Hello friends, welcome back to my channel. We all face challenges in life.

If you learn from your life experiences, never to complain about pain and sufferings comes in your adversity. Know what you want in life and never give up on failures. Not easily influence by others behavior and situations. Always response not react in any situation. Then certainly you are mentally strong person.

The Idea of mental strong people is that mental strong people focus on things they can control. While mental week people always focus on things which they can not control. For example Mental strong people always focus on how to improve their content instead focus how to increase their subscriber or views on their video or youtube channel. While mentally weak people always complain about weather, inflation rate, bad economy and treat of other people towards them.

In this video, I am going to share you some qualities of mentally strong people. Slowly you can adapt these qualities.

They move one

The number one characteristic of a mentally strong person is they move on. They know their worth and don’t feel sorry for themselves for a minute. They know that they have given their best, and if the other person is not appreciating their efforts, it’s not their loss but the loss of the other person. Moving on might seem very difficult, but for mentally strong people, it is less tiring. They prefer moving on rather than wasting time wondering why it happened and how miserable they are.

They embrace change

Change is not everyone’s favorite. People run away from change, they think that change will destroy their life. But mentally strong people embrace change. They welcome it with open arms and know that life does not remain the same. It will have to change eventually. So, they expect that life can drastically change and they must accept it. Change brings challenges and they are also prepared for it. When they know that change can be challenging, the biggest challenge seems to be little in their eyes. That’s the thing about change, it demands to be accepted and embraced. If a person is not accepting any change in their life then they are making the biggest mistake ever.

They stay happy

As humans we sometimes take stress over things we can’t control, we tend to notice certain things which will deteriorate our mental peace. Mentally strong people do not waste their emotions and feelings on things that are not under their control. They stay happy in every circumstance and ignore the things they can’t change. They accept things and situations as they are.

They are fair

The most notable characteristic of a mentally strong person is that they will be kind. They believe that the world is cruel enough and it needs kindness more than anything. They are very kind towards everyone and spread kindness everywhere. There is no evilness in them and they are extremely gentle and fair. They speak what they believe in. they don’t sugarcoat things and do what is right. You cannot shush them as they are very unafraid about things they believe in. They will only talk about the thing that they truly believe in and will shy away from sharing their thoughts in a gathering even if they are the only ones talking about it.

They take risks

Life is not always a smooth ride. There are many bumpy roads in it. People are afraid of taking risks and facing those bumps in their journey in life. But mentally strong people are afraid so they take calculated risks. They are wise and they don’t put everything they have at a stake, rather they calculate what that risk might cause them and then make a wise decision. But in most cases, people with a strong mental approach seem to take risks.

They celebrate others’ success

Jealousy is a very common feeling among humans. We don’t like people getting successful before us and don’t understand that everyone’s journey is different with their pace and fate. Mentally strong people know this, they understand that everyone is living their life and facing their hurdles, if any of us is getting more successful then it’s because it is their fate and hard work. Rather than getting jealous, they celebrate other people’s success without resetting it. They know that what’s written for them will reach them at the right time.

Outro

With efforts these qualities can be built. You just need to stay positive in any situation. learn from it. Always focus how your response will creates different impact. Think before act. Then certainly you become mentally strong person.

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Jaab saye too naye mujaye dewanah bana rakah hayee. Sung her shakhs nayee haathoon main utha rakah hayee.

Ah haw, So I have to write. Wish to daily write.

I still century old song. I listen this song when I was 8 years old. I visited the small tandoor in home town. on mud wall, old radio called “Radwaha”. Later I saw abada Parveen on PTV.

At that time I can’t understand, what its meaning. By the way I still can not understand.

I still remember one of Gulzar sahib words for Abaida, in intro of Bakhd Kabeer song

“Sufiyon ka kalam gate gaatey, abida khud sufi hoo gaeen.”

She become sufi, she herself become sufi.

Ah haye, jaab saye too nayee dewanah bana rakah hayee.

If you still can’t understand the meaning then certainly you think about one sided love. You certainly understand those.

My grand mother used to said “ Mieyan, llonn taale lakari main parro gaaye to yaa ishaq mashoqqee bhool joo gayee”. Means, when you start busy in professional life. you will forget all romantic things.

That feels right. When you start facing real life challenges, you forget everything, specially love life.

Now we talk about positive meaning of “ Tare ishaq main, hayee Tare ishaq main”.

Ishaq means, obsession with some one or some thing to achieve. These obsession is both materialistic and divine.

For example Mira Bai ishaq for Kirshana Dev. Heer ranajah. Sasi punu.

These types of Ishaq are beyond my understanding. Some said, Heer rajah also two love gods. and it is their love story. Heera from greeks and Ranjah is avitar or Krishana. Or Punjabi called Kirshan as Ranjah.

What about Ishaq means, your goal. You want something in life. Obsession of material status.

So what about that.

Taree ishaq main joo bee doobha gayaee. Us diyna kee laharoo saye darnah kaya

Your ishaq will be your goal. The target you want to achieve. Where you have to reach. You face a lot of rejection and push back.

Keep going man.

I read a quote on from Buddh “Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.”

Something similar from Baba Bulleh shah, “ Bulleh shah raab underon milya bulli pher loki” . Little contrdiction between Buddha and Bulleh shah. Buddha talks about peace. But Bulleh shah talk about god. translation is something similar Seek God inside your heart.

The idea god find insider your heart is too old as man kind himself. aham brahmasmi to Ana al Haqq.

Those things beyond my understand. What I think meaning of God live in heart is. You have to clean your heart from the dirt of hate, creed and braise. Only solution to cleanliness is forgive others as well as yourself, let it go. And accept things as its.

I feel in past time people are very simple and its understanding of very simple man. They thought That your all prayers ebadah, will not accepted by God. until you clean your heart. Cleanness of heart, purification of soul is borrowed from pre-Islamic religion of Indo Pak.

If we talk about Islamic touch then Quarn saind

The Quran praises them “Beware, Allah’s friends have no fear nor do they grieve ” (Yunus: 62).

I am not scholar. In layman understanding of this verse. friends of Allah, or Wali are clear hearted. without Grieve only those people, who either have peace with their past. Forgive and let it go what happen. Their heart is clear. No fear of future, what happen next they have care about it. These people are just living in present moment. They trust on the hukam of Allah ( Allah ‘s will). They have peace inside. This peace they have to make. either believing or clearing their heart.

So what I understand after reading this quote. I start to making peace with my past.

The idea is simple you have to let it go. Outside world is beyond our control. We have to control our inner

The heart is place where god reside.

I read a quote on from Buddh “Peace comes from within. Do not seek it without.”

Something similar from Baba Bulleh shah, “ Bulleh shah raab underon milya bulli pher loki” . Little contrdiction between Buddha and Bulleh shah. Buddha talks about peace. But Bulleh shah talk about god. translation is something similar Seek God inside your heart.

The idea god find insider your heart is too old as man kind himself. aham brahmasmi to Ana al Haqq.

Those things beyond my understand. What I think meaning of God live in heart is. You have to clean your heart from the dirt of hate, creed and braise. Only solution to cleanliness is forgive others as well as yourself, let it go. And accept things as its.

I feel in past time people are very simple and its understanding of very simple man. They thought That your all prayers ebadah, will not accepted by God. until you clean your heart. Cleanness of heart, purification of soul is borrowed from pre-Islamic religion of Indo Pak.

If we talk about Islamic touch then Quarn saind

The Quran praises them “Beware, Allah’s friends have no fear nor do they grieve ” (Yunus: 62).

I am not scholar. In layman understanding of this verse. friends of Allah, or Wali are clear hearted. without Grieve only those people, who either have peace with their past. Forgive and let it go what happen. Their heart is clear. No fear of future, what happen next they have care about it. These people are just living in present moment. They trust on the hukam of Allah ( Allah ‘s will). They have peace inside. This peace they have to make. either believing or clearing their heart.

So what I understand after reading this quote. I start to making peace with my past.

Aaj hona dedar sajan daa Aaj hona Dedar mahi daa

I saw this small clip where Indian singer Master Saleem who sung many folk songs and specially expert in singing the songs from Nusrat Fathe Ali Khan.

In that video Master Saleem sung with Rahat Fahey Ali khan. And both did Jugal Bandi. means, they song classical voices like tha thaa, theyaa. And it was amazing.

Master Saleem did not have original anything he did copy and copy better then original. While Rahat Fahtey Ali kahan has many original work and a lot of kinship from Nusrat Faht Ali Khan. I remember some old video on PTV. Where is was sitting beside Nusrate Fathey Ali Khan and just do some supporting work. After the death of Nusrat, He lost everything but he did a lot of efforts he had to put make him up to mark. I still remember on Pakistani singer abbas Rufi. He also excellent copy and generate similar voice of Nusrate Fath ali Khan. At that time, when nusrate Fath died, he is better then Raahat if both sung same song.

But now both have huge name. Rahat is legend and Abbas rufi lost in time.

Only difference is efforts. Efforts for long term goal. Effort beyond when people drop dead, they still continue effort.

In Master saleem and Rahat Faht Ali Khan jugal Bandi, Rahat Faht wins because he put more efforts and has original work. He switched the raag But Master saleem has what only he copied. He continued but beated by Rahat due to orignality and more expertise in classic singing. And he build this expertise by putting more efforts then Master saleem.

There are many stories, where you are nothing, failure but from instance you decide and start working with long term efforts you can still wins. With efforts, with dedication. You can create difference.

Even we beat Talent.

“Talent counts, effort counts twice.”

―

Angela Duckworth,

Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance

Above mention quote, Angela Duckworth. Mentioned that Talent counts, but with double efforts you can compete talent.

Grit is effort for long term goals and put efforts.

“Grit has two components: passion and perseverance.”

This only story of singer, who has heritage of His uncle but was nothing when his uncle died, he put efforts and make his space. Long term efforts. Many who have duplicate copies of Nusrat, the made their own spaces but did not go beyond exceptional.

So it is your time, For example biggest challenge I have communication. I can do work. I can put efforts to resolve problems. But what makes me excellent worker is communication. People beats me due to my this weakness.

I unable to show my work to management. Some times people think it politics. But actually, many people doing efforts to achieve or get same goal. But who wins, that one who has good communication. Who shows his work.

I have to work on my communication. But let me know what’s yours. What is your long term goal.

How you built grit.

For building grit you need. Goal. vision. What you want to achieve. What you want to change in yourself.

And then long term efforts. there is no short cuts. Efforts long term.

You can beat talent but twice efforts or more efforts then talented person doing.

Ah, who am I.

I want to become blogger, writer. So I start this blog.

I am Pakistani. By profession I am software engineer.

The only rule what I learn in life if you want to learn something, start doing it.

What Sir  Richard Branson Said in his book. “Screw it lets do it”. If you really want to do something. Dont stop due that you do know how to do that. Just start doing it. ” You will figure it out during journey how to do it.”

So I want to write something. Something that gives hope to others. Something positive.

So I start writing. I like seth godin blog from last 20 years, he writes on his blog. small posts.

So I want something similar.

So I start writing. you will find a lot of mistakes here, but you want message on each post. And that message is more important then spelling mistakes and grammatical mistakes.