself equal to them. They never did it. But you respect the seniors, they give you knowledge trained you. But never take them to your head.

What to do when junior challenge you. In that case you have to claim down. Smile and ignore it. told them you trained make them your helping hand. And always focus on next target or goal. Possible we are not growing. There will be no next level. Always focus on that. I heard that professional career like a chess. If you are not prepared for next step, some one is killed you.

Remember, politics is every where. We have to handle politics. But more important is work. You have more focus on delivery.

Second be friendly, always stay to ground. Most of the time I avoid challenge. But some times I have to face the challenge.

But before getting involve in challenge. See things from all angles. What is advantage you got after getting involve in challenge. If you got more damage, avoid it. Always keep in focus what you want. Always think about next move.